Controlling control freaks

Dear Energy Lady,
I saw your post about negative people in the workplace, but I'm wondering if there's any way I can use energy to "wake up" people who seem completely unaware that they're control freaks and bully everyone.  I can't believe they really want to be jerks--most of them seem like ok people when they're not under pressure.  Any thoughts?

Signed,
PL

Dear PL,
There are three ways you can try doing this.  One involves body; one the mind; and the third, the spirit.

For the body:  Simply say to the person, "you seem really stressed today.  Is everything ok?"  Or you can try some positive psychology:  "Let's focus on the outcome we want to create, and share the responsibilities."  Or you can try, "I know you don't mean to be this way, but you're coming across a little rough.   What's bothering you?"  If that doesn't work, you can try being direct (depending on who it is--I wouldn't recommend this with your boss):  "I don't need to be controlled.  Knock it off."

For the mind: Send positive thoughts to the person.  Try, "You're always calm and focused" or "I believe in you, and all is well."  Just do it over and over and over.  The benefit of this approach is that anything you think or send to another, you do to/for yourself as well.

For the spirit:  Open your heart and fill your etheric body with the pink light of pure love.  Reach out and energetically "hug" the person who's behaving badly.

Whatever you decide to try, form an intention first.  Are you just trying to control them?  That won't do anything but perpetuate the problem for both of you.  Wake yourself up to the love you know both you and they are, and then follow your intuition and guidance from there.

Love,
EL