Dear Energy Lady,
I am a loving person. Really! I love my cat, I love my family and friend, I love my job, I love chocolate--I can name all kinds of stuff and people that I love and that make me feel really good. Still, it feels like something is missing, because when I'm not with someone or doing something I love, I feel kind of blah. Am I just selfish?
Signed,
Looking in the mirror
Dear Mirror,
No, you're not selfish. In fact, you may be on the verge of being self-less, which would open you to the most wonderful, all-emcompassing love of all.
In the Jewish tradition, they say that after we die, God asks us, "What did you learn about love in your lifetime?" And most people describe it as you just did--attached to people or things you enjoy. There's nothing wrong with that, for, as Vincent Van Gogh once said, "the way to know life is to love many things." But as you say, there is a limit to how satisfying that is, and for many of us, it leaves us craving more and more.
So if you'd like to experience love in a new way, try closing your eyes, putting the tip of your tongue on the roof of your mouth, and smile. Then put all your attention on the area around your heart. You can even smile at your heart if you like. See if you can sense a golden light there. You might not "see" a light, but rather, feel a tingle or even experience a sound of some kind or an aroma that feels soft and gentle. Everyone experiences energy in different ways that are unique to you. Once you connect to a feeling that is pleasant, comfortable and/or makes you smile, stop thinking about it--just dive in and experience it. Imagine that you just dove into a deep pool, and that suddenly, everything else on earth just falls away. Ahhhhh!!!!!
If you have trouble doing that, then just keep sensing the light and letting it expand until it completely covers you...and then the room or place you're in....and then the town you're in...the state or province you're in...the country...the continent...the world...the solar system...and the universe. Just let it keep getting bigger and bigger. If you don't stop it, it will expand on its own. Enjoy the sensation of this.
Eventually, you will start to realize that this light is love and that it's in you and everything/everyone else. You may even start seeing light around yourself, or other people and things. But even if you don't, doing this little happy exercise every day will likely make you feel much more satisfied with both the love you have and the love you are. You won't need it to come to you, since it will be coming from you endlessly. Just relax and enjoy the feeling!
Love,
EL
Welcome to Dear Energy Lady.com, an advice column for those who want life to be easier and more fun. Based on Energetic principles, the Energy Lady is here to teach you about aligning what you think, say and do with higher vibrational resources like intuition, energy bodies, and clairaudience, as well as release energy barriers to better health, happiness and success.
Thursday, June 27, 2013
Monday, June 24, 2013
Share your happiness
Dear Ones,
I have been away celebrating our daughter's wedding, so please forgive my absence this past week. But being away gave me a chance to see fresh new ways that energy appears and moves through our lives. Today, I'll talk about one of the simplest ones: share your happiness.
Sharing happiness is not natural for most of us. If you think about it, it's not how we socialize. We say, "I feel your pain" or "I share your pain," but you almost never hear anyone say, "I share your happiness,"--even at something like a wedding or the birth of a baby. Somehow, if we say that, it sounds presumptuous, like we're taking something without it being freely given, and most of us wouldn't do that. Or, alternately, that if we share someone's happiness, that there is somehow less of it, even though we have the expression, "happiness shared is doubled."
But if sharing happiness raises your own and everyone else's vibration and ultimately produces more joy for everyone, why don't we do more of it? Maybe we do and just don't realize it. Here are a few things I witnessed in this last week that made happiness grow:
--Share your inner gifts and talents. Our daughter's father-in-law is a musician; he composed a beautiful melody for the bridal couple and performed it during the ceremony, in spite of his discomfort in performing in front of crowds. Everyone loved it.
--Give beyond your comfort zone. Our daughter's best friend from childhood had never performed a wedding ceremony, but she got deputized, created a perfect script, and drew all of us in with her willingness to be there, 100%, for our daughter and her new husband. There could not possibly have been a more loving officiant.
--Be authentic. Our new son-in-law is a fun, funny dancer, and he held nothing back. His naturalness took away any self-consciousness anyone else may have felt about how "good" or "bad" their own dancing is/was, and it made for a very, very good time on the dance floor.
--Show others how your happiness connects to them. Tell them what they've said or done that's helping to put a smile on your face or in your heart. Let you know how incredibly valuable or precious they are to you. You'll be amazed at how good this feels for both of you.
--Relax and have fun! It wasn't just the wedding that loosened everyone up; it was the fact that we all set work aside for the time we were together and made the most of every moment.
--Look people in the eye and tell them you love them. 'Nuf said.
So if you have a little happiness inside you, give it, share it, show it! The world is filled with tragedy; we need more happiness desperately. You don't need a special occasion to do it. Just let it out, and watch the beauty that results.
Love,
EL
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I have been away celebrating our daughter's wedding, so please forgive my absence this past week. But being away gave me a chance to see fresh new ways that energy appears and moves through our lives. Today, I'll talk about one of the simplest ones: share your happiness.
Sharing happiness is not natural for most of us. If you think about it, it's not how we socialize. We say, "I feel your pain" or "I share your pain," but you almost never hear anyone say, "I share your happiness,"--even at something like a wedding or the birth of a baby. Somehow, if we say that, it sounds presumptuous, like we're taking something without it being freely given, and most of us wouldn't do that. Or, alternately, that if we share someone's happiness, that there is somehow less of it, even though we have the expression, "happiness shared is doubled."
But if sharing happiness raises your own and everyone else's vibration and ultimately produces more joy for everyone, why don't we do more of it? Maybe we do and just don't realize it. Here are a few things I witnessed in this last week that made happiness grow:
--Share your inner gifts and talents. Our daughter's father-in-law is a musician; he composed a beautiful melody for the bridal couple and performed it during the ceremony, in spite of his discomfort in performing in front of crowds. Everyone loved it.
--Give beyond your comfort zone. Our daughter's best friend from childhood had never performed a wedding ceremony, but she got deputized, created a perfect script, and drew all of us in with her willingness to be there, 100%, for our daughter and her new husband. There could not possibly have been a more loving officiant.
--Be authentic. Our new son-in-law is a fun, funny dancer, and he held nothing back. His naturalness took away any self-consciousness anyone else may have felt about how "good" or "bad" their own dancing is/was, and it made for a very, very good time on the dance floor.
--Show others how your happiness connects to them. Tell them what they've said or done that's helping to put a smile on your face or in your heart. Let you know how incredibly valuable or precious they are to you. You'll be amazed at how good this feels for both of you.
--Relax and have fun! It wasn't just the wedding that loosened everyone up; it was the fact that we all set work aside for the time we were together and made the most of every moment.
--Look people in the eye and tell them you love them. 'Nuf said.
So if you have a little happiness inside you, give it, share it, show it! The world is filled with tragedy; we need more happiness desperately. You don't need a special occasion to do it. Just let it out, and watch the beauty that results.
Love,
EL
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Thursday, June 13, 2013
How's that working for you?
Dear Energy Lady,
I am looking for a way to make my baseball game better. I'm an ok hitter, but I'd really like to be a great one. I've only hit one home run, but I'll never forget it.
Can you help?
Signed,
Sick of strike outs
Dear Sick,
You say that you hit one home run, and that you'll never forget it. What do you remember? Can you feel your feet digging into the dirt? Can you sense the ball coming towards you? Can you hear the sound of the bat meeting the ball? Can you feel the tingle in your arms as you hit it? Can you see it sail away, over the fence?
Ahhhh! Feels good, doesn't it? And since you've done it once, you know what it feels like, looks like, sounds like--maybe even smells like. You don't need to be told that it's possible, because you've done it.
So why don't you do it every time you step up to the plate?
I bet when you read that sentence that a dozen different reasons why you can't do it popped into your mind. So let me ask you this:
How's that working for you?
What if you didn't believe those reasons? What if they weren't true? What if they're just a story you've made up, a fiction?
I'm not saying that you should try to psych yourself into believing that you'll hit a home run every time you step up to the plate. For as soon as you put that polarity on the table, the opposite automatically springs into mind as well. And that's what you don't want.
If you've been reading this blog for a while, you know that Fullistics doesn't require positive thinking in order to work. Instead, it simply involves raising your vibration. And there are many wonderful ways to do that.
In your case, try stepping up to the plate and think...nothing. Put the bat in your hands, a smile on your face and feel your heart open. Then keep your eye on the ball and let life move through you.
Just remember: if a thought isn't working for you, drop it. You can replace it if you want with something more positive, but you don't have to. Just stop believing it.
Have fun!
Love,
EL
I am looking for a way to make my baseball game better. I'm an ok hitter, but I'd really like to be a great one. I've only hit one home run, but I'll never forget it.
Can you help?
Signed,
Sick of strike outs
Dear Sick,
You say that you hit one home run, and that you'll never forget it. What do you remember? Can you feel your feet digging into the dirt? Can you sense the ball coming towards you? Can you hear the sound of the bat meeting the ball? Can you feel the tingle in your arms as you hit it? Can you see it sail away, over the fence?
Ahhhh! Feels good, doesn't it? And since you've done it once, you know what it feels like, looks like, sounds like--maybe even smells like. You don't need to be told that it's possible, because you've done it.
So why don't you do it every time you step up to the plate?
I bet when you read that sentence that a dozen different reasons why you can't do it popped into your mind. So let me ask you this:
How's that working for you?
What if you didn't believe those reasons? What if they weren't true? What if they're just a story you've made up, a fiction?
I'm not saying that you should try to psych yourself into believing that you'll hit a home run every time you step up to the plate. For as soon as you put that polarity on the table, the opposite automatically springs into mind as well. And that's what you don't want.
If you've been reading this blog for a while, you know that Fullistics doesn't require positive thinking in order to work. Instead, it simply involves raising your vibration. And there are many wonderful ways to do that.
In your case, try stepping up to the plate and think...nothing. Put the bat in your hands, a smile on your face and feel your heart open. Then keep your eye on the ball and let life move through you.
Just remember: if a thought isn't working for you, drop it. You can replace it if you want with something more positive, but you don't have to. Just stop believing it.
Have fun!
Love,
EL
Monday, June 10, 2013
Fullistic Flying Without a Plane
Dear Energy Lady,
Can you teach me how to bilocate? I'm tired of commercial flying; would rather just be there than get there.
Signed,
No bags to pack
Dear Bags,
I've often tried to bilocate myself--be in my office and at home--but so far can only do it in my mind. Yes, it's definitely possible, and there have been many reported incidents of it in history. After all, your physical body only appears solid, so if you choose, you can divide it and place the images anywhere you want. There have already been scientific experiments that show that the same piece of matter can go through two different slits at the same time; you're just slightly bigger. Check out Lynne McTaggart's work; she talks about the research.
I've never heard of a bilocation "school" as such, but because you are the creator of your own world, all you really have to do is affirm that you are ready to connect with someone who can show you how to do this, and speak your intention out loud a few times. At that point, you will have created matter; so expect something to materialize sooner or later.
For now, you might want to try Fullistic Flying. It's not the same as bilocation because you basically remain intact, but it's a whole lot of fun. It raises your vibration and feels really light and easy. It's a little like yogic flying, except that you're not freaking out your friends by levitating over the dinner table.
All you have to do is close your eyes and imagine your body becoming transparent. Feel it getting lighter and lighter. Eventually, you'll feel like you're floating. Then just state your intention of where you'd like to go, and you'll move through the air at whatever speed feels comfortable. Sometimes I like to fly over my city; other times I just move through the house without ever touching the floor. Breezing over stairs is especially fun--much like sliding down the bannister when I was a kid, but there's no way to fall off. You just glide and let the air currents carry you.
Now I hear you saying, "but this is just in your imagination!" But so is all of life. Everything you're living now is just a projection of your imagination. The only thing that's real is the energy and love you are. Fullistic Flying takes you back to more of your energetic essence and frees you from the limitations of a dense physical body. And don't be surprised that if you do it, especially if you travel to visit a friend or another city, that you have someone contact you to say that they just saw "someone like you" and had to let you know.
Happy travels!
Love,
EL
Can you teach me how to bilocate? I'm tired of commercial flying; would rather just be there than get there.
Signed,
No bags to pack
Dear Bags,
I've often tried to bilocate myself--be in my office and at home--but so far can only do it in my mind. Yes, it's definitely possible, and there have been many reported incidents of it in history. After all, your physical body only appears solid, so if you choose, you can divide it and place the images anywhere you want. There have already been scientific experiments that show that the same piece of matter can go through two different slits at the same time; you're just slightly bigger. Check out Lynne McTaggart's work; she talks about the research.
I've never heard of a bilocation "school" as such, but because you are the creator of your own world, all you really have to do is affirm that you are ready to connect with someone who can show you how to do this, and speak your intention out loud a few times. At that point, you will have created matter; so expect something to materialize sooner or later.
For now, you might want to try Fullistic Flying. It's not the same as bilocation because you basically remain intact, but it's a whole lot of fun. It raises your vibration and feels really light and easy. It's a little like yogic flying, except that you're not freaking out your friends by levitating over the dinner table.
All you have to do is close your eyes and imagine your body becoming transparent. Feel it getting lighter and lighter. Eventually, you'll feel like you're floating. Then just state your intention of where you'd like to go, and you'll move through the air at whatever speed feels comfortable. Sometimes I like to fly over my city; other times I just move through the house without ever touching the floor. Breezing over stairs is especially fun--much like sliding down the bannister when I was a kid, but there's no way to fall off. You just glide and let the air currents carry you.
Now I hear you saying, "but this is just in your imagination!" But so is all of life. Everything you're living now is just a projection of your imagination. The only thing that's real is the energy and love you are. Fullistic Flying takes you back to more of your energetic essence and frees you from the limitations of a dense physical body. And don't be surprised that if you do it, especially if you travel to visit a friend or another city, that you have someone contact you to say that they just saw "someone like you" and had to let you know.
Happy travels!
Love,
EL
Sunday, June 9, 2013
How to have an amazing week
Dear Readers,
It is Sunday night as I write this, although many of you have already lived most of Monday. But either way, here are three Fullistic things you can do to have an amazing week:
1) Before you get out of bed tomorrow, smile. Then bless yourself and your life in whatever way feels right to you. Hum, pray, sing, give yourself a hug--whatever. Or just say a quick "thanks!" and get going. Whatever works for you. I like to start my day with an "Ahhhh!" which is the sound of God's name in all religions.
2) If you get going before you remember or want to do anything else, then just notice what's not wrong on your way to work. Is your bus NOT late? Did your car NOT break down? Did the other drivers NOT do anything wrong? Find your "Nots" and don't be surprised if you're laughing by the time you walk in the office door--it's a silly little game that works to keep you loose.
3) At least once a day, set an intention before you dive into something, even if it's your email. Choose the outcome you want to create.
Too much to remember? Then try this one very simple thing:
Just have fun.
Really. Just go have a good time with your life--including all the crazy parts. Enjoy what you've created, and have fun creating something new. Stop taking yourself and everything else so seriously, and watch as you "in-lighten" up!
Have a great week!
Love,
EL
Thursday, June 6, 2013
Don't make things so hard on yourself
Dear Energy Lady,
I have too many "nots" in my life. I leave insanely early for most things because I do NOT want to be late. I eat organic food because I do NOT want to get sick. I work late most nights because I do NOT want to fall behind.
As much as this seems to work for me, it doesn't feel right, and I'm not sure why.
Your thoughts?
Signed,
kNOTted up
Dear kNOTted,
You just made a huge discovery. While you've discovered a way to get to your appointments on time, improve your diet and stay ahead in your work, the path you've chosen is putting a lot of energetic barriers in your way.
Our natural state is one of ease, flow and satisfaction. Everything else is a story we make up so we can experience contrast, which makes us supposedly "feel alive." In actuality, it does just the opposite--it keeps us from the bliss of aliveness.
Because our minds are designed to create, whenever we say we "don't" want something, the "not" drops out, and we're left--for instance--"I want to be late" or "I want to get sick" or "I want to fall behind."
If you don't think that's true, then consider this sentence: "Don't think of the pink elephant." What picture immediately came into your mind?
So if the picture of your mind is the thing you don't want, you act more strenuously against it. And that's why it doesn't feel good. You're struggling when you should be floating.
To get your energy flowing, start with the negative of what you don't want, and then do a 180-degree flip on it. So instead of saying, "I don't want to be late," think of the opposite: "It feels good to me to be on time." Some of your other "flips" might be, "I enjoy good health and fresh, clean food," or "I get my work done during regular business hours."
When you do these flips, simply align these new thoughts with your actions, words and spirit. That's when things will start to feel good to you and your energy will radiate!
Love,
EL
I have too many "nots" in my life. I leave insanely early for most things because I do NOT want to be late. I eat organic food because I do NOT want to get sick. I work late most nights because I do NOT want to fall behind.
As much as this seems to work for me, it doesn't feel right, and I'm not sure why.
Your thoughts?
Signed,
kNOTted up
Dear kNOTted,
You just made a huge discovery. While you've discovered a way to get to your appointments on time, improve your diet and stay ahead in your work, the path you've chosen is putting a lot of energetic barriers in your way.
Our natural state is one of ease, flow and satisfaction. Everything else is a story we make up so we can experience contrast, which makes us supposedly "feel alive." In actuality, it does just the opposite--it keeps us from the bliss of aliveness.
Because our minds are designed to create, whenever we say we "don't" want something, the "not" drops out, and we're left--for instance--"I want to be late" or "I want to get sick" or "I want to fall behind."
If you don't think that's true, then consider this sentence: "Don't think of the pink elephant." What picture immediately came into your mind?
So if the picture of your mind is the thing you don't want, you act more strenuously against it. And that's why it doesn't feel good. You're struggling when you should be floating.
To get your energy flowing, start with the negative of what you don't want, and then do a 180-degree flip on it. So instead of saying, "I don't want to be late," think of the opposite: "It feels good to me to be on time." Some of your other "flips" might be, "I enjoy good health and fresh, clean food," or "I get my work done during regular business hours."
When you do these flips, simply align these new thoughts with your actions, words and spirit. That's when things will start to feel good to you and your energy will radiate!
Love,
EL
Tuesday, June 4, 2013
What's NOT wrong?
Dear Energy Lady,
I'm tired of dealing with one problem after another. Is there any way to change this?
Signed,
Hoping for something better
Dear Hoping,
Yes, you can definitely change this with a little game called "What's NOT wrong?"
Here's how you play it: start noticing not what's right, but what's NOT wrong.
Here's an example: The next time you're out on the freeway, notice what's not wrong. You'll probably be surprised to see all the safe drivers. Most people only notice accidents and police stops. When you do, you may even find that traffic speeds up or you feel more relaxed at the wheel, and get to your destination faster.
If you have a big problem--like a health crisis, a debt or relationship issues--how do you look for what's NOT wrong? Realize that if you hit your thumb with a hammer, your attention will go to the pain, not the fact that, at that moment, your feet feel fine. But if you shift your attention to your feet, you'll often find that the pain in your thumb goes away. At any given moment, you have trillions of functions going on in your body. Even when you have a condition of some kind, the majority of them are working just fine. Focus on what's not wrong, and you'll likely start feeling much better.
The energetic principle behind this recommendation is that whatever you pay attention to expands. So if you keep messing with your problems, you just get bigger problems. Stop doing that. When you're tempted to dwell on a problem, find something in yourself or your environment that isn't wrong. Focus on that. You will immediately feel better, which will raise your vibration. Then just keep expanding your focus on what isn't wrong. It's actually a fun game, and the more you play it, the lighter you'll feel, the higher you'll vibrate, and the more things will improve.
This is not positive thinking, by the way. Positive thinking is exhausting if you're forcing it. It's just shifting focus, and allowing yourself to notice what's not wrong. It's not gratitude, either, although that is a wonderful practice and great for raising your vibration. It's just unblocking the flow so what's been waiting for you all along can reveal itself to you.
Have fun!
Love,
EL
I'm tired of dealing with one problem after another. Is there any way to change this?
Signed,
Hoping for something better
Dear Hoping,
Yes, you can definitely change this with a little game called "What's NOT wrong?"
Here's how you play it: start noticing not what's right, but what's NOT wrong.
Here's an example: The next time you're out on the freeway, notice what's not wrong. You'll probably be surprised to see all the safe drivers. Most people only notice accidents and police stops. When you do, you may even find that traffic speeds up or you feel more relaxed at the wheel, and get to your destination faster.
If you have a big problem--like a health crisis, a debt or relationship issues--how do you look for what's NOT wrong? Realize that if you hit your thumb with a hammer, your attention will go to the pain, not the fact that, at that moment, your feet feel fine. But if you shift your attention to your feet, you'll often find that the pain in your thumb goes away. At any given moment, you have trillions of functions going on in your body. Even when you have a condition of some kind, the majority of them are working just fine. Focus on what's not wrong, and you'll likely start feeling much better.
The energetic principle behind this recommendation is that whatever you pay attention to expands. So if you keep messing with your problems, you just get bigger problems. Stop doing that. When you're tempted to dwell on a problem, find something in yourself or your environment that isn't wrong. Focus on that. You will immediately feel better, which will raise your vibration. Then just keep expanding your focus on what isn't wrong. It's actually a fun game, and the more you play it, the lighter you'll feel, the higher you'll vibrate, and the more things will improve.
This is not positive thinking, by the way. Positive thinking is exhausting if you're forcing it. It's just shifting focus, and allowing yourself to notice what's not wrong. It's not gratitude, either, although that is a wonderful practice and great for raising your vibration. It's just unblocking the flow so what's been waiting for you all along can reveal itself to you.
Have fun!
Love,
EL
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