How to Attract

Dear Energy Lady,
I've read a lot about the Law of Attraction, but it doesn't seem to work for me.  I'll think and visualize and try to feel what I want, but then...nothing.  What am I doing wrong?

Signed,
Not Attractive

Dear Attractive,
The problem with the Law of Attraction is that it suggests that there's something "out there" for you to attract, as if there is some kind of cosmic candy store and if you say and/or do the right things, you'll get some treats for yourself.  It assumes that everything you want is already created, and that all you have to do is reel it in...if you know how to fish in the field.

But that's not really how it works. Nothing is "out there"-- the field is a field of all possibilities.  It's all energy in an unformed state, waiting for us to act upon it with our free will.   Energy exists in a wave state until we fix our attention on a thing or an idea.  The wave then becomes a particle.  If you think about something a lot, you start to get many particles, and eventually, it starts to come together as matter.

So it's really the Law of Creation, since you're creating through thought and focus.  Think of it like a delicious stew.  As you add each ingredient to the pot, you see, touch and smell it.  You may also hear sizzling or bubbling or other cooking sounds.   You probably even start to taste the flavors coming together in your mind.  With your physical senses awakened, you may imagine what the finished stew will taste like, along with the rest of the meal--a salad, a glass of wine, a crusty bread, warm chocolate brownies--whatever.  You can probably imagine you and your family or significant other sitting down together to enjoy it.

Energy creating works in much the same way.  But instead of physical ingredients, you're "cooking" with feelings and non-physical traits, like love and joy.  Your ingredients are different types of feelings, typically of something that feels good to you.  Then you combine them in ways that only you can.  As you do, you imagine the outcome, and how much enjoyment it will bring not only to you, but to others.   When you're done, you have created something that has character, tone, intensity and other non-physical qualities.  It's as much of a creation as the stew, but in non-physical terms.

Then, like the stew, you need to enjoy it in its non-physical state.  So allow yourself to "digest" the delicious energy of what you've created.  And, just like food, let it nourish your spirit.  Really, truly enjoy it in thought, feeling and spirit.

And here's the trick--once you're "full" with the feeling and spirit of your creation, simply say "thank you" and "I bless this wonderful feeling" and then be done with it for now.  Stop trying to "attract" or "magnetize" it.  You ARE it, and it has become part of you.  Just like any love, it lives within you and in your energy field, whether it's with you physically or not.

Then just relax and go on to other things in your life.  Don't be surprised if the memory or feeling of your creation returns again and again--it should.  That's the idea.  When it does, close your eyes and enjoy it, and then let it go again.

If you want to make it show up sooner, sing to it or simply write down how it makes you feel and then read it your love letter.  Speaking and singing something into life is a very powerful energy practice. But again, let it go each time.  If you "want" or "need" it or doubt that it will show up,  it loses power and starts to dissolve back into the field.  If you love and enjoy its nature, it will gain energy and eventually transform into matter.  When that happens, it shows up in form as a person, thing or situation that is deeply, richly satisfying and/or delightfully surprising.

So start cooking up some good vibes, and enjoy!

Love,
EL