Dear Energy Lady:
Several of my co-workers like to exchange gossip. Very, very interesting gossip. I always feel bad after after hearing it. Not right after, mind you, but soon enough. What are your thoughts on this?
Signed,
Too Curious
Dear Curious,
One of the reasons why people are attracted to gossip is because it makes us feel powerful. What makes it "interesting" is the fact that someone else is likely to be hurt by their own actions, and we are fascinated by the pain of others because we are glad it is not us.
By judging others, we feel superior. But the sad part is that the part that feels "superior" is actually the smallest, least significant part of ourselves--our physical identity. That is only the visible part of who we truly are, and when we make it denser, we block the flow of higher, more divine energies that are trying to flow through us, as us.
Also, besides the pangs of conscience that occur after gossiping, we feel weak because we've temporarily disconnected from the truth of who we are. And who is that? The one who sees and takes joy in the beauty and good in each person, and creates our world with every thought and emotion.
So the next time you're tempted by gossip, see if you can turn to your true source of power--the one within you that want you to be happy and free of limiting judgements and behaviors. When you hear gossip again, ask, "Where is the love in this?"
Then turn away, and look for something that pleases you. Focus your attention, and your blessings, on that. The attention on what is right and good will help energy to flow through you.
Love,
The Energy Lady
Welcome to Dear Energy Lady.com, an advice column for those who want life to be easier and more fun. Based on Energetic principles, the Energy Lady is here to teach you about aligning what you think, say and do with higher vibrational resources like intuition, energy bodies, and clairaudience, as well as release energy barriers to better health, happiness and success.
Saturday, November 19, 2011
Saturday, June 25, 2011
Losing 10 pounds by having fun
Dear Energy Lady,
I am trying to lose 10 pounds, but I hate going to the gym. What's your advice to keep me going there?
Signed,
Feelin' Fat
Dear FF,
Stop trying to lose weight, and instead, USE your weight. In other words, if you have 10 extra pounds, think of it as money that you get to spend. There's 3500 calories in a pound, so you have 35,000 energy units to invest or spend however you wish. Whooo hooo! You're rich!
The trick is to use the energy on anything that makes you happy. Obviously, going to the gym isn't it. But how about chasing butterflies with a 5-year-old? Climbing up into the boughs of an old tree and seeing the world through a whole new perspective? Playing hop scotch? Turning your driveway into a world of chalk art? Taking your neighbor's dog for a walk?
Make a list of 100 things you'd LOVE to do. Then start doing them. You'll know you're using the energy in your "bank" when your clothes get loose and you start feeling freer.
Put your attention on your life and take it off your weight, because anything you pay attention to expands. When you do, you'll find yourself less likely to overeat, because you're not feeling empty or "hungry" for experience. Remember that the purpose of your body is to give you a vehicle with which you can engage with and enjoy life.
Live large and have fun!
Love,
The Energy Lady
I am trying to lose 10 pounds, but I hate going to the gym. What's your advice to keep me going there?
Signed,
Feelin' Fat
Dear FF,
Stop trying to lose weight, and instead, USE your weight. In other words, if you have 10 extra pounds, think of it as money that you get to spend. There's 3500 calories in a pound, so you have 35,000 energy units to invest or spend however you wish. Whooo hooo! You're rich!
The trick is to use the energy on anything that makes you happy. Obviously, going to the gym isn't it. But how about chasing butterflies with a 5-year-old? Climbing up into the boughs of an old tree and seeing the world through a whole new perspective? Playing hop scotch? Turning your driveway into a world of chalk art? Taking your neighbor's dog for a walk?
Make a list of 100 things you'd LOVE to do. Then start doing them. You'll know you're using the energy in your "bank" when your clothes get loose and you start feeling freer.
Put your attention on your life and take it off your weight, because anything you pay attention to expands. When you do, you'll find yourself less likely to overeat, because you're not feeling empty or "hungry" for experience. Remember that the purpose of your body is to give you a vehicle with which you can engage with and enjoy life.
Live large and have fun!
Love,
The Energy Lady
Sunday, June 19, 2011
Travel to Paris?
Dear Energy Lady,
I want to travel the world, but only have enough money for a roadtrip home. How will I ever get to see Paris?
Signed,
Need to fly
Dear Fly,
Choose the places in the world that you want to see. Create an ideal itinerary for yourself. Put each item on the itinerary in a book, and find photographs that illustrate where you want to go. Spend time every day looking at the pictures and imagining yourself in that place. If you can, try to bring it alive with all five of your senses--what would you see, hear, smell, taste and touch (or feel emotionally) when you're there?
Send yourself emails or letters talking about your trip as if it had already happened. In other words, let it live and thrive in your imagination, and have fun! Let yourself think it, feel it, enjoy it.
Then relax. You've created what you want; now let it enter your life.
You can certainly save up money while you're doing this, or simply welcome things like possible job assignments, chances to win plane tickets and/or trips, long-lost relatives appearing who send you plane tickets, etc. In other words, let the field bring you what you need to get going. As long as you don't resist, doubt or say "Oh, but all this travel is just in my mind," you'll find that what you need starts showing up.
Have fun! And please send me a postcard from Paris!
Love,
The Energy Lady
I want to travel the world, but only have enough money for a roadtrip home. How will I ever get to see Paris?
Signed,
Need to fly
Dear Fly,
Choose the places in the world that you want to see. Create an ideal itinerary for yourself. Put each item on the itinerary in a book, and find photographs that illustrate where you want to go. Spend time every day looking at the pictures and imagining yourself in that place. If you can, try to bring it alive with all five of your senses--what would you see, hear, smell, taste and touch (or feel emotionally) when you're there?
Send yourself emails or letters talking about your trip as if it had already happened. In other words, let it live and thrive in your imagination, and have fun! Let yourself think it, feel it, enjoy it.
Then relax. You've created what you want; now let it enter your life.
You can certainly save up money while you're doing this, or simply welcome things like possible job assignments, chances to win plane tickets and/or trips, long-lost relatives appearing who send you plane tickets, etc. In other words, let the field bring you what you need to get going. As long as you don't resist, doubt or say "Oh, but all this travel is just in my mind," you'll find that what you need starts showing up.
Have fun! And please send me a postcard from Paris!
Love,
The Energy Lady
Tuesday, June 14, 2011
Bad thoughts
Cher Madame d'Energie,
What are the consequences, energy-wise, of actively wishing for something to happen for a person that will give that person short-term grief but long-term happiness?
Signed,
Just curious
Cher curious,
The energy consequences are simple: whatever you wish for another, you wish for yourself. Since we have no way of knowing what will ultimately happen to the energy we use to create, you can't be sure that grief will turn to happiness. What you're really saying was that if this other person was you, you'd get long-term happiness from the short-term grief. So in the end, that's what you're creating for yourself, since it is not possible to create in another person's experience without their permission.
Love,
The Energy Lady
What are the consequences, energy-wise, of actively wishing for something to happen for a person that will give that person short-term grief but long-term happiness?
Signed,
Just curious
Cher curious,
The energy consequences are simple: whatever you wish for another, you wish for yourself. Since we have no way of knowing what will ultimately happen to the energy we use to create, you can't be sure that grief will turn to happiness. What you're really saying was that if this other person was you, you'd get long-term happiness from the short-term grief. So in the end, that's what you're creating for yourself, since it is not possible to create in another person's experience without their permission.
Love,
The Energy Lady
Sunday, June 12, 2011
Someone else has my job!
Dear Energy Lady,
A friend of mine was recently hired for a position that I also applied for, despite the fact that her credentials are somewhat spurious. Now, I have trouble remaining civil with her in social situations. I realize it's sour grapes on my part, but cannot seem to help myself. Any thoughts on the energy complications of this situation?
Signed,
Mark S.
Hi Mark,
When you are envious or jealous of someone else, what it does is put an energy barrier between you and what you want. Not just her job, but any job.
It's because of how jealousy and envy make you feel. When you're angry, frustrated or even frightened, your energy field pulls in tight and has a lot of static in it. If you add in thoughts/feelings of lack, your energy field loses even more power. It's like trying to run a car on a dying battery. You may move forward, but it won't be with nearly the speed or power you want. Energy begets energy. Lack begets lack.
No amount of positive thinking or civil behavior can make up for the energetic damage you do to yourself when you're jealous. So remember this: first, this other person IS a good match for the job she got, regardless of her credentials. She may fit the culture of the organization better or differently than you. Perhaps there's a life lesson there for her that you don't need. Maybe she felt good about the job right from the start, and embraced it mind, body and spirit. Or, more simply, maybe she just didn't have any resistance to it, and allowed it to enter her life effortlessly.
In any case, if you really, truly want a similar job, the best thing you could do now is energetically create one for yourself. So enjoy whatever you can about the work you're currently doing. Look for what she did and is doing right, and incorporate that into your own thinking, behavior and beliefs. Get comfortable with the idea that there is no real lack in the world, only that which we perceive. No one else can get "your" job--you're the only one who can fit it energetically.
If you want to try an energetic "tune up" on this, try making a list of everything you like about her job. Then look at everything you would have hated about having it (and there must be things, or it would have been yours). Do a 180-degree flip on the hated things so that in the end, you create a list of only what you'd love to have in your next job (NOT her job). Look for where in your life you already have some of those things now, or at least the feeling of them. Read the list out loud. Get comfortable with the feeling of being that happy in a job. Whenever you are in the state of relaxed happiness and are speaking about what you like, are thankful for or enjoy, you vibrate in harmony with what you want. Do that enough, and sooner or later, it will be yours.
Relax. Allow. Enjoy!
Love,
The Energy Lady
A friend of mine was recently hired for a position that I also applied for, despite the fact that her credentials are somewhat spurious. Now, I have trouble remaining civil with her in social situations. I realize it's sour grapes on my part, but cannot seem to help myself. Any thoughts on the energy complications of this situation?
Signed,
Mark S.
Hi Mark,
When you are envious or jealous of someone else, what it does is put an energy barrier between you and what you want. Not just her job, but any job.
It's because of how jealousy and envy make you feel. When you're angry, frustrated or even frightened, your energy field pulls in tight and has a lot of static in it. If you add in thoughts/feelings of lack, your energy field loses even more power. It's like trying to run a car on a dying battery. You may move forward, but it won't be with nearly the speed or power you want. Energy begets energy. Lack begets lack.
No amount of positive thinking or civil behavior can make up for the energetic damage you do to yourself when you're jealous. So remember this: first, this other person IS a good match for the job she got, regardless of her credentials. She may fit the culture of the organization better or differently than you. Perhaps there's a life lesson there for her that you don't need. Maybe she felt good about the job right from the start, and embraced it mind, body and spirit. Or, more simply, maybe she just didn't have any resistance to it, and allowed it to enter her life effortlessly.
In any case, if you really, truly want a similar job, the best thing you could do now is energetically create one for yourself. So enjoy whatever you can about the work you're currently doing. Look for what she did and is doing right, and incorporate that into your own thinking, behavior and beliefs. Get comfortable with the idea that there is no real lack in the world, only that which we perceive. No one else can get "your" job--you're the only one who can fit it energetically.
If you want to try an energetic "tune up" on this, try making a list of everything you like about her job. Then look at everything you would have hated about having it (and there must be things, or it would have been yours). Do a 180-degree flip on the hated things so that in the end, you create a list of only what you'd love to have in your next job (NOT her job). Look for where in your life you already have some of those things now, or at least the feeling of them. Read the list out loud. Get comfortable with the feeling of being that happy in a job. Whenever you are in the state of relaxed happiness and are speaking about what you like, are thankful for or enjoy, you vibrate in harmony with what you want. Do that enough, and sooner or later, it will be yours.
Relax. Allow. Enjoy!
Love,
The Energy Lady
Thursday, June 9, 2011
Need a new job
Dear Energy Lady,
How do I find a job that isn't just paying the bills? I want a job I can stay at, not just one that's keeps me working during the recession.
Signed,
Jack B.
Dear Jack,
You're not alone--many people would like this now. The energy trick here is that thoughts lead to beliefs, and beliefs can cause serious energy blockages to what we want, depending on how sad, negative or resistant they are.
In your case, you have two beliefs that may be working against you. The first is that it's difficult to find a full-time job during the recession. The second is that the jobs you have now only allow you to pay the bills. You might argue, "Both are true!" which only means that you believe them. Change your belief; change your life. For instance, even though there's a recession, millions of people are working full-time jobs, and tens of thousands of these jobs were obtained in the last two years. What do you think they believed in order to be in those situations?
Second, the bills you're paying are giving you things you want. For now, let's assume that you're referring to things like utilities, rent and car payments. You must like having a roof over your head, running water and a private vehicle, or you wouldn't be making those payments. So all you have to do is expand your list of what you'd enjoy having, using or experiencing. Daydream. The more vividly and playfully, the better.
So, as The Energy Lady likes to say, "How's that belief working for you?" If it doesn't, change it. Go from "it's hard to find a job during the recession" to "all kinds of people are finding good jobs right now, so I can, too."
If that's too hard a stretch, just imagine yourself in a new job. Either mentally or actually get in the car and "commute" to where you'd like to work. When you get there, walk around and get used to the surroundings. Start to get comfortable with how you feel in the new space. Use your computer or a dayplanner book to map out a day in your new work life, or better yet--a full week or month. Get on Linked in and connect with the people who might be your colleagues or industry pals. As author Wayne Dyer says, "Believe it, and you'll see it!"
In other words, use your thoughts and actions not only to change your belief about your situation, but also to raise your vibration so you can become a match to something new and better. Then remember: nothing new can come into your life until you vibrationally let go of what you don't want. So allow yourself to do your current jobs with the enthusiastic and anticipatory spirit that they're preparing you for the job you're soon going to have.
As always, have fun! And live FullisticallyTM
Love,
The Energy Lady
How do I find a job that isn't just paying the bills? I want a job I can stay at, not just one that's keeps me working during the recession.
Signed,
Jack B.
Dear Jack,
You're not alone--many people would like this now. The energy trick here is that thoughts lead to beliefs, and beliefs can cause serious energy blockages to what we want, depending on how sad, negative or resistant they are.
In your case, you have two beliefs that may be working against you. The first is that it's difficult to find a full-time job during the recession. The second is that the jobs you have now only allow you to pay the bills. You might argue, "Both are true!" which only means that you believe them. Change your belief; change your life. For instance, even though there's a recession, millions of people are working full-time jobs, and tens of thousands of these jobs were obtained in the last two years. What do you think they believed in order to be in those situations?
Second, the bills you're paying are giving you things you want. For now, let's assume that you're referring to things like utilities, rent and car payments. You must like having a roof over your head, running water and a private vehicle, or you wouldn't be making those payments. So all you have to do is expand your list of what you'd enjoy having, using or experiencing. Daydream. The more vividly and playfully, the better.
So, as The Energy Lady likes to say, "How's that belief working for you?" If it doesn't, change it. Go from "it's hard to find a job during the recession" to "all kinds of people are finding good jobs right now, so I can, too."
If that's too hard a stretch, just imagine yourself in a new job. Either mentally or actually get in the car and "commute" to where you'd like to work. When you get there, walk around and get used to the surroundings. Start to get comfortable with how you feel in the new space. Use your computer or a dayplanner book to map out a day in your new work life, or better yet--a full week or month. Get on Linked in and connect with the people who might be your colleagues or industry pals. As author Wayne Dyer says, "Believe it, and you'll see it!"
In other words, use your thoughts and actions not only to change your belief about your situation, but also to raise your vibration so you can become a match to something new and better. Then remember: nothing new can come into your life until you vibrationally let go of what you don't want. So allow yourself to do your current jobs with the enthusiastic and anticipatory spirit that they're preparing you for the job you're soon going to have.
As always, have fun! And live FullisticallyTM
Love,
The Energy Lady
Wednesday, June 8, 2011
Negative thoughts are overwhelming
Dear Energy Lady,
I do my best to stay positive, but it's hard to fight off negative thoughts. What should I do?
Love,
Abby M.
Dear Abby,
It has been said that of the 50,000 or so thoughts that humans have each day, about 80% are negative, as in "I can't do that!" "I don't have time!" "I'll never win!" "I won't be there," and so on. We are in mental "nots" through the majority of our waking hours and dreamtime.
The purpose of our negative thoughts is to provide contrast so we can define ourselves and make choices about what we'd like to create and experience. We've all walked down the street and said things like, "I'd never wear that outfit!" Or, "I'd never allow my child to behave like that!" When we define what we don't want, it automatically points us towards what we do.
The purpose of the negative, then, is to help us discover what is right and good for us. The problem is that too often, we direct the negative thoughts to ourselves, and have difficulty finding the positive contrast. It's meant to be a game, but when it's directed at us, we take it far too seriously. When your negative thoughts make you feel bad about yourself or your life, that's when you know you've lost sight of the game.
So lighten up! Listen to your negative thoughts, but don't take them seriously. Play with them. Find their opposite. Fantasize. Rather than try to get rid of them, allow them to stay. The more you fight them, the more power you give them. Just ask yourself, "What if I change the meaning of this one?" and then come up with multiple alternatives--the more lighthearted and smile-producing, the better. How about taking something like, "you're too fat!" and changing the meaning to, "I am a calorie-enhanced energy machine with power to burn."
Just relax, play and have fun!
Love,
The Energy Lady
I do my best to stay positive, but it's hard to fight off negative thoughts. What should I do?
Love,
Abby M.
Dear Abby,
It has been said that of the 50,000 or so thoughts that humans have each day, about 80% are negative, as in "I can't do that!" "I don't have time!" "I'll never win!" "I won't be there," and so on. We are in mental "nots" through the majority of our waking hours and dreamtime.
The purpose of our negative thoughts is to provide contrast so we can define ourselves and make choices about what we'd like to create and experience. We've all walked down the street and said things like, "I'd never wear that outfit!" Or, "I'd never allow my child to behave like that!" When we define what we don't want, it automatically points us towards what we do.
The purpose of the negative, then, is to help us discover what is right and good for us. The problem is that too often, we direct the negative thoughts to ourselves, and have difficulty finding the positive contrast. It's meant to be a game, but when it's directed at us, we take it far too seriously. When your negative thoughts make you feel bad about yourself or your life, that's when you know you've lost sight of the game.
So lighten up! Listen to your negative thoughts, but don't take them seriously. Play with them. Find their opposite. Fantasize. Rather than try to get rid of them, allow them to stay. The more you fight them, the more power you give them. Just ask yourself, "What if I change the meaning of this one?" and then come up with multiple alternatives--the more lighthearted and smile-producing, the better. How about taking something like, "you're too fat!" and changing the meaning to, "I am a calorie-enhanced energy machine with power to burn."
Just relax, play and have fun!
Love,
The Energy Lady
Saturday, May 28, 2011
Bad dreams
Hi Energy Lady,
I have really, really bad dreams--almost every night. Some are so bad that they wake me up. Is there an energetic reason for this?
Signed,
Sleepless
Dear Sleepless,
I'm not a psychologist, and I'm assuming that you've been or might like to see one to explore the genesis of your dreams and how they might relate to your life.
But you asked about these from an energetic point of view, so I'll share this true story:
A woman named Leslie (named changed) really hated her job. Her friends told her to get a new job; she kept talking about the fact that she knew she needed to do it. But she didn't act.
She had terrible dreams every night. This is mostly because when we know there's a change we need to make and we refuse to do it, we block the flow of energy into the world that is meant to go through us. Then one night, she had a dream that an angel came and closed a venetian blind on a crystal clear window. On the blind, the angel painted, "Leslie: GET A NEW JOB!"
So if you're already exploring the psychological issues with a professional, you might also like to do some energy work before bed. Try something like meditation, gentle yoga, Chi Gong or Donna Eden's Energy Medicine. Doing any of these will help clear your mind and restore the energetic balance in your body.
Sweet dreams!
Love,
The Energy Lady
I have really, really bad dreams--almost every night. Some are so bad that they wake me up. Is there an energetic reason for this?
Signed,
Sleepless
Dear Sleepless,
I'm not a psychologist, and I'm assuming that you've been or might like to see one to explore the genesis of your dreams and how they might relate to your life.
But you asked about these from an energetic point of view, so I'll share this true story:
A woman named Leslie (named changed) really hated her job. Her friends told her to get a new job; she kept talking about the fact that she knew she needed to do it. But she didn't act.
She had terrible dreams every night. This is mostly because when we know there's a change we need to make and we refuse to do it, we block the flow of energy into the world that is meant to go through us. Then one night, she had a dream that an angel came and closed a venetian blind on a crystal clear window. On the blind, the angel painted, "Leslie: GET A NEW JOB!"
So if you're already exploring the psychological issues with a professional, you might also like to do some energy work before bed. Try something like meditation, gentle yoga, Chi Gong or Donna Eden's Energy Medicine. Doing any of these will help clear your mind and restore the energetic balance in your body.
Sweet dreams!
Love,
The Energy Lady
Friday, May 27, 2011
A weighty matter
Dear Energy Lady,
I do all the right things for my weight--eat healthy foods, exercise, get enough sleep--but I have 5 stubborn pounds that just won't come off no matter what I do. Any energetic ideas for me?
Signed,
My pants are just a little too tight
Dear Tight,
I once had a friend who struggled with her weight, and wanted to be a size 6 in the worst way. One day, she was at an event where she had to hug a partner. She chose a woman who was a size 6 (or at least, so she thought), and was surprised to discover that "she felt a little bony to me." Her next hug was with a woman who was substantially larger, and she thought, "this feels more comfortable."
From that day forward, she decided to take her mind off her weight and put it on just living her life. And you know what? She lost weight without effort, because she was put her attention on her life, not on food. She dropped to a size 10, and has been there ever since.
So you stop focusing on the pounds and find ways to make your life a little "looser." Either that, or speak with professionals who can tweak your diet and exercise just enough to make it happen. Or, finally, buy larger pants and go have fun.
Love,
The Energy Lady
I do all the right things for my weight--eat healthy foods, exercise, get enough sleep--but I have 5 stubborn pounds that just won't come off no matter what I do. Any energetic ideas for me?
Signed,
My pants are just a little too tight
Dear Tight,
I once had a friend who struggled with her weight, and wanted to be a size 6 in the worst way. One day, she was at an event where she had to hug a partner. She chose a woman who was a size 6 (or at least, so she thought), and was surprised to discover that "she felt a little bony to me." Her next hug was with a woman who was substantially larger, and she thought, "this feels more comfortable."
From that day forward, she decided to take her mind off her weight and put it on just living her life. And you know what? She lost weight without effort, because she was put her attention on her life, not on food. She dropped to a size 10, and has been there ever since.
So you stop focusing on the pounds and find ways to make your life a little "looser." Either that, or speak with professionals who can tweak your diet and exercise just enough to make it happen. Or, finally, buy larger pants and go have fun.
Love,
The Energy Lady
Thursday, May 26, 2011
No energy for relationship
Dear Energy Lady,
I have tried everything--and I do mean EVERYTHING--to make my relationship work. To my girlfriend's credit, she is trying, too, because we both want to get married. We're in counseling, but it's not working. What we once seemed to have is just gone--there's no real spark left. What's the matter with us?
Signed,
Weary
Dear Weary,
It's simple: stop trying. In the act of "trying," there is tremendous energy expenditure mixed with that great energy killer, doubt. Once you relax, you can start being with the relationship as it is, and then see how natural it feels to both of you.
Remember: energy is in a constant state of change. The more you try to keep things the same, the faster they will change. Use the counseling to explore where things are now, not where they once were.
But if that doesn't work, remember the 7 words that will change your life (from Rosita Perez): "When the horse is dead, get off."
Love,
The Energy Lady
Wednesday, May 25, 2011
Getting a new job
Dear Energy Lady,
I keep attracting clients and/or vendors who say they either don't have money or need money. What's up with that?
Signed,
Needy myself
Dear Needy,
You're vibrating on the level of need. Need relates to fear, and energetically, fear is like throwing a boulder in the middle of a stream--it changes the direction of the flow. It's a huge energy block.
Often, that fear can come from thinking that we're not good enough, smart enough or have enough value. It could also come from past conditioning, or beliefs that people with money are somehow bad.
What you're experiencing is what in energetics is called "the mirror." If you want to know which beliefs are blocking the flow of money to you, listen to the words of your clients and vendors. They are mirroring what you are thinking and feeling; it's just the words are coming from their mouths, not yours.
What you want is relief from these beliefs, and there are two good websites to help you do just that: www.thework.com (download the "Judge Your Neighbor" worksheet) and www.sedonamethod.com. Both will help you release old, stuck energy that you no longer want.
Love,
The Energy Lady
I keep attracting clients and/or vendors who say they either don't have money or need money. What's up with that?
Signed,
Needy myself
Dear Needy,
You're vibrating on the level of need. Need relates to fear, and energetically, fear is like throwing a boulder in the middle of a stream--it changes the direction of the flow. It's a huge energy block.
Often, that fear can come from thinking that we're not good enough, smart enough or have enough value. It could also come from past conditioning, or beliefs that people with money are somehow bad.
What you're experiencing is what in energetics is called "the mirror." If you want to know which beliefs are blocking the flow of money to you, listen to the words of your clients and vendors. They are mirroring what you are thinking and feeling; it's just the words are coming from their mouths, not yours.
What you want is relief from these beliefs, and there are two good websites to help you do just that: www.thework.com (download the "Judge Your Neighbor" worksheet) and www.sedonamethod.com. Both will help you release old, stuck energy that you no longer want.
Love,
The Energy Lady
Tuesday, May 24, 2011
Not enough time
Dear Energy Lady,
I never have enough time to do anything I want. My days and nights are taken up with what my boss, clients and colleagues need, and when I get home, everything is about my husband and my kids. I haven't read a book since 1997, and the idea of getting away to a spa or a weekend with my girlfriends is almost absurd.
Signed,
Exhausted
Dear Exhausted,
This isn't a time management problem. You have plenty of time, and you're doing exactly the things you want. If my saying that makes you angry, think: I chose this job, this man and to become a parent. I decide how to plan, organize, share and/or delegate my work and responsibilities. There are tons of books, blogs and talk shows that can teach me time management, how to speak up for what I need in both the workplace and home, and/or focusing my efforts on what is important and satisfying, but I am choosing to ignore them, or not follow their advice because it's easier to complain and my girlfriends give me more sympathy if I'm a victim than if I had my act together.
Believe it or not, you're not exhausted from all you have to do. You're exhausted because you're giving away your energy and not allowing yourself to receive any back. Instead of crossing items off your "to do" list, start giving yourself gold stars for every one you accomplish. When you talk about your day at work, focus on what you moved forward or accomplished, not on what you didn't get done. Allow yourself to take pride in, enjoy or share your children's happiness. Put audiobooks in the car. Swap massages with your husband. Bring espresso and biscotti for your girlfriends as you watch your kids play.
You can't run a car without fuel. You can't run a life without happiness. Start taking more of what yours has to offer, and you'll soon change your signature to "Exhilerated!"
Love,
The Energy Lady
I never have enough time to do anything I want. My days and nights are taken up with what my boss, clients and colleagues need, and when I get home, everything is about my husband and my kids. I haven't read a book since 1997, and the idea of getting away to a spa or a weekend with my girlfriends is almost absurd.
Signed,
Exhausted
Dear Exhausted,
This isn't a time management problem. You have plenty of time, and you're doing exactly the things you want. If my saying that makes you angry, think: I chose this job, this man and to become a parent. I decide how to plan, organize, share and/or delegate my work and responsibilities. There are tons of books, blogs and talk shows that can teach me time management, how to speak up for what I need in both the workplace and home, and/or focusing my efforts on what is important and satisfying, but I am choosing to ignore them, or not follow their advice because it's easier to complain and my girlfriends give me more sympathy if I'm a victim than if I had my act together.
Believe it or not, you're not exhausted from all you have to do. You're exhausted because you're giving away your energy and not allowing yourself to receive any back. Instead of crossing items off your "to do" list, start giving yourself gold stars for every one you accomplish. When you talk about your day at work, focus on what you moved forward or accomplished, not on what you didn't get done. Allow yourself to take pride in, enjoy or share your children's happiness. Put audiobooks in the car. Swap massages with your husband. Bring espresso and biscotti for your girlfriends as you watch your kids play.
You can't run a car without fuel. You can't run a life without happiness. Start taking more of what yours has to offer, and you'll soon change your signature to "Exhilerated!"
Love,
The Energy Lady
Monday, May 23, 2011
Finding My Purpose
Dear Energy Lady,
Everyone's talking about finding their purpose, but when I read the articles or do the tests, they just get me more and more confused. How do I discover what my purpose really is?
Signed,
Confused
Dear Confused,
As you know, Eckhart Tolle is one of my favorite authors. In his book, "The New Earth," he says that the purpose of life is to awaken. This awakening suggests that you are not your name, your roles, your stuff or anything else that you think is "you." Ask anyone who's ever lost all of those identifying items to a personal or natural disaster, and they'll all tell you the same thing: when all else is gone, you're still here.
So if you're not your stuff, then who are you, and what is your purpose? From what I've read and experienced so far, I believe that all life is individuated aspects of God, and we're here to be ourselves. Have you ever seen a tree compare itself to another? Or a dog worrying about getting grey whiskers? They just are what they are, and do what they do. What many scholars and mystics have said throughout the ages is simply this: whatever you're doing at this moment is your purpose.
If you want your purpose to be "bigger," then find a way to bring happiness into your own life, and share or show it to others.
One more hint: whatever you do when no one's looking probably has something to do with it.
Love,
The Energy Lady
Everyone's talking about finding their purpose, but when I read the articles or do the tests, they just get me more and more confused. How do I discover what my purpose really is?
Signed,
Confused
Dear Confused,
As you know, Eckhart Tolle is one of my favorite authors. In his book, "The New Earth," he says that the purpose of life is to awaken. This awakening suggests that you are not your name, your roles, your stuff or anything else that you think is "you." Ask anyone who's ever lost all of those identifying items to a personal or natural disaster, and they'll all tell you the same thing: when all else is gone, you're still here.
So if you're not your stuff, then who are you, and what is your purpose? From what I've read and experienced so far, I believe that all life is individuated aspects of God, and we're here to be ourselves. Have you ever seen a tree compare itself to another? Or a dog worrying about getting grey whiskers? They just are what they are, and do what they do. What many scholars and mystics have said throughout the ages is simply this: whatever you're doing at this moment is your purpose.
If you want your purpose to be "bigger," then find a way to bring happiness into your own life, and share or show it to others.
One more hint: whatever you do when no one's looking probably has something to do with it.
Love,
The Energy Lady
Sunday, May 22, 2011
Advice to make travel smoother?
Dear Energy Lady,
I have the worst luck when I travel for business. Planes get delayed or cancelled, hotels lose my reservations or I get food poisoning from eating someplace my client thinks is quaint. It's gotten to the point where I feel like throwing up every time my boss mentions that I have to go out of town. What's going on energetically?
Signed,
Wish I could stay home
Dear Wish,
The energetic solution is hiding in the words you've used to describe your problem. When you say you wish you could stay home, what you're energetically saying is "I wish I didn't have to go!" In this latter wish is a lot of resistance, which disrupts the flow that makes things go smoothly. Each delay or cancellation is another signal that you're energetically resisting the very thing you're doing. So try this: the next time you have to leave, be honest with yourself and say, "I would prefer to stay home, but I also like my job, so it is important that I do this." As you're leaving for the airport, add, "May things be fast, safe and easy for me and for all travelers." Ignore the voice in your brain that contradicts this and instead, focus on creating and holding the feeling of well-being in your heart.
One other note: you made reference to traveling sickening you, and then it does, both literally and figuratively. So try saying, "I can stomach this (trip, restaurant, whatever)."
Also: pay attention to what is going right, or at least to what is NOT going wrong during your trip. That's what happens naturally when we do not interrupt the flow of energy with our thinking, speech, emotions or actions.
Happy trails!
Love,
The Energy Lady
I have the worst luck when I travel for business. Planes get delayed or cancelled, hotels lose my reservations or I get food poisoning from eating someplace my client thinks is quaint. It's gotten to the point where I feel like throwing up every time my boss mentions that I have to go out of town. What's going on energetically?
Signed,
Wish I could stay home
Dear Wish,
The energetic solution is hiding in the words you've used to describe your problem. When you say you wish you could stay home, what you're energetically saying is "I wish I didn't have to go!" In this latter wish is a lot of resistance, which disrupts the flow that makes things go smoothly. Each delay or cancellation is another signal that you're energetically resisting the very thing you're doing. So try this: the next time you have to leave, be honest with yourself and say, "I would prefer to stay home, but I also like my job, so it is important that I do this." As you're leaving for the airport, add, "May things be fast, safe and easy for me and for all travelers." Ignore the voice in your brain that contradicts this and instead, focus on creating and holding the feeling of well-being in your heart.
One other note: you made reference to traveling sickening you, and then it does, both literally and figuratively. So try saying, "I can stomach this (trip, restaurant, whatever)."
Also: pay attention to what is going right, or at least to what is NOT going wrong during your trip. That's what happens naturally when we do not interrupt the flow of energy with our thinking, speech, emotions or actions.
Happy trails!
Love,
The Energy Lady
Sunday, January 23, 2011
The son who wasn't in the refrigerator
I promised to tell you the story of the man whose son wasn't in the refrigerator, so here goes.
He was in the Take a Load Off! class, and we were just introducing ourselves. "What do you do for a living?" I asked. "Look at me!" he said with a laugh, pointing at a girth that was probably about 100 pounds more than he needed. "I'm a chef. And actually, I'm in the refrigerator about every 15 minutes. That's my problem."
"Tell me about the rest of your life," I invited.
"Well, I have a 9 year old son," he said with a smile.
"Yes? And what do you like to do together?"
"Well, he likes to go hiking."
"So where do you two go?"
He pointed to his stomach. "Look at me. I can't take him anywhere. I'm too big to hike."
I didn't say anything else, but the energy of his feelings about this must have penetrated, because the next week, he was all smiles.
"I was thinking about what you said," he started, and I smiled because I knew he had done most of the talking. "And a few days later, I was in the refrigerator for the 10th time that day and all of a sudden, I had an epiphany: My son wasn't in the refrigerator! So I got the ingredient I needed, and closed the door without eating anything. Then I went out and bought these." He pointed to a brand new pair of hiking boots.
"I've walked around the block several times now," he said proudly. "And my son is walking with me. We're planning a trip next spring, and I'll be ready."
Sometimes, energy flows best when we focus on what we want, not why we can't have it.
I'll be out of town for a couple of days; more on Wednesday.
Until then, live Fullistically! (TM)
He was in the Take a Load Off! class, and we were just introducing ourselves. "What do you do for a living?" I asked. "Look at me!" he said with a laugh, pointing at a girth that was probably about 100 pounds more than he needed. "I'm a chef. And actually, I'm in the refrigerator about every 15 minutes. That's my problem."
"Tell me about the rest of your life," I invited.
"Well, I have a 9 year old son," he said with a smile.
"Yes? And what do you like to do together?"
"Well, he likes to go hiking."
"So where do you two go?"
He pointed to his stomach. "Look at me. I can't take him anywhere. I'm too big to hike."
I didn't say anything else, but the energy of his feelings about this must have penetrated, because the next week, he was all smiles.
"I was thinking about what you said," he started, and I smiled because I knew he had done most of the talking. "And a few days later, I was in the refrigerator for the 10th time that day and all of a sudden, I had an epiphany: My son wasn't in the refrigerator! So I got the ingredient I needed, and closed the door without eating anything. Then I went out and bought these." He pointed to a brand new pair of hiking boots.
"I've walked around the block several times now," he said proudly. "And my son is walking with me. We're planning a trip next spring, and I'll be ready."
Sometimes, energy flows best when we focus on what we want, not why we can't have it.
I'll be out of town for a couple of days; more on Wednesday.
Until then, live Fullistically! (TM)
Friday, January 21, 2011
Clearing the way for happiness
Tonight I'll share the true story of another woman in our Take a Load Off! class. She was carrying around about 25 extra pounds, but that wasn't what was really bothering her. "I'm a supervisor in a nursing home," she said. "I love my job, but I hate it when some of my staff don't show up for work and I have to put in a second shift to cover. I'm no stranger to long hours, but I haven't had dinner with my husband in ages."
"I see.." was all I said.
The next week, she came back with a huge grin on her face. "What's up with you?" I asked.
"Well, I was thinking about what you said," she started (making me smile because I knew I hadn't said a word; she was just--or finally--listening to herself). So I went in to my supervisor the next day and said, 'I want a demotion to being a floor nurse. And since I'm senior staff, I get to choose which shift I'm on. So I choose first shift.' And ever since, I've been leaving the home at 4PM every day. I've had dinner with my husband every night this week, worked on some projects I'd been putting off, and called our kids. I've never been happier in my life. And interestingly enough, because of my seniority, the pay cut is minimal. We'll never miss it."
It was clear that she had taken a huge energetic load off. Fullistically(TM), there are three ways to break through a stuck energy barrier: 1) do the thing you think you cannot do; 2) make a wish, including one from deep within your heart; or 3) change your perspective, and discover (likely) that what you were looking for is right where you are now. For those who have difficulty meditating or releasing, Fullistic(TM) shifts are active ways to discover that you are more and can do more than you ever thought possible.
Tomorrow: the son who wasn't in the refrigerator
"I see.." was all I said.
The next week, she came back with a huge grin on her face. "What's up with you?" I asked.
"Well, I was thinking about what you said," she started (making me smile because I knew I hadn't said a word; she was just--or finally--listening to herself). So I went in to my supervisor the next day and said, 'I want a demotion to being a floor nurse. And since I'm senior staff, I get to choose which shift I'm on. So I choose first shift.' And ever since, I've been leaving the home at 4PM every day. I've had dinner with my husband every night this week, worked on some projects I'd been putting off, and called our kids. I've never been happier in my life. And interestingly enough, because of my seniority, the pay cut is minimal. We'll never miss it."
It was clear that she had taken a huge energetic load off. Fullistically(TM), there are three ways to break through a stuck energy barrier: 1) do the thing you think you cannot do; 2) make a wish, including one from deep within your heart; or 3) change your perspective, and discover (likely) that what you were looking for is right where you are now. For those who have difficulty meditating or releasing, Fullistic(TM) shifts are active ways to discover that you are more and can do more than you ever thought possible.
Tomorrow: the son who wasn't in the refrigerator
Wednesday, January 19, 2011
A clear vision of happiness
Tonight, I wanted to share with you the energy of happiness. It makes anything possible.
A real estate agent contacted me about using energy to build his practice. "I gave myself 6 months to sell my first house," he said. "Well, now the six months are up, and I've run out of savings. I need to make a sale fast, or I'll be in serious trouble."
"Well, that's the problem," I said. "You should have told yourself that you'd sell a house within 60 days."
"Too late for that," he said. "Now what do I do?"
I could hear the fear in his voice, and knew that his energy was blocked, which meant that there was no possible way for anything he wanted to appear in his experience. So I asked,
"What would you be doing this weekend if you'd already sold a house?"
"Oh, that's easy," he said. "He'd be at my brother's house, swimming in his pool with my nephews."
"And that would make you happy?" I asked.
"Sure! I'd be on my way to establishing a successful practice, and would be able to relax and enjoy myself with people I love."
What I said next surprised him. "So go."
"Go where?"
"To your brother's house. To the pool and your nephews."
He laughed. "Don't be ridiculous! I have to stay here and try to close some deals."
"If you do that," I warned, "you'll only be preventing those sales, because you're so worried about making them. Go. Have fun. And when you come back, things will be better. You'll see."
He went, although he didn't want to. At one point during the weekend, he dove deep into the pool, and said he experienced a few moments of true release and weightlessness under the water. He came to the surface, breathed deep, and felt restored. In other words, he released all the tight, negative energy he was holding, and that was holding him.
And when he got home? There was not one, but two messages on his answering machine from clients ready to sign.
The Fullistic(TM) lesson? Know what makes you happy. Think about it. Welcome it. Live it as much as you are able. The energy of all worlds will be yours.
Tomorrow: Making Fullistic(TM) choices
A real estate agent contacted me about using energy to build his practice. "I gave myself 6 months to sell my first house," he said. "Well, now the six months are up, and I've run out of savings. I need to make a sale fast, or I'll be in serious trouble."
"Well, that's the problem," I said. "You should have told yourself that you'd sell a house within 60 days."
"Too late for that," he said. "Now what do I do?"
I could hear the fear in his voice, and knew that his energy was blocked, which meant that there was no possible way for anything he wanted to appear in his experience. So I asked,
"What would you be doing this weekend if you'd already sold a house?"
"Oh, that's easy," he said. "He'd be at my brother's house, swimming in his pool with my nephews."
"And that would make you happy?" I asked.
"Sure! I'd be on my way to establishing a successful practice, and would be able to relax and enjoy myself with people I love."
What I said next surprised him. "So go."
"Go where?"
"To your brother's house. To the pool and your nephews."
He laughed. "Don't be ridiculous! I have to stay here and try to close some deals."
"If you do that," I warned, "you'll only be preventing those sales, because you're so worried about making them. Go. Have fun. And when you come back, things will be better. You'll see."
He went, although he didn't want to. At one point during the weekend, he dove deep into the pool, and said he experienced a few moments of true release and weightlessness under the water. He came to the surface, breathed deep, and felt restored. In other words, he released all the tight, negative energy he was holding, and that was holding him.
And when he got home? There was not one, but two messages on his answering machine from clients ready to sign.
The Fullistic(TM) lesson? Know what makes you happy. Think about it. Welcome it. Live it as much as you are able. The energy of all worlds will be yours.
Tomorrow: Making Fullistic(TM) choices
Tuesday, January 18, 2011
Take a Load Off
I once taught a weight loss course called "Take a Load Off!" that used the mind/body connection to help people lose more weight by gaining more happiness. Over the next few nights, I'll tell you a couple of stories from the class. Feel free to ask questions about your own weight loss if you'd like.
Take a Load Off! worked on a very simple premise: the more happiness you gain, the more weight you'll lose. And the "weight" might not be in pounds or kilos. Sometimes it was the weight of an old limiting belief or the weight of a fear that was holding someone back. People hate to lose anything, but they love to get more.
So together, we explored ways of bringing more and more happiness into life. And one woman said she wanted to lose about 30 pounds so she could feel good in a bathing suit again. As she told the class this, she was eating a large bag of chips. So I said, "The bathing suit really won't bring you happiness."
"Oh, yes it will," she insisted.
"No, it won't," I said. "But eating the chips does."
"Don't be ridiculous!" she said. "Eating chips doesn't bring me happiness."
"Of course they do," I said. "Why eat them if they don't?"
She crunched into another chip. "Go on."
"Let's make this easier. You want to eat the chips right now because that's what you're doing. It's just plain silly to say that you don't want to do something as you're doing it. Stop arguing with your reality. Right now, you don't care if the chips aren't a diet food; to you, at this moment, they're a good food, or they're doing something good for you. Maybe they're keeping you awake with their crunch. Maybe they just taste good. Maybe you need the calories or the salt or the fat. Maybe they're a reward for a bad day. Maybe you just feel like being a 'bad' girl. It doesn't matter. Somehow, some way, they're making you happy. Can we agree on this?"
She nodded.
"So if you want to eat them because they make you happy in some way, then eat them. But instead of saying that you're unhappy doing something that's making you happy, say instead, 'Eventually, I'd like to lose enough weight to wear my old bathing suits. But right now, I'm happy enjoying these chips."
"What's your point?" she asked.
"The point is that resistance causes you stress. Stress releases cortisol. Cortisol makes your body store fat. So you'll actually do more for your metabolism if you eat the chips mindfully, enjoying the taste, texture or even the feeling of being a 'bad girl.' Just relax, be happy, and enjoy. No guilt; no self-recrimination; no lying to yourself or us."
"But they're still no good for me," she said.
"Well, there are obviously better, more nutritious foods," I said, "but if this is what you need right now, choose it, own your choice, and then make the decision work for you. Maybe this will prompt you to eat a few more vegetables or fruits later. Or it will give you enough energy to clean your house or walk your dog a little longer. Who knows?
"But this I can promise you," I said: "As the saying goes, 'what you resist, persists.' So stop resisting. Without the resistance, you'll have much more control over what happens next."
She took a deep breath, sighed, and picked up the bag. "Good," she said. "Tonight, I'm eating these. And tomorrow, I'll decide if fitting into that bathing suit will really make me happy."
"Good!" I said. "And get ready, because you might find that something else holds the key to your happiness.
In the end, she resonated more with the choices she was making than with particular foods. She started looking for other things she enjoyed doing, and you guessed it: her energy increased and she lost weight.
Tomorrow: A clear vision of happiness
Take a Load Off! worked on a very simple premise: the more happiness you gain, the more weight you'll lose. And the "weight" might not be in pounds or kilos. Sometimes it was the weight of an old limiting belief or the weight of a fear that was holding someone back. People hate to lose anything, but they love to get more.
So together, we explored ways of bringing more and more happiness into life. And one woman said she wanted to lose about 30 pounds so she could feel good in a bathing suit again. As she told the class this, she was eating a large bag of chips. So I said, "The bathing suit really won't bring you happiness."
"Oh, yes it will," she insisted.
"No, it won't," I said. "But eating the chips does."
"Don't be ridiculous!" she said. "Eating chips doesn't bring me happiness."
"Of course they do," I said. "Why eat them if they don't?"
She crunched into another chip. "Go on."
"Let's make this easier. You want to eat the chips right now because that's what you're doing. It's just plain silly to say that you don't want to do something as you're doing it. Stop arguing with your reality. Right now, you don't care if the chips aren't a diet food; to you, at this moment, they're a good food, or they're doing something good for you. Maybe they're keeping you awake with their crunch. Maybe they just taste good. Maybe you need the calories or the salt or the fat. Maybe they're a reward for a bad day. Maybe you just feel like being a 'bad' girl. It doesn't matter. Somehow, some way, they're making you happy. Can we agree on this?"
She nodded.
"So if you want to eat them because they make you happy in some way, then eat them. But instead of saying that you're unhappy doing something that's making you happy, say instead, 'Eventually, I'd like to lose enough weight to wear my old bathing suits. But right now, I'm happy enjoying these chips."
"What's your point?" she asked.
"The point is that resistance causes you stress. Stress releases cortisol. Cortisol makes your body store fat. So you'll actually do more for your metabolism if you eat the chips mindfully, enjoying the taste, texture or even the feeling of being a 'bad girl.' Just relax, be happy, and enjoy. No guilt; no self-recrimination; no lying to yourself or us."
"But they're still no good for me," she said.
"Well, there are obviously better, more nutritious foods," I said, "but if this is what you need right now, choose it, own your choice, and then make the decision work for you. Maybe this will prompt you to eat a few more vegetables or fruits later. Or it will give you enough energy to clean your house or walk your dog a little longer. Who knows?
"But this I can promise you," I said: "As the saying goes, 'what you resist, persists.' So stop resisting. Without the resistance, you'll have much more control over what happens next."
She took a deep breath, sighed, and picked up the bag. "Good," she said. "Tonight, I'm eating these. And tomorrow, I'll decide if fitting into that bathing suit will really make me happy."
"Good!" I said. "And get ready, because you might find that something else holds the key to your happiness.
In the end, she resonated more with the choices she was making than with particular foods. She started looking for other things she enjoyed doing, and you guessed it: her energy increased and she lost weight.
Tomorrow: A clear vision of happiness
Monday, January 17, 2011
Fullistic Work
Last night, I mentioned that I'd share a story about energy and work. When our energetic bodies align, amazing things can happen. For those of you new to the subject of energy bodies, you have 7 total of ascending vibration. You are most familiar with your physical body, which is the most dense of the bunch. It is surrounded by your etheric body, which carries information into the physical form. Next is your astral or emotional body, which helps you experience emotions before you feel them physically. The mental body is where thoughts first form after the causal body shares its knowledge from your higher self. Your highest bodies are your spiritual body, which helps connect your physical body to spirit, and your spirit body, the universal creating power. Another way of putting this is that God or source wants to express itself through and as you, and the energy bodies allow that to happen when we don't block the flow of energy.
How do you know when the energy of these bodies align? In my experience, it's when you feel good (e.g., peaceful and comfortable) and things work out perfectly. And that's what happened to Maria.* (*name changed for privacy)
She was looking for a job, and came to see me to hear more about mine. I wasn't interviewing her; just sharing ideas about what the work entailed and how she might get into the field if she wanted. I expected her to be eager and excited; instead, she seemed completely lackluster, and was dressed more for a beach than an office. When I asked her what interested her in my field, she said, "Oh, well, our daughter is going to college and we could use a little extra money." Clearly, it was not for her.
Our discussion was brief, and as she went to leave, I offered her my business card, and she did the same. When she handed me hers, I was stunned: it was the most beautiful card I had ever seen. It was colorful, clever, graphically exceptional, memorable. "Where did you get this card?" I asked. She smiled: "I designed it."
I pointed to the portfolio she was carrying. "What else do you design?"
She brightened up and took on a whole new glow. "Rugs!" She said enthusiastically. "Want to see them?"
Within seconds, what lay before me were floor coverings that belonged in high-end homes and museums. They were symphonies in wool; vibrant, compelling, rich. I looked her straight in the eye. "What are you doing talking to me? Go create and sell your rugs!"
"Oh! You're right!" she said excitedly. "I guess I just needed to hear someone say it." And with that, she packed up her portfolio and practically ran out the door.
The end of the story is glorious. She went home and started selling rugs out of her home. Before long, she had a showroom in an international design mart. She recently got a commission to create a rug for a celebrity, and installed one in a governor's mansion.
She's not on her way--she's already there. And that's the "magic" of Fullistic(TM) alignment. It's when you experience your Great-FULL-ness; when energy pours through you without blockages of doubt, despair or indifference.
What do you keep zipped up? What love are you hiding?
Tomorrow: Taking a load off
(TM) is the designation for Trademark. All rights reserved.
How do you know when the energy of these bodies align? In my experience, it's when you feel good (e.g., peaceful and comfortable) and things work out perfectly. And that's what happened to Maria.* (*name changed for privacy)
She was looking for a job, and came to see me to hear more about mine. I wasn't interviewing her; just sharing ideas about what the work entailed and how she might get into the field if she wanted. I expected her to be eager and excited; instead, she seemed completely lackluster, and was dressed more for a beach than an office. When I asked her what interested her in my field, she said, "Oh, well, our daughter is going to college and we could use a little extra money." Clearly, it was not for her.
Our discussion was brief, and as she went to leave, I offered her my business card, and she did the same. When she handed me hers, I was stunned: it was the most beautiful card I had ever seen. It was colorful, clever, graphically exceptional, memorable. "Where did you get this card?" I asked. She smiled: "I designed it."
I pointed to the portfolio she was carrying. "What else do you design?"
She brightened up and took on a whole new glow. "Rugs!" She said enthusiastically. "Want to see them?"
Within seconds, what lay before me were floor coverings that belonged in high-end homes and museums. They were symphonies in wool; vibrant, compelling, rich. I looked her straight in the eye. "What are you doing talking to me? Go create and sell your rugs!"
"Oh! You're right!" she said excitedly. "I guess I just needed to hear someone say it." And with that, she packed up her portfolio and practically ran out the door.
The end of the story is glorious. She went home and started selling rugs out of her home. Before long, she had a showroom in an international design mart. She recently got a commission to create a rug for a celebrity, and installed one in a governor's mansion.
She's not on her way--she's already there. And that's the "magic" of Fullistic(TM) alignment. It's when you experience your Great-FULL-ness; when energy pours through you without blockages of doubt, despair or indifference.
What do you keep zipped up? What love are you hiding?
Tomorrow: Taking a load off
(TM) is the designation for Trademark. All rights reserved.
Sunday, January 16, 2011
Love will make it happen
The energies of love are very powerful, and bring things together in wonder-FULL ways.
Friends of ours recently lost their son to an unexpected medical event. He was deeply beloved by all who had the good fortune to know him. The loss was horrific not only for his wife, children, parents and grandmother, but for the entire community.
Now living 300 miles away, I wished I could do more for the family than simply send a tribute and prayers. I asked about them continually to anyone I thought might know them, and felt them in my heart often. When we received an invitation to a party we thought they might attend, I was elated. But in the end, a blizzard made travel impossible, so we never made the trip.
Then, this past Friday, I was having lunch with a colleague and client at a place I don't normally dine. As I walked outside the restaurant, I came face-to-face with the son of friends who are very, very close to the family who had lost their son. He is a fine folk musician, and was in town to perform on a major national radio show. I was elated to hear of his success, and told him I hoped to be able to get last minute tickets to the show. He shook his head sadly and said he thought the show was sold out, but would text me if he discovered otherwise.
Since I don't believe in coincidence, I knew there was a reason we had connected. So the next morning, even before receiving his text, my husband went to work to try to find us tickets. The theatre's website did show that it was sold out, so my husband called the box office. Victory! Minutes later, the text came in: not only were there a few tickets left, but his parents were in town along with two other couples we knew and loved. And you guessed it: one of them was the couple who lost their son.
After what was a fabulous show, we found his parents to congratulate them. And within minutes, they were joined by the two other couples, who were very surprised to see us. As I wrapped my arms around the mother of the man who had died, we whispered to each other simultaneously, "you don't know how often I've thought of you."
The rest of the evening was filled with both tears and laughter, but most of all, love. Lots and lots and lots of love.
In the son's text to me, he said, "It was a one-in-a-million chance that I'd run into you." But that's exactly the way that the energy of love works. The feeling is a magnet with a pull so powerful it can overcome any obstacles.
Tomorrow: the first in a series of stories about what love can do for careers, weight loss and more.
Friends of ours recently lost their son to an unexpected medical event. He was deeply beloved by all who had the good fortune to know him. The loss was horrific not only for his wife, children, parents and grandmother, but for the entire community.
Now living 300 miles away, I wished I could do more for the family than simply send a tribute and prayers. I asked about them continually to anyone I thought might know them, and felt them in my heart often. When we received an invitation to a party we thought they might attend, I was elated. But in the end, a blizzard made travel impossible, so we never made the trip.
Then, this past Friday, I was having lunch with a colleague and client at a place I don't normally dine. As I walked outside the restaurant, I came face-to-face with the son of friends who are very, very close to the family who had lost their son. He is a fine folk musician, and was in town to perform on a major national radio show. I was elated to hear of his success, and told him I hoped to be able to get last minute tickets to the show. He shook his head sadly and said he thought the show was sold out, but would text me if he discovered otherwise.
Since I don't believe in coincidence, I knew there was a reason we had connected. So the next morning, even before receiving his text, my husband went to work to try to find us tickets. The theatre's website did show that it was sold out, so my husband called the box office. Victory! Minutes later, the text came in: not only were there a few tickets left, but his parents were in town along with two other couples we knew and loved. And you guessed it: one of them was the couple who lost their son.
After what was a fabulous show, we found his parents to congratulate them. And within minutes, they were joined by the two other couples, who were very surprised to see us. As I wrapped my arms around the mother of the man who had died, we whispered to each other simultaneously, "you don't know how often I've thought of you."
The rest of the evening was filled with both tears and laughter, but most of all, love. Lots and lots and lots of love.
In the son's text to me, he said, "It was a one-in-a-million chance that I'd run into you." But that's exactly the way that the energy of love works. The feeling is a magnet with a pull so powerful it can overcome any obstacles.
Tomorrow: the first in a series of stories about what love can do for careers, weight loss and more.
Saturday, January 15, 2011
Hi Again
It's been over a year since I started this blog, and you may wonder where I've been. I could say that I have been busy, but I was busy when I first started it, so that really isn't the reason. I could say that I wasn't motivated, but that really isn't the reason, either.
To be completely honest, the reason I wasn't blogging was simply because I used the time I would blog to do things like watch TV, do some work-related Email, check Facebook or surf the Internet aimlessly. In other words: silly, mind-numbing stuff.
But at the start of this year, I decided it was time to wake up. So I took a snowy day over new year's weekend and made myself a vision board. If you've never seen or created one of these, they're a collage of pictures, words and graphics that you either cut from magazines or find on the Internet. The content is whatever makes you feel good--things you'd like to do, be or have. Mine contains things like my ideal weight, places I'd like to visit, experiences with my family and friends and some images that I know will help me let go of what I no longer need.
I took my vision board, printed it out, framed it, and hung it in the bathroom. I also made it my screen-saver. Some people say it's better to simply slide it under the bed or archive it and forget about it, but I really enjoy looking at it several times a day.
When I do, I allow myself to experience the feelings that those images and words stir. Although none are true in my physical world right now, I don't see them as wishes and don't crush them with doubt.
Instead, I welcome the feelings and the happiness I feel at "having" those things in that moment. Since our bodies don't know the difference between a thought and an actual experience, for that moment, I not only have the feelings; I have the health, happiness and freedom of the actual experience.
And as I do, I know I'm raising my vibrational field, which changes my outer experience. So since I did this, I'm not only back at this blog; I've gained two new clients with very little effort; had a stranger in Starbucks pay for my coffee (and I'll be paying that forward); lost 2 pounds and have plans to see one of our daughters next week. In other words, I look; I feel; I live. It feels great!
Have you ever made a vision board? If you don't have the time or are not visual, then try putting on your favorite music as you get dressed in the morning or go to work. Let it stir your soul and your cells as well as your thinking.
And if you get a chance, let me know what you get as a result.
To be completely honest, the reason I wasn't blogging was simply because I used the time I would blog to do things like watch TV, do some work-related Email, check Facebook or surf the Internet aimlessly. In other words: silly, mind-numbing stuff.
But at the start of this year, I decided it was time to wake up. So I took a snowy day over new year's weekend and made myself a vision board. If you've never seen or created one of these, they're a collage of pictures, words and graphics that you either cut from magazines or find on the Internet. The content is whatever makes you feel good--things you'd like to do, be or have. Mine contains things like my ideal weight, places I'd like to visit, experiences with my family and friends and some images that I know will help me let go of what I no longer need.
I took my vision board, printed it out, framed it, and hung it in the bathroom. I also made it my screen-saver. Some people say it's better to simply slide it under the bed or archive it and forget about it, but I really enjoy looking at it several times a day.
When I do, I allow myself to experience the feelings that those images and words stir. Although none are true in my physical world right now, I don't see them as wishes and don't crush them with doubt.
Instead, I welcome the feelings and the happiness I feel at "having" those things in that moment. Since our bodies don't know the difference between a thought and an actual experience, for that moment, I not only have the feelings; I have the health, happiness and freedom of the actual experience.
And as I do, I know I'm raising my vibrational field, which changes my outer experience. So since I did this, I'm not only back at this blog; I've gained two new clients with very little effort; had a stranger in Starbucks pay for my coffee (and I'll be paying that forward); lost 2 pounds and have plans to see one of our daughters next week. In other words, I look; I feel; I live. It feels great!
Have you ever made a vision board? If you don't have the time or are not visual, then try putting on your favorite music as you get dressed in the morning or go to work. Let it stir your soul and your cells as well as your thinking.
And if you get a chance, let me know what you get as a result.
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