5 Ways to Raise Your Vibration at Work

Dear Energy Lady,
I try really hard to have a good attitude at work, but by mid-day, I find that I start to complain and focus on the negative.  I know this is really bad for me vibrationally, and that it just makes things worse, but I don't know what to do about it.   Any suggestions would be welcome.

Signed,
Slumped

Dear Slumped,
It's easy to get caught up in the negativity of work; remember when we talked about egregors--the collective thought forms that can create a dense vibrational field in an organization?  But there are a few things you can do to stay in the flow, including:

--Catch yourself complaining, and then stop doing it.  You don't have to be sunny and positive; just stop being negative.  You'll feel immediate relief.

--Try "The Course in Miracles" approach of looking at something that's bothering you and saying, "I could see peace instead of this."

--Go to www.TED.com and look up Shawn Achor.  In the funniest 12 minutes you'll spend today, he'll show you 5 things you can do to feel happy at work.  And if nothing else, the fact that you're laughing as you watch it will raise your vibration

--Speaking of TED talks, since you said your slump is mid-day, consider watching one as you eat your lunch (if you eat at your desk).  Most are 18-20 minutes, and there are thousands of choices that will inspire, uplift or entertain you.  It's a great way to shift your perspective and lighten up.

--Take a walk--preferably outside, and preferably in nature if there is a park nearby.

--Meditate for 15 minutes if that is possible, or simply close your eyes and breathe for 2 or 3 minutes

--Find a reason to smile.  Doing so immediately brightens your radiance.

--Go spend a few minutes with someone you enjoy.  No complaining--just laughing!

Before you do anything of these things, set an intention of how you would like to feel, and then let it go. You'll likely find that this sequence--intention; letting go; action--will help you feel lighter, brighter, more alert and ready to flow into the afternoon.

Love,
EL

A new beginning

Dear Energy Lady,
As the end of the year approaches, I'm starting to think about the new year.  I really want to make a fresh start in a couple of areas in my life.  How do I avoid dragging the energy of my mistakes and regrets with me so I can have the best possible results?

Signed,
Ready and Willing

Dear Ready,
First, let me salute you for recognizing that change works best from the inside out, not the outside in.  Most people think that if they just change their circumstances, everything will be better.  But what happens is that they just get more of what they had; just in a different place and with different people.  In fact, much of the time, things get worse, because whatever they didn't change in the old place intensifies in the new after having been repressed, where the energy just grows stronger and more powerful.

There are many wonderful methods for clearing stuck energy.  The Sedona Method (www.sedonamethod.com) is one of my personal favorites, as is the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT)--check out Nick Ortner's books and website.  Byron Katie's "The Work"  (www.thework.com) is also terrific, and you can work with a facilitator seeking certification at no charge.   Another wonderful resource is Carolyn Myss's "Sacred Contracts," which will give you a better idea of why you're facing the challenges you are by looking at the Archtypes you're trying to resolve in this lifetime.

Other ways to clear stuck energy include prayer, meditation and forgiveness work.  Counseling can also help.   Or you can simply get quiet and listen as, one by one, the old beliefs will undoubtedly come up in your head.  If you can just sit with them without judgement, you may find that they may dissipate.

The next step is in looking at why you want a "fresh start."  If you're trying to escape anything, it will follow you energetically. But if you've done the clearing and are truly ready to move on to something new, then the idea would be to ramp up your vibrational field as high as you possibly can so you can create and attract the best possible circumstances.

And the highest possible vibration is peace, which is a higher frequency than either joy or love.  And fortunately, we're in the season of peace, and, if you're in the Northern Hemisphere, we are in winter, a good time for slowing down and stillness.

So what you want to do is seek peace in all areas of your life.  First, you have to know what peace feels like, so sit down, close your eyes, and try to remember a time when you were truly, deeply peaceful.  Feel it as fully as you possibly can, and see where it resonates for you in your body (for many, it's either the stomach or the heart area, but you may find otherwise).  Know what it feels like so you will know when you have it, and when you don't.

Then remember that your body is an accurate barometer of how you're vibrating.  And your vibration is created by your thoughts.  Every thought triggers an emotion, which triggers a vibrational response.  So what you want is to keep your vibration at peace as much as possible.  Doing so will keep you unblocked, which will allow the best possible circumstances to reach you.  It will also keep you aligned with your ideals, including your desire for a fresh start.

Fortunately, there is peace everywhere in this season.  Feel the peace of sacred holiday music.  If you're in the Northern Hemisphere, feel the silence in a soft snowfall when the world temporarily comes to a standstill.  Read books that make you feel peaceful--Daniel Ladinsky's works on Hafiz are wonderful, as are Eckhart Tolle's and Thich Nhat Hanh's.  

If you're dealing with problems at work, remember the line in the Course in Miracles,  "I could see peace instead of this."  Then do it.  Shift your perspective, and you'll feel your vibration shift with it.

Stay in the moment as much as you can.   Wherever you are is the right place to be.

Wish for peace and happiness for yourself and others in the new year.  Say it out loud; doing so creates it on the quantum plane.

And remember to smile.  That alone raises your vibration substantially.

Enjoy!  And please write again and let me know how you're doing.

Love,
EL

Thanks for Giving the Universe its Energy

Dear Energy Lady,
Tomorrow is Thanksgiving in the U.S., and I've been reading all kinds of things about why you should or shouldn't eat turkey, how to cope with your relatives, and when to start shopping.  It seems like what used to be a simple, fun holiday is now complicated with a lot of political and social decisions.  What does all this do to my energy?

Signed,
Feast or Famine?

Dear FF,
It is interesting to see what has happened to Thanksgiving.  As you say, there are those who argue that the traditional dinner is no longer a feast, but an exercise in gluttony; or that it is necessary to avoid turkey to be sustainably correct.   Still others insist that it is a day for finding bargains, while others declare that shopping should be avoided at all costs so you can focus on family.

Energetically, these are simply points of focus.   They mean nothing in and of themselves.  What does impact your energy, though, is how you feel about them.  If a particular point of view annoys or upsets you, it adds density and static to your energy field.  And if it generates a lot of negative thought, then you will also experience the corresponding negative emotion.  Those emotions are creative, and will likely cause you to experience connections to events and people that will not be to your liking.

So if that's not your intention or desire, then don't take the bait.  Let the arguments swirl about you without getting attached to them.  Instead, set your intention that Thanksgiving will be joyful for you.  Then simply smile and breathe, and either enjoy or be amused at everything that happens.

Regardless of your choice of attitude or action for the day, don't get too seriously about it.  Just lighten up, relax and be open to whatever gifts the day holds.

Remember this:  When you give thanks for everything that happens, you create a blessing, and you give the universe positive energy.  Eventually, that will come back to you in one way or another.

So Happy Thanksgiving!  I hope the holiday is rich with life and love for you.

Love,
EL

Hard-wired for pain?

Hi Energy Lady,
I have a question:  is it possible to be hard-wired for pain?  I really, really, really try to be positive, but no matter what I do, it seems like I flip right back into painful, negative thinking that makes me feel awful and results in experiences I don't want.  I'll take any suggestions you have.

Signed,
Would like to be pain-free

Dear Free,
Actually, it is possible to be hard-wired for pain.  The science of neural plasticity talks about the fact that neurons that fire together, wire together.  What that means is that once you've had a trauma of any kind and you keep replaying it over and over in your mind, neurons connect and "wire" together.  So as you say, you can try to be positive, but that's like putting frosting on a brick.  The first lick might taste good, but when you bite into it...ouch!

So what can you do?  It's possible to have an enlightenment experience similar to what happened to Eckhart Tolle; one day, deep in depressive thought, he said, "I can't live with myself any more."  What happened next surprised him; he fell into a deeply meditative state, and when he came out of it, he could see the radiant energy fields of everything and everyone around him.  Very nice, but not an experience you can willingly duplicate.

Rather than try to unwire the pain, try rewiring some new experiences that feel good.  This is not positive thinking, which has a heavy downside, as each "high" state contains its polar opposite for balance.  Instead, think of a pleasantly happy, peaceful state.  Something you might call relaxed or "chill."

The way to start this is simply to affirm, "I choose happiness."  Then just relax, smile and breathe.  Don't try to define happiness--that will likely start bringing up all kinds of thoughts and reasons why you can't have it.  Just stay generally in the "happiness" realm for a while.  Hum or sing.  Keep smiling.  No need to build yourself up; just be with a not-negative state of mind and being.

The other thing you can do is when the painful, negative thinking comes up, pretend it's a character on a TV show you're watching.  That will separate it from you, and make it a little cartoonish--kind of like watching "reality" TV.  As long as it is separate from you, its vibrations aren't as hurtful.

This said, and you know that I'm not a medical professional of any kind and make no medical claims for any of what is said in this blog; if you think you might need medical help, seek it.  There are wonderful doctors and counselors in the world who are dedicated to helping people with conditions similar to yours.  There is qualified medical help, and it's widely available, even if your funds are limited or non-existent.  

Know this: there is great love in multiple dimensions for you.  Embrace it.

Love,
EL

I want more respect!

Dear Energy Lady,
I hate the way I'm treated at work.  No one respects me.  My boss won't give me any opportunity to advance, and I get cut out of key meetings.  At this rate, I'll never get a raise or get what I want in life.  What should I do?

Signed,
Overlooked

Dear Overlooked,
I could tell you that your boss is a jerk or that life's unfair, but from an energy perspective, that's not what's happening here.

You asked the question, "What should I do?"  In energy work, it's not what you do, it's what you are.  So the correct question is, "How can I BE to get the respect I want?"

First, you need to define what you mean by respect.  If you're trying to control other peoples' behavior, that's force, not energetic power, and it will backfire on you.  Trying to force anything basically says to the universe that your energy is NOT a match to it, which is why you have to manipulate it verbally or physically.  Even if it works in the short run (you get people to say "good morning!" to you, for example), in the long run, it's exhausting for you to keep up, and the response you're looking for disappears.

But if what you mean by respect is a feeling of peace, safety, trust and belonging, then start questioning your thoughts and beliefs.  For instance, if you get don't get invited to a meeting, stop interpreting what that means and just take it at face value.   Everything has the meaning we give it, so if the meaning you're giving it is making you unhappy and lowering your vibration, stop it.  Either don't give it any meaning at all, or give it an alternative  meaning, like, "they're meeting so they can plan how to include me in the next big project."  (But if you don't believe the latter, don't try to "think positive," as it will only backfire energetically.)

In other words, start respecting yourself by refusing to harbor and intensify hurtful thoughts about yourself.   And if you want an opportunity to advance, stop waiting for someone else to give it to you.  If it doesn't exist at your present company, just say to the Universe, "I'm ready to work in a place where I bring tremendous value and I'm respected for my contribution to the success of the organization."  Then keep your eyes and ears--and higher self--open to signals of where you might go or what else you might do.

In other words, no one is responsible for your low vibrations but you.  And if thinking of work just makes you more miserable, spend more time taking care of yourself in other ways.  If you want to feel good, start by doing things and thinking thoughts that make you feel good.  That alone may be enough to start changing your circumstances for the better.

And one more thing.  If you want to get respect, you have to give it.  So make sure that in your quest to be seen, you also see the needs and hopes of others.  Respect those, contribute to those, and you might be surprised by the progress you make.

Good luck!

Love,
EL

Inspiring Others

Dear Energy Lady,
Something interesting happened at work today.   They announced a sales contest, and I sometimes win these.  And I like to win; it certainly beats losing.  But as they talked about the details, I couldn't get excited, and I don't know why.  They gave us a clear picture of what we needed to do, and the rewards are terrific.  What happened to my energy?  How do I get it back?

Signed,
Flat-lined

Dear Flat,
You just discovered something important about energy: it doesn't come from outside you.  You could say that it's in you, or that it is you.   What's outside us gives us the contrast we need to create an identity we can use to navigate physical life.

In your case, maybe you think of yourself as a salesperson, and this has come along to let you ask yourself if that's still true.  Or maybe you're a different kind of salesperson than you once were.  Or it could be that you're simply no longer motivated by money or prizes.  As Grace Farrell says to Daddy Warbucks in the movie "Annie"--"Do you really only love money?  You know it's never going to love you back."   So perhaps you've discovered that winning is fleeting, and you want something more.

Or maybe not.   Consider how the message was delivered.   Was your boss upbeat and excited, or was he/she concerned that things are not going well, and that the contest has a certain level of scarcity and concern attached to it?  It could be that the "normal," you, the one who really loves sales contests and winning, picked up on the "static" of the concern, and it just didn't resonate with you.  So maybe it's just the message, or the way the message was delivered, and not you.

Here's the thing:  energetically, what resonates with us is whatever allows energy to move through us, use us productively or lovingly, or live as us in our most authentic state.  And that's usually something that's tied to being loved, valued or respected.  So if your boss only presented what the contest was and how you could go about winning it, but forgot the "why"--the inspiring reason why everyone should get involved and excited--it's not likely that you'd get engaged without you supplying that reason for yourself.

If that's true, then ask yourself, "What's my 'why?' for this?  What feels right and good and true about this?  How will it impact others if I win?"

Then close your eyes.  If you can feel the result and resonate with it without doubt or concern, then it will likely be easier to get excited.  But if you find that you still can't connect to it, then ask yourself, "what is it I truly want...and why?"

I'll write more about this in coming weeks.

Love to you,
EL

Energy of Obamacare?

Dear Energy Lady,
I'm curious about something: what is the energy of Obamacare?

Signed,
On the fence

Dear Fence,
This is an interesting question.  When it was first conceived, I believe the energy was quite high, as the intention of the program was to make sure all Americans had access to affordable healthcare.   That is something that if life-giving and life-affirming, so usually, there's lot of hope, inspiration and high vibes associated with anything like that.

But the problem was that it was a plan, not a belief.  Had President Obama expressed it as "I believe that all Americans should have access to affordable healthcare," both political parties would have likely agreed, and discussions could have focused on something that would have made all the lawmakers look good and their constituents happy.  But no one wants to share credit or collaborate in Washington right now.  So a plan was created, but plans immediately polarize people, who immediately begin attacking and/or defending it.   When that happens, the original energy stalls.

It's not surprising, then, that today, there are some people who love the new plan and have had no trouble registering, and others who hate it and can't or won't register.  The energy is stuck.  That's one of the reasons why the website works in some cases and not in others; it's reflecting the state of those entangled with it.

Here are a few things that would get things going again:
--a freshly-stated intention by both parties that affordable healthcare is important to all Americans
--a bipartisan agreement that any program has to be cost-effective, and not raise the national debt (which all Republicans and many Democrats feel is important)
--inspiring stories about both people from all political parties who are getting well because of their new-found ability to access care
--making sure the technology of the website works without fail, 100% of the time

Short of these, prayer for the highest possible outcome would help, as would a focus on the facts, not the emotions surrounding the program.

Thanks for asking.  It will be interesting to see how this plays out.  In the meantime, I know I'm sending good vibes to all the lawmakers, and I hope you will, too.

Love,
EL

Get ready, get set...

It's Sunday night as I write this, and I'm wondering how many of you are dreading the start of the new work week.  When you saw the title of this blog post that said, "get ready, get set..."  were you thinking, "Oh no!  Here we go again!"  or were you thinking, "I get to GO into a bright, new, shiny week!"

If you're one of the people who can't wait for Wednesdays because that's "hump day" (meaning that you've gotten over the 'hill' of the first three days of the week), then my guess is that energetically, you're dragging a lot of negative energy into your new week.  If you are, here are a few tips that will make this week a lot easier:

--Whatever happened last week, let it go.  Even if you had a fabulous week where everything went right, tomorrow, as Scarlett O'Hara says in 'Gone with the Wind,' is a new day.  Energetically, when you let go, something new can enter.  If you're already at a high vibrational state, then something even higher can enter.  And if you are or were at a low state, something higher can come in.  Either way, you win.

--Walk into work singing, or if you can't bring yourself to do that, then at least humming.  And if you can't hum, dance your way in the door.  I don't care if you are an attorney in a buttoned-up firm; you've got music in you, and that vibe will take you a lot farther than anger and worry and a "do battle" attitude.

--Remember Dr. David Hawkins' scale of vibrational increase.  Force does not equal power.  You have power.  You ARE power.  You do not need to force anything.  And when you do think or actually force something, you shut down your power.  Just let it flow.

--Smile--at least 15 times a day.  The average American child smiles more than 400 times a day; the average American adult, less than 15.  If you smile at least 15 times a day, you'll automatically feel better, since it's impossible to feel bad when you're smiling (try it if you don't believe me).  When you feel good, you vibrate higher.  When you vibrate higher, what you create and attract through your vibratory state is bigger and better.

--Stop trying to "figure things out."  Use your intuition--particularly for your most difficult problems.  You'll get better answers.  Paying attention to your problems only energizes them, giving you bigger problems.  Using your intuition will help solutions come to and through you.

--Laugh every day this week.  No matter what you're doing, enjoy being you!  And don't take yourself or anything too seriously.  Everything in life is changeable, and remember: everything turns out all right in the end, and if it's not all right, it's not the end.  :)

Love,
EL

Are you happy today?

Dear Energy Lady,
Got any ideas on how to be happier?  It seems like every time I try, I get let down.  I'm tired of hoping for things that don't happen.

Signed,
Disappointed

Dear Disappointed,
What you're saying is that you can only be happy if certain things that you hope for happen (if I'm understanding you correctly).  So you raise your hopes that those things will happen, and if they don't, or don't happen the way you hoped they would, you don't feel you can be happy, so you're not.

From an energy perspective, you're doing it backwards, or at least a lot harder than it needs to be.  By withholding your happiness, you're keeping your vibration low.  By keeping your vibration low, you almost guarantee that the thing you want to happen, in a way that would make you feel good, is almost impossible.  This is because 1) you're not a vibrational match to it and 2) you'll have to try doubly or triply as hard to get any kind of result at all.

So try this:  Stop hoping or expecting.  I'm not saying to give up hope--just to set it aside for now.  Same thing with expectation.  Right now, your expectation is that you're going to be disappointed, so you keep manifesting more disappointment.  So set aside any expectation, good or bad.

The next time you do something, do it because you want to do it.  Take as much pleasure as you can in the doing of it.  Just stay as present and as focused on the activity itself as you can.  Don't think about where it's leading or what could come of it.  Just enjoy!

In that state of enjoyment, your vibration rises, and the energy flow begins.  Let it make you feel as good as it does.  Be as satisfied with it as you can be.  It's ok if it's not perfection or bliss.  Try smiling as you do whatever you do; it's biologically impossible to feel bad when you're smiling.

So just relax and enjoy being you and doing what you do.  Without placing conditions on that, more happiness can enter, naturally.  Be aware of that.

You can also keep a gratitude list; many people have found that counting their blessings makes them feel happier.

Love,
EL

Have you been blessed today?

Dear Readers,
I had an experience this week that I wanted to share with you, since it has everything to do with raising your vibration and bringing more love, peace and joy into the world.   It's called "The Blessing," and Possibility Maximizer Carolyn Vinup invented it.

No, this is not "The Blessing" created by Dr. John Trent which has become a global phenomenon.  Dr. Trent looks at blessing from the biblical perspective, and has done a magnificent job of spreading the idea that everyone deserves to have someone who's crazy about them.  He is Love in action, and has spent many years uplifting others.  If you'd like to read more about John and his life-affirming work, you'll find him at http://johntrent.publishpath.com

Carolyn's "Blessing" is similar in that it makes the recipient feel loved and valued, but in far more than an earthly sense.  Carolyn is a master at using Tibetan singing bowls, and employs them as she clears and moves the energy field around her clients so that the blessings the client receives are not only from her, but from higher dimensions and fields.  

The feeling is one of pure bliss, and it's easy to deeply relax and let it all in.  The result is different for every person, but there's no denying that the sense of safety, peace and joy resonates in mind, body and spirit.  You can read more about Carolyn at http://carolynvinup.com and talk to her about how you can experience her blessing for you or your group.

Blessing acknowledges the love that we are and deserve to have, and opens energy pathways for us to reach our highest potential.   So the question is:  do you feel blessed?  Have you blessed others?  What sounds of blessing are meant to flow from your heart into the world?

More than positive thinking; more than creative action, blessing attunes our world to the joy life is meant to be.  Try giving one or simply being one, and you'll likely see a shift into more love, peace and openness in your life experience.

Love,
EL

The energy of jealousy

Dear Energy Lady,
I have a problem.  I get jealous really easily.  My girlfriend is great, but even if she doesn't look at another guy, if one looks at her, I'm ready to punch him.  I really, really love her, and don't know what to do to keep her.  

Signed,
Jealous

Dear Jealous,
Jealousy is an interesting emotion energetically.  Vibrationally, on Dr. Hawkins' scale, it comes in at about 100 on a scale of 0-1000, so it's very low.  It is on the same level as fear and anxiety.   Some say it resonates even lower--down at a mere 20--which is where misery, shame and humiliation reside.

Love, on the other hand, resonates at 500.  So you can see that on a vibrational scale, jealousy has nothing to do with love, and feeling jealousy is not helping you love your girlfriend more, nor will it make her love you more.

Some say that fear stands for False Evidence Appearing Real.  And you can't be in fear and in love at the same time.  And you get to choose--fear or love.  If you choose fear, then you're deliberately deciding to feel tense and angry.  That's right--you're choosing it and holding on to it.  Maybe the energy makes you feel more powerful or passionate.  But as you've probably seen, girls don't stay with guys who try to control them or their lives.  Real power isn't force.  Real power is magnetic, and because it vibrates high, people are naturally attracted to it.

So the next time you feel yourself getting jealous, say to yourself, "I have a choice.  I can choose fear or love.  It's up to me."  Then try sitting back, put your arms behind your head with your elbows out, and relax.  This is a high-power body position that will help boost your self confidence.  Stay that way for two minutes if you can, and you will feel more comfortable in your own skin. In other words, your brain will believe your body that you're relaxed, and it will calm down.  While you're doing it, pay attention to what's actually happening, not the make-believe world of your own thoughts.  Chances are good that you'll see that all is well.

It's up to you.  Choose love, not fear.  Relax your body, and it will send signals to your brain that will make you feel better fast.  Try not doing or saying anything else in the two minutes it takes to do this.

Ultimately, I can't guarantee that this will help you keep your girlfriend (she didn't write to me; you did), but it will make you feel a lot better about her, any situation you're in, and yourself.  And with your vibration up higher, the relationship has a better chance to survive and thrive.  And if it does break up, you'll be in a better vibrational place for your next relationship.

Love,
EL

Healing a relationship with energy

Dear Energy Lady,
My boyfriend and I are really struggling.  I think we both want to make this work, but we fight all the time and then end up not speaking at all.  We've been to counseling and it's helping some--but sometimes it's hard to listen.  Any thoughts?

Signed,
Want to be in love again

Dear Love,
The most important thing when working with energy is to focus on what you want, not on what you don't want.  So the fact that you and your boyfriend are focused on trying to make this work is a good thing, and certainly, professional counseling is a great way to sort out your differences, learn new ways of communicating and supporting each other, and growing.

If you'd like to add some energy to your efforts to make things go easier or faster, here are a few things you can try:

1) The next time you find yourself getting "hooked" about something your boyfriend says or does, rather than reacting, stop and observe yourself.  Notice where you're feeling the emotion, and what it's suggesting that you do or say.  Just watch it.  As soon as you detach, it will start to fizzle and fade.  You may still be annoyed, but your reaction and actions will be much gentler.

2) The next time you're in a room together, embrace him with your etheric body.  To do this, put your feet flat on the floor.  Take a few breaths.  Relax.   Imagine that your heart has a door, and it's opening.  You will see or feel a warmth or tingling in your chest as you do this.  Let out the light in your heart until it envelops you completely.  This should make you feel very good.  As you do this, you're filling your etheric body, the vibrational field immediately adjacent to your physical body.  This energy body is very fluid, and can stretch to any size.  It's the same shape as your physical body, only as large as you need it to be.  Fill it with love and light, and then "reach out" with it to touch or embrace your boyfriend.  This is especially fun to do if he's not sitting near you--he'll feel something, but won't know what; he'll just know he feels good.  Embrace him like this as long as you feel comfortable.

3) When you're apart, send him good thoughts.  The best way to do this is to speak them aloud.   You can say things like, "I love you, honey."  "You're my guy"  "You're the best" or talk about any other things you like about him.  Again, the intention couples with the physical release of the vibrations, which raises the vibes between you.  (And don't be surprised if he calls or texts when you do this, saying that he was "just thinking of you.")

4) Start noticing what you like and what is right about him and your relationship, not just what is wrong. It's really easy to focus on the negative, and when you do, you only get more of it.  Bring back some balance by naming one right thing for every "wrong" thing.

5) Finally, make sure you like who you are.  It's impossible to love someone else if you don't love yourself, so take some time to notice what's right, good and lovable about YOU.   This will also help make you less needy, and if the relationship does end, will leave you in a better place, able to move on.

Love,
EL

What will you do with your lottery winnings?

Dear Energy Lady,
The Lottery in the U.S. is up to $400 million!!!!  I really want to win it!!!!  How do I get my vibes up before Wednesday?

Signed,
Ready to be rich

Dear Ready,
If you really, truly want to win the lottery, you might want to look at my earlier blog post, "Paul White's Lottery Energy."   In it, you'll see some of the many reasons why he was a perfect vibrational match for a big win.

But this said, if you have not spent most of your adult life preparing to win the lottery the way he did,  there really is only one other way to become a good vibrational match to what you say you want:

Let go.

In other words, the more you "want" or "need" to win, the lower your vibration and the less likely that you'll be a match for great wealth.  By wanting and needing, you remain in a state of wanting and needing, not winning.  Paul White didn't want or need the money; he had a good job.  He just thought it would be fun to win it.

If, on another hand, you may say that you neither want nor need the money, but rather, would simply LOVE to have it.  And maybe you've had wonderful thoughts about all the joy and happiness the money would bring you.  No doubt, you will be able to buy a lot of nice stuff with it, and can also invest and support others' dreams and comfort.

But  again, there's an energetic trick here:  you can enjoy the things that money can buy, but you can't buy love.  As Grace Farrell says in the movie, "Annie"--money can never love you back.   So if it's love or stature or respect that you're looking for, you're coming from a lower vibration that isn't a match to the higher vibration of wealth.  (This is also the reason why so many lottery winners go bankrupt; they're coming from a vibration of fear, not peace, so their actions with the money are fearful, which results in loss.)

So unless you're like Paul and have been entertaining, preparing for and enjoying the thought of winning the lottery for decades, the only way to raise your vibration to be a match to the supreme wealth is either not to care about it at all. Many of the people who win the lottery are like this: they have no negative or concerning feelings about winning or losing.

Try this:  Buy your lottery ticket.  Then forget about it.  Go do anything that makes you feel happy and peaceful.  Just relax and enjoy your life as it is.  Be in the moment, and forget about the future and the past.  Just live as fully as you can right now.

An alternative is to buy a lottery ticket, look at it, and say, "I don't know what I am seeing."  Is it a piece of paper, a collection of molecules and atoms, or something that has simply been dreamed up from empty space?  Is it real at all?  Play with the idea that it is no-"THING" at all, or that you are simply making up stories about it.  See if doing so makes you feel looser, more relaxed, and more playful about it.  If you lighten up, you're raising your vibration.   And when you do that, better things have to happen naturally.  So even if you don't win the big prize, other good things are likely to happen to and through you

Love you!
EL

Green, purple and orange cars

Dear Energy Lady,
How can I tell if I am truly manifesting something, or if it's just dumb luck?

Signed,
Wanna be a wizard

Dear Wanna,
If you want to feel more direct experience as a co-creator (you're never in this energy game alone;  you're an individualized part of a single creative field, so essentially, you're always co-creating with your self), then try a simple experiment.

Decide that you want to see more green cars.

What you'll discover is that there are a lot of black, white, grey, silver and black cars, and sometimes red and blue.  But there aren't a lot of green cars or trucks.   Within a few days, you'll start seeing them everywhere, though.   That's because what you focus on and then relax about, you create.

Once you get the hang of green cars, go for orange, or better yet, purple.  Again, you'll be busting through the old  belief of "there are no orange or purple cars"; improving your focus, and building your present-moment awareness of what's around you.

These skills will make it easier for you to manifest more of what you want, because you will start to see the field around us as friendly and playful.

Have fun!

Love,
EL

Too busy and high strung to relax

Dear Readers,
Even Energy Ladies need a tune-up once in a while, so I'm happy to share that I am currently taking part in Penache Desai's 21-day program.  It's impossible to describe how gracious and loving he and his wife are or how wonderful it feels to listen to him speak.  His words ring true, and his message is simple:  we are all loved and supported, and all is well.

Since this column talks about how our vibrational state affects our life experiences, I will share the one thing that Penache has reinforced in our encounters thus far:  if you want to raise your vibration, just relax.

For most people, that is easier said than done.  See if anything on this list holds true for you:

--You can't keep your hands off your Smart or Iphone, constantly sending messages, surfing the Internet or checking to see if anything has come in for you

--You head for your computer as soon as you get home from work

--You are constantly busy; the word "multitasking" was designed with you in mind

--Your mind races day and night, and often awakens you from sleep

--You watch TV shows that agitate you; you may even find yourself yelling at the set

--You never, ever finish your "to do" list

--Even on vacation, you're either running around or checking your technology

If any of this is true for you, you're probably blocking the flow of energy in your life, which suggests that things could possibly be more of a struggle for you than they need to be.

There are certainly many ways to let go, but Penache suggests something very simple:  Just relax.

Can't do it?  Try again.

Just relax.

You could try tensing/releasing every major muscle group; a hot bath with magnesium salts; soothing music; petting your favorite animal; a massage; or just breathing.  But know this:  as soon as you turn off your thinking and simple BE, what is truly meant to be yours will come to you and through you.

Turn off the busy and turn on to being.   And if you'd like to experience Penache for yourself, his website is www.penachedesai.com

Enjoy!

Love,
EL

On the wings of love

Dear Energy Lady,
Why is it that when you're in love, everything in your life works better?  And how can you keep the energy going when the relationship starts to settle into a softer rhythm?

Signed,
Flying High

Dear Flying,
Love is a very high vibration.  Dr. David Hawkins calibrated a vibrational scale that you'll find in his book, "Power Versus Force," and love calibrates at a level of 500 out of 1000.  And if you're feeling a little bit joyful, that calibrates at 540.   Only Peace and Enlightenment are higher.

So when you're vibrating at such a high level, you create and magnetize experiences that resonate at the same level.   Since these vibrate at the same level as love, these experiences usually feel very good to you, so you consider that your life is "working better."  But it really isn't life that's working any better; it's you.

Of course it's natural to want to keep this feeling going as long as you can.  But that's the thing with energy: you can't hold on to it or stop it.  It has to flow.  And honestly, you wouldn't appreciate the feeling of love or beauty if you didn't also experience the contrast of the lower vibrations.

This said, you can keep your vibration high by continuously releasing love.  Just let it go.  This creates a vacuum so that more love can flow in.  And if you believe that love is limitless, that's exactly what will happen.  So you need to trust that love is abundant for everyone.

Actually, since love is what makes up all of creation, you may start to see/experience it everywhere.   So try this:  start paying attention.  Look for love in all its forms.  Young love.  Old love.  Friends.  Care-giving.  Grieving when someone you love dies.  Love of animals, earth, hobbies...you name it.  Love is everywhere.

Get used to the idea that love is your/our natural state of being, and it's only the stories we tell ourselves that covers it up.  So the more you deliberately try to get in touch with it every day, the "higher" you'll feel about life and in life.

Love you!
EL

10 blocks to manifestation

Dear Energy Lady,
I am a great visualizer--I have a terrific imagination, and no have no problem having vivid, almost-real thoughts.  My problem is that I'm not manifesting things as fast as I think I should be.  What's the problem?

Signed,
Fantasy Land

Dear Fantasy,
Sounds like you just have some old, stale energy that's blocking your creations.  Here's a partial list of what might be mucking up the works:

--Old beliefs that no longer serve you
--A negative environment that is neutralizing your creative efforts
--Stuck energy (do you sit around a lot?  Get up and move!)
--Doubts and/or fears about manifesting what you think you want
--Trying to control outcomes in a very specific way
--"Working" at manifesting rather than allowing it
--Wanting something--the more you want, the more you create separation between yourself and the thing you're trying to create.  Try imagining that you have it, not that you don't
--Thinking of something happening in the "future"  (everything is created in the now)
--Trying to manifest something that's good for you, but could be harmful to others
--Trying to manifest something in someone else's life

When you manifest, ask what your intention is in doing so.  What is the ultimate result or outcome you're trying to create?  Focus on the changed state of being, and see if it feels light, peaceful and happy to you and all who are touched by it.  If the answer is yes, carry on.  If not, back off and just enjoy the life you have in this moment, for it too was created by you.  Then things can unfold naturally from there.

Have fun!

Love,
EL

Lovely!

Dear Energy Lady,
I've been consciously working on letting go of some of my negative stuff, and lately, it feels like there has been a shift.  Is it me, or is there really more love in the world these days?  Are everyone's vibes up or what?

Signed,
Feeling Buzzy

Dear Buzz,
I don't know if there's any more love in the world than there used to be; since all of us ARE love, it may not be a matter of amount, but rather, how much of it we let out.  Good for you for making a conscious effort to reveal yours!

Most of the time, we pour out our love in times of tragedy.   But you're right; there does seem to be more love than ever before.   Many loving teachers have emerged who are helping people quiet their minds and bring out their joy.  And maybe people are just getting tired of being angry and negative, so they're choosing happiness.  

If you know people who aren't feeling this way yet, tell them to simply open their eyes and look around.  There is a wonderful movie called "Love Actually" that says, "if you look, you'll see that love is actually all around."  And it's true.

On any given day, you can see safe drivers everywhere.  Parents hug their children at bus stops.  You see friends laughing together.  Billions of emails are sent every day, and many of them contain kind or uplifting thoughts.  People share what they love about life on Pinterest and other sites.  Restaurants are full of people enjoying thoughtfully prepared meals and time with friends or family.

In nature, flowers grow, clouds float by, and the ocean dances with the shore.  Every place on earth has something wonderful or beautiful.

This doesn't mean that there isn't any ugliness or sadness in the world; it just points out that if we pay attention, there is at least as much or more love for everything and everyone.

So you're right--the vibes are up; the joy is rising!   Keep letting go of your heavier vibes, and you'll see more and more of them.

Vibrantly,
EL

Working Naturally

Dear Energy Lady,
It's Monday, and I hate going back into an office after spending the whole weekend outdoors.  Is there any way I can keep the energy of nature going inside 4 walls?

Signed,
Nature Girl

Dear Nature,
Yes, it's true that being out in nature helps our energy to flow, which is why it feels so good.  Often, our thoughts soften and our hearts open outdoors, which is why so many people find inspiration or renewal there.

Offices are usually the antithesis of a natural environment, and even having a few plants in your office doesn't do much to change the atmosphere.  So don't focus on the physical; instead, look at the energy of nature, and how you can make that come alive through you wherever you happen to be.

Here are a few ideas you can try:
--Nature is authentic.  A tree is a tree; a bird is a bird.  One does not try to be the other.  Be authentic at work and bring your whole self to your part in the action.

--Nature thrives in all stages of the lifecycle.   In nature, things are born and they die, and exist in all stages in between.  At work, we often fight against change, rather than accept that it is a natural part of daily life.  If you're holding on to old beliefs, stuck habits or grudges, let them go.

--Nature welcomes everyone.  Are there people at work you dislike?  Do you avoid certain people?  Even fungus, mold and decay are part of nature, and play an important part in nourishing the soil and providing homes for the life of the forest.  So realize that everyone has a role to play, even if you may not like it/them.  See if you can appreciate their point of view and what they bring to the moment, even if that is only negative contrast for others to use to determine a more positive point of view.

--Nature has many personalities.  It can be stormy and destructive, or peaceful and nourishing--sometimes within a period of minutes.  It all serves a purpose, and it's inevitable.   So take care.  Use your common sense and your sixth sense to know when to go forward in a storm or when to ride it out.  Remember that sometimes nature uses wildfires, tornados and other destructive forces to reinvent itself, and that often, something new and better emerges after the trouble has passed.

In other words, be natural, not negative when you come to the office.  Stop trying to change the  nature of the office and instead, live in it as you do when you're outside.

Enjoy!

Love,
EL

Paul White's Lottery Energy

Dear Energy Lady,
I was listening to Paul White talk about his lottery win, and it seems like there are a lot of connections between what you write and what he said.  Am I imagining this, or is it true?

Signed,
Future Lottery Winner?

Dear Winner,
No, you're not imagining the connection.  There is a huge energy component in what happened to Paul; while some might call it "lucky," it was actually Fullistic, including multiple dimensions of mind, body, spirit and higher dimensional vibration.  Here's why:

1) He was quoted as saying, "I've been waiting for this day my entire life."  From a mind perspective, he had been thinking of this for years, and maybe decades.  Every single time he did that, he resonated with the vibration of being a lottery winner.  If you do that thousands of times, you eventually become that vibration, and winning is assured.

2) From a body perspective, he played the lottery games all the time, but reserved his $10 bets for when the Powerball was big.  In other words, he went out and bought the tickets.  As they say, "You can't win it if you're not in it."  Plus, he kept his eye on his Powerball numbers.  Anyone who plays the lottery knows that it is the Powerball that matters; if you have that, you always win something, even if it's just a few dollars.  Paul always checked his Powerball number first, because he expected to win.

3) From a spirit perspective, he talked about winning in a light-hearted way.  He said that everyone knew his financial plan was to win the lottery.  Winning wasn't a hope that he kept locked inside him; it was part of his normal conversation.  Every time he did that, he was speaking the experience into being.

4) Also from the mind and spirit perspectives, he knew exactly what he was going to do when he won.  He said he had rehearsed the day in his mind hundreds of time, so when the time came, he said it was easy for him to move forward, claim the prize and get the publicity out of the way so he could move forward.  What this suggests is that he had absolutely no fear or reservation about winning; no worry about what he would say or do, which would block the arrival of the experience.

5) From a higher mind perspective, he is focused on sharing his win with others.  This win isn't just good for him; he has his heart and mind set on giving his family and others great experiences with it.   He's using the money to bring joy to others, and to do good in the world through charity.   So he clearly enjoys money and appreciates what it can do.  My guess is that he already has a good financial planner, too.

6) He's having fun.  This may be the most important energetic element.  Most lottery players are deadly serious.  They want to win, but likely feel like losers when they buy the tickets.  That disconnect is enough to stop the flow of energy cold.  Paul didn't need this money; it was a "nice to have" not a "must have."  He enjoyed the experience of playing and the happy thoughts it generated for him.   He turned the game into a game he played with himself, and made a lot of other people laugh along the way.   He says he hopes he doesn't change, and he probably won't, since he's actually been resonating with the energy of being a lottery winner for decades, and his personality has stayed intact.

So there you have it.  If you want to win the lottery:  1) Visualize it.  2) Talk about it.  3) Expect it.  4) Plan for it.  5) Participate in the game.  6) Think like a winner and focus on what makes for a winning ticket.  7) Have a generous heart.  8) Don't take yourself or the lottery too seriously.  9) Have fun!

That's the energy of a winner!

Love,
EL

The desires of your heart

Dear Energy Lady,
I've been trying to set goals, but the problem is that I have little kids, a demanding job and lots of other things that keep me from achieving them.  I'm open to any advice you want to give.

Signed,
Still at the starting line

Dear Starting,
From an energetic standpoint, there is a big problem with goals.  When you set them, there's a gap between where you are now and where you want to be.   In other words, there's a mismatch between your vibrational levels, and until you shift to the new state, you'll never realize what you want or hope.   That's why you'll never get "there" from "here"--the distance in vibrations is too great.

What to do?  Imagine that you have already achieved your goal, and that you're in an entirely new state of being.  Shift into what you might otherwise call the "future," although by doing it now, it's happening in this moment.  Just allow yourself to feel as you would if things were the way you want them to be. 

If you feel doubt or other thought blockages to the new state, those will need to be challenged and/or removed.  Once you do, you will have and be in the new state, and circumstances will shift to support you to more fully become and stay in it. 

In other words, change first from the inside, and the outside will conform to your wishes.  You may have heard the expression "act as if," and you'll need to do that, but not until you ARE "as if." 

Mostly, that simply means letting go of any tension you feel, and accept that the desires of your heart (which are driving your goals) are meant to manifest.  So stop fighting them with excuses.  Just let them live in you, and then live them in the world.

Love,
EL

Same results in half the time?

Dear Energy Lady,
Is there any way to use energy to get the same or better results in half the time?

Signed,
Speedy

Dear Speedy,
Of course.  Try this|

1) Decide your purpose.  What outcome do you want to create?  Begin with the end in mind.  Picture it clearly.  Close your eyes and get a sense of what this new state of being feels like.  Know intellectually, emotionally and vibration ally what you are going for.

2) Once you are clear, ask yourself, "how can I achieve this is in _____minutes (or hours, days, etc.)?"  If you don't believe that is possible, you will sense resisting thoughts and feel it somewhere in your body.  Don't fight it or try to talk yourself out of it.  Just sit with the resistant feeling, realizing it's just old, trapped energy.  If you don't fight with it or hold on to it, it will lessen in power and likely disappear, or certainly weaken.

3)  Close your eyes and see a clock or calendar that has the time or date you want on it.  Mentally stamp it with "Done!"  Smile at your creation and bless it by saying, "this is good."

4) Add, "I welcome and accept all resources in this dimension and any other that will help me achieve this outcome in the time I have specified."

5). Your creation is now complete.  Relax.

6). Start working.  Only do those things that contribute to the outcome you want.  Stop doing everything else.  No exceptions.

Enjoy the work!  If you hate it, you slow the flow of energy.  If you cannot enjoy it, then just accept it.  The highest state of energy flow is enthusiasm, so if you can really get into the joy of creating in the world this way, you'll see even faster results.

Happy endings!

Love,
EL

Energy vampires

Dear Energy Lady,
I have a couple of co-workers who are really negative.  I come to work with a positive attitude, but after about 10 minutes with these people, I feel like all the energy has just been sucked out of me.  I don't want to be rude, but I can't be near these people.  Any suggestions?

Signed,
Vampire-weary

Dear Weary,
What you're describing isn't unusual.  Humans have about 50,000 thoughts a day, and 40,000 of these are framed negatively.  Every negative thought generates emotion, which affects our energy field.  Some people have very intense emotions, even if they don't demonstrate those with bad behavior.  You can feel their vibes as they come down the hall--they can be that strong.

So yes, there are things you can and perhaps should do.  Try this:
--Pause before you walk in the door of your workplace, and set an intention.  Say or think something like, "I am safe, happy and protected at work."  Imagine a bubble of pink light covering you from head to toe.  Nothing can penetrate this bubble without your permission.

--If someone is yelling at you or otherwise saying negative things that are meant to stimulate a negative response from you, mentally project a mirror that faces out, towards them.  Whatever they are saying will bounce off that and be reflected back to them.  You might be surprised at how quickly this stops a negative attack.

--If you forget to do these things, try simply staying present to the other person's negativity without taking it personally.  You can respond to whatever they're saying with things like, "it seems as if you're really bothered by that" or "Sorry to hear that you feel that way."  In other words, acknowledge them and their negativity, but don't take it on.  

--And if you're feeling particularly good, you can stay within your pink bubble and radiate out light and love to everyone in your office; to your clients, and to the world.  Become a source of love, peace and joy.  Don't judge anyone; realize that everyone is just doing the best they can with the beliefs they have.  Love them as they are.

Love,
EL

Help me sleep!

Dear Energy Lady,
What's the right kind of energy to get a good night's sleep?  And how do you get it?

Signed,
Tired All the Time

Dear Tired,
The challenge for busy people is that our minds are often full when it's time for bed.  And since our thoughts generate emotions, which is really energy in motion, it's a problem.  The more we think, the more we feel.  The more we feel, the more vivid our energy becomes.  As author Carolyn Myss says, our biography is our biology, so the more we stay engaged with our personal story as we try to fall asleep, the more our physical body responds.  And unfortunately, most of those responses do not lead to sweet, restful sleep.

If your mind is truly active when you lay down, you can try running through everything for which you are/were grateful during the day.  That will help raise your vibration if it is low.  Or you can try imagining that you have a helper in your brain that is sweeping out the corners and "turning off the lights."  Once the "room" is empty, it's time to sleep.

If your personal story still won't quit, try telling yourself, "I am No-Body.  I am No-Thing."  Or you can try, "I am Every-Body.  I am Every-Thing."  This is simply an acknowledgement of the truth that you are Source energy in form, as is everyone and everything else.   This little mantra helps you disconnect from a lot of the emotions associated with a human story, and can make it easier to release, relax and sleep.

Another energy technique comes from author Eckhart Tolle, who suggests turning all of your attention to the energy field in your feet, and then slowly bringing your attention up your legs, into your torso, across your arms and then into your neck, face and head.   Because it is impossible to think two thoughts at once, as long as your attention is on your energy field, it is not on your thoughts.  As those get starved for energy because of the lack of attention, they fade, and it's easier to fall and stay asleep.

Finally, you can simply say, "Everything is all right," over and over and over.  This affirms the truth that we cannot get life "wrong," and that there is great love in this dimension to support us.

Sweet dreams!

Love,
EL

Welcoming wealth

Dear Energy Lady,
I have taken about a dozen courses on how to attract wealth, but nothing works.  Got any good ideas?
Signed,
Waiting for My Ferrari

Dear Ferrari,
The problem with the "Law of Attraction" is that it makes it sound like everything in the universe is already created, and you're supposed to "magnetize" it to you.  But it doesn't really work like that.  The universe is not some kind of cosmic candy machine that dispenses goodies if you say the right affirmations.

Instead, it works on the principle that you can create whatever you want. That's the start.  Instead of thinking like an object like a car, however, start thinking about creating a state of mind and being in yourself.   In other words, you don't want to think ABOUT wealth, as that still keeps you separate from it.

But you also don't want to try to force yourself into a state of being wealthy, since if you're not that now, you're setting up a condition where you are actually creating mixed signals in your own body.

Here's the thing:  our natural state is one of wealth, health and happiness.  So rather than try to attract wealth, just relax.  If you knew you were already wealthy, you wouldn't feel anxious, would you?  Imagine that the universe is trying to give you more money than you could ever imagine.  If your fists  are closed, you cannot receive it.

So you've already created it with all your programs and study.  It exists.  You don't need to "attract" it.  Instead, see where you may be rebuffing it or shutting yourself off from it. For instance, if someone wants to give you money, do you say thanks or think that it's not enough?  Do you avoid paying your bills?

Allow money to be in your life, and welcome it in whatever form it comes.  Take care of whatever money you have. Wealthy people use their money wisely.

Wealth is a state of being before it's a state of bank account.

Enjoy!

Love,
EL

A Perfect Week

Dear Energy Lady,
I have always wondered what it would be like to have a perfect week.  How can you stay in the flow 100% of the time?  Is this even possible?

Signed,
Life is Easy?

Dear Easy,
To answer your questions, I have to ask you a few:
--What's your definition of "perfect"?
--Why/when do you think you're out of the "flow"?
--What is it that you really want to experience?

Let's just say, for instance, that your definition of "perfect" is "no problems."  So you're asking, "how can I have a week without any problems?"  It does sound tempting, doesn't it?  But did you ever see the movie "Pleasantville"?  In that movie, there was a little town where nothing ever went wrong.  It was always pleasant...and boring.   We use the contrast of things going wrong to set them right, which helps us experience ourselves in satisfying ways.

But let's say that you'd like every deal to go through, every phone call to be answered and every encounter you have be satisfying.  For that to happen, the people involved in those situations with you would need to want the same thing, and when you're working with energy, you can't create in another person's experience.  

Then there's the question of "flow."  You're never out of the field of energy; you are it, it's in you and everything and everyone else.  So there's no way you can be disconnected from it (which is why I write this blog--people don't seem to realize that, and use it in unintended ways).

So what can you do to have a "perfect" week?

Start with your intention.  How would you like to feel?  No one but you can determine your feelings and/or your attitude, so if you'd like it to be happy, then make it so.  If something happens that you think is bad or that makes you feel unhappy, don't ignore the feeling--happily welcome it and the growth and understanding it can give you.

Then, to whatever degree is possible, stay awake and aware to what is right and good.  Notice the good drivers on your way to work--you'll be amazed at how many there are!  Notice when the elevator works, the door opens, the coffee is already brewed, the computer works and the people in your office do what they're supposed to be doing.  Notice where in your body you DON'T hurt.  Just start paying attention to what is working, and you'll start to create and attract more of it.   You can also look for what is perfect, and you'll likely find that, too--a job well done, friends smiling, a good meal--the possibilities are endless.

Finally, bless and be thankful for all that is going well for you.  Share your abundance of intelligence, love or caring with others.  Bring goodness to the world and be open to what goodness is here for you.

All this may not create a perfect week, but it will certainly create an adventure in adding significantly to your happiness, which will raise your vibration and undoubtedly create more good things happening to and through you!

Love,
EL

What are the vibes of your relationship?

Dear Energy Lady,
I'm wildly in love with my boyfriend.  The vibes between us are amazing!  How can I keep it going forever?

Signed,
Good vibrations

Dear Vibes,
I'm so happy to hear that you and your boyfriend are going strong.  I'm going to take a guess that your relationship is relatively new, and that you're paying a lot of attention to the things you like about one another right now.  So yes-when you're putting intense attention on what you like and appreciate, it does feel amazing.

Can you keep that going forever?  Perhaps.  But to do that, you'll need to perceive and appreciate something new and wonderful about your boyfriend constantly.  That may be possible, but it will be a challenge.  To do it, you'll want him to change and grow, and to enjoy the process and results as much as he does.

Another way to increase the vibes between you is to keep releasing your attachment to him.  Yes, you read that right-release your attachment.  The more you let go, the more unconditional love and higher vibrations can enter, and the experience of oneness can emerge.  So you move from excitement to bliss.

But no matter what you do, do not expect things to say the same as they are now.  If you do, it's a guarantee that the vibrations will eventually fall, because all of life is in a process of constant change.
Love your boyfriend-and yourself-for the people you are becoming as we'll as for the spirits you are and have today.

Wishing you lots of love,
EL

The seven words that will change your life

Dear Energy Lady,
About six months ago, my biggest client suffered a setback, and my business hasn't been the same since.  I've tried to be supportive and keep touching base with them, but nothing is happening.  Is there any way I can help them energetically so we can start doing business again?

Signed,
In a sinkhole

Dear Sinkhole,
I was at a convention a few years ago where the keynote speaker gave us some advice:  "There are seven words that will change your life," she said.  "And here they are:  When the horse is dead, get off."

I'm not saying that your client will never recover, but right now, that horse is dead, so get off.   Every time you worry about them or contact them hoping to do business again, you're infusing them with more of the scared, negative energy of scarcity and frustration that they neither want nor need right now.  So the very best thing you could do for them energetically is to back off until you are in a better place to help them.

It's never easy to lose a client, especially your biggest one.  But "big" is only as big as you can currently perceive it.  What if there were even a bigger, better client for you?  Or what if there were a dozen smaller clients who would help you expand your skills and network?  What if there were no new clients, which might push you in the direction of joining with an organization or different group of people?  The possibilities are endless.

Try not to judge or reject anything right now.  One of the best things you can do for your previous client or yourself right now is to simply let go.  Release them with your blessings.  At some point, you may start to feel that you have No-Thing left, which can actually be a good thing.  For the vibration of No-Thing is where all possibilities are born.  If you only stay with what you can imagine, you will only get a variation of what you have already experienced.  But if you stay open, higher vibrations can arise within and around you, and that's when wonder-FULL things start to happen.

And if, in the meantime, you need a new source of income, go get one.  Figure out what you need to do to pay your bills, and  live within your means until things improve.

So remember: you're not in a sinkhole, you're in a swimming pool!  Float your way back to the top.

Love,
EL

Who am I?

Dear Energy Lady,
I am a wife, a daughter, a sister, a woman, a mother, a grandmother, a niece, an Aunt, a friend, a volunteer, a coworker, a direct report, a cook, a musician, a gardener, an artist, a citizen, an alumna, a voter, a Presbyterian, an athlete, a peace-maker and more.  So my question is: what do all these identities make me energetically?

Signed,
Multiple Personalities

Dear Multiple:
The answer is simple: they make you, You.

In actuality, none of these things is you.  They are just roles you have chosen, either consciously or spiritually.  You will likely have and lose multiple roles in your lifetime, but none of them is you.  They're just what you want to do or how you want to define yourself at the moment.

So in terms of how they impact you energetically, every single one of them limits your energy in some way.  This is necessary because if it didn't, you'd never experience the contrast you need to continue creating and getting the most out of what the life experience has to offer.

Additionally, you will undoubtedly love some roles more than others, and some circumstances in those roles more than others.  Some roles and situations make you feel peaceful and free; others make you feel resistant.   How you are, not what you are, decides how your energy flows.

Just remember this:  because you are none of these things and all of these things, they do not define you.  You are actually No-Thing and No-Body because you are Source/God/Love in an individuated form.  So regardless of your roles, do not identify too closely with them.  If you do, something will likely happen that will challenge that belief.

Love,
EL

The joy of becoming No-Thing at work

Dear Energy Lady,
I am working my butt off at work, try to have a good attitude, and be a decent team player.  I have made some really good gains for the company, but my manager can't stop putting me down.  I don't get it.  I'm doing everything right, but it seems like she sees me as a big zero.  Any advice?

Signed,
Frustrated

Dear Frustrated,
Your situation is very interesting from an energy standpoint.  There could be several different things going on.  So let me ask you a couple of questions:

--Do you like your work?   When I hear that someone is working their butt off, that can suggest that you feel your work is an effort.  Those who truly love what they do say things like, "I like/love my job" or "I feel good about the work I do" or "I'm proud and satisfied with the results I'm getting."   If you don't like your work, your manager may be the external reflection of some low level vibrations you may be stuffing down deep inside yourself.

--If you like your work, do you enjoy being a team player?  Would you rather work independently?  Again, you will always get a match to how you are, not what you believe should be true.

--What does the voice in your head say to you when you're at work?  Is it constantly making you work harder?  Do you feel like you're pushing a boulder uphill?  All of those states of mind/heart/spirit are vibration-shrinkers.

--Do you somehow feel like a "big zero"?  Where did that expression come from in your life?  Are you secretly afraid of failure?

All of the above could keep you stuck in your present unpleasant circumstances.  To break free, consider this:

Become No-Thing.

That's right.   Become nothing.  Really!  

Here's why:  people are terrified of becoming, being and having nothing.  So we fight with all our might against it, and it's exhausting.  Doing so lowers our vibration and makes it impossible to experience life as an act of creation and joy.   So we make ourselves into somethings:  sons, husbands and fathers; daughters, sisters and wives.  We take on roles at work so we can say we "are" a Vice President or a champion tennis player or a financial advisor.   But all of these are just roles that we have, and we can change them if we want.  Sometimes life even changes them for us so we can realize we are not these things.

So if you are not your roles, then who are you?  No-Thing.  If you are no-thing, you are seeing yourself as you truly are: an individuation of Source energy, or God.  In that state, you can be anything, and indeed, you can see that everything is God in some form.  

Better yet, if you are No-Thing and can be Any-Thing, you can start to see the connection between you and every other person and thing you encounter.  This includes your manager, which is why I asked if she is simply expressing a fear you have never voiced or some deep, dark doubt you hold about yourself (see my blog on "How's that working for you?" to get rid of those).

So relax.  Take a deep breath before you walk into your office tomorrow.  Announce to yourself:  "I am No-Thing here, which means that I am and can be Anything and Everything!"  Then see if you can start seeing the connection/reflection of how you are with what is happening to and around you.

It's a lot of fun when you start doing this.  And fun raises your vibration.  When your vibration raises, your boss's comments should stop or change dramatically.  If they don't, they'll start to bounce off you like rubber.

Happy No-Thingness!  :)

Love,
EL

Letting love move through you

Dear Energy Lady,
I am a loving person.  Really!  I love my cat, I love my family and friend, I love my job, I love chocolate--I can name all kinds of stuff and people that I love and that make me feel really good.  Still, it feels like something is missing, because when I'm not with someone or doing something I love, I feel kind of blah.  Am I just selfish?

Signed,
Looking in the mirror

Dear Mirror,
No, you're not selfish.  In fact, you may be on the verge of being self-less, which would open you to the most wonderful, all-emcompassing love of all.

In the Jewish tradition, they say that after we die, God asks us, "What did you learn about love in your lifetime?"  And most people describe it as you just did--attached to people or things you enjoy.  There's nothing wrong with that, for, as Vincent Van Gogh once said, "the way to know life is to love many things."  But as you say, there is a limit to how satisfying that is, and for many of us, it leaves us craving more and more.

So if you'd like to experience love in a new way, try closing your eyes, putting the tip of your tongue on the roof of your mouth, and smile.  Then put all your attention on the area around your heart.  You can even smile at your heart if you like.  See if you can sense a golden light there.  You might not "see" a light, but rather, feel a tingle or even experience a sound of some kind or an aroma that feels soft and gentle.  Everyone experiences energy in different ways that are unique to you.  Once you connect to a feeling that is pleasant, comfortable and/or makes you smile, stop thinking about it--just dive in and experience it.  Imagine that you just dove into a deep pool, and that suddenly, everything else on earth just falls away.  Ahhhhh!!!!!

If you have trouble doing that, then just keep sensing the light and letting it expand until it completely covers you...and then the room or place you're in....and then the town you're in...the state or province you're in...the country...the continent...the world...the solar system...and the universe.  Just let it keep getting bigger and bigger.  If you don't stop it, it will expand on its own.  Enjoy the sensation of this.

Eventually, you will start to realize that this light is love and that it's in you and everything/everyone else.   You may even start seeing light around yourself, or other people and things.  But even if you don't, doing this little happy exercise every day will likely make you feel much more satisfied with both the love you have and the love you are.  You won't need it to come to you, since it will be coming from you endlessly.  Just relax and enjoy the feeling!

Love,
EL

Share your happiness

Dear Ones,
I have been away celebrating our daughter's wedding, so please forgive my absence this past week.  But being away gave me a chance to see fresh new ways that energy appears and moves through our lives.  Today, I'll talk about one of the simplest ones:  share your happiness.

Sharing happiness is not natural for most of us.  If you think about it, it's not how we socialize.  We say, "I feel your pain" or "I share your pain," but you almost never hear anyone say, "I share your happiness,"--even at something like a wedding or the birth of a baby.  Somehow, if we say that, it sounds presumptuous, like we're taking something without it being freely given, and most of us wouldn't do that.  Or, alternately, that if we share someone's happiness, that there is somehow less of it, even though we have the expression, "happiness shared is doubled."

But if sharing happiness raises your own and everyone else's vibration and ultimately produces more joy for everyone, why don't we do more of it?   Maybe we do and just don't realize it.  Here are a few things I witnessed in this last week that made happiness grow:

--Share your inner gifts and talents.  Our daughter's father-in-law is a musician; he composed a beautiful melody for the bridal couple and performed it during the ceremony, in spite of his discomfort in performing in front of crowds.  Everyone loved it.

--Give beyond your comfort zone.  Our daughter's best friend from childhood had never performed a wedding ceremony, but she got deputized, created a perfect script, and drew all of us in with her willingness to be there, 100%, for our daughter and her new husband.  There could not possibly have been a more loving officiant.

--Be authentic.  Our new son-in-law is a fun, funny dancer, and he held nothing back.  His naturalness took away any self-consciousness anyone else may have felt about how "good" or "bad" their own dancing is/was, and it made for a very, very good time on the dance floor.

--Show others how your happiness connects to them.  Tell them what they've said or done that's helping to put a smile on your face or in your heart.  Let you know how incredibly valuable or precious they are to you.  You'll be amazed at how good this feels for both of you.

--Relax and have fun!  It wasn't just the wedding that loosened everyone up; it was the fact that we all set work aside for the time we were together and made the most of every moment.

--Look people in the eye and tell them you love them.  'Nuf said.

So if you have a little happiness inside you, give it, share it, show it!  The world is filled with tragedy; we need more happiness desperately.   You don't need a special occasion to do it.   Just let it out, and watch the beauty that results.

Love,
EL



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How's that working for you?

Dear Energy Lady,
I am looking for a way to make my baseball game better.   I'm an ok hitter, but I'd really like to be a great one.  I've only hit one home run, but I'll never forget it.    

Can you help?

Signed,
Sick of strike outs

Dear Sick,
You say that you hit one home run, and that you'll never forget it.   What do you remember?   Can you feel your feet digging into the dirt?  Can you sense the ball coming towards you?   Can you hear the sound of the bat meeting the ball?  Can you feel the tingle in your arms as you hit it?  Can you see it sail away, over the fence?

Ahhhh!  Feels good, doesn't it?   And since you've done it once, you know what it feels like, looks like, sounds like--maybe even smells like.   You don't need to be told that it's possible, because you've done it.

So why don't you do it every time you step up to the plate?

I bet when you read that sentence that a dozen different reasons why you can't do it popped into your mind.  So let me ask you this:

How's that working for you?

What if you didn't believe those reasons?  What if they weren't true?  What if they're just a story you've made up, a fiction?

I'm not saying that you should try to psych yourself into believing that you'll hit a home run every time you step up to the plate.  For as soon as you put that polarity on the table, the opposite automatically springs into mind as well.  And that's what you don't want.

If you've been reading this blog for a while, you know that Fullistics doesn't require positive thinking in order to work.  Instead, it simply involves raising your vibration.  And there are many wonderful ways to do that.

In your case, try stepping up to the plate and think...nothing.  Put the bat in your hands, a smile on your face and feel your heart open.  Then keep your eye on the ball and let life move through you.

Just remember: if a thought isn't working for you, drop it.  You can replace it if you want with something more positive, but you don't have to.  Just stop believing it.

Have fun!

Love,
EL

Fullistic Flying Without a Plane

Dear Energy Lady,
Can you teach me how to bilocate?  I'm tired of commercial flying; would rather just be there than get there.

Signed,
No bags to pack

Dear Bags,
I've often tried to bilocate myself--be in my office and at home--but so far can only do it in my mind.  Yes, it's definitely possible, and there have been many reported incidents of it in history.  After all, your physical body only appears solid, so if you choose, you can divide it and place the images anywhere you want.   There have already been scientific experiments that show that the same piece of matter can go through two different slits at the same time; you're just slightly bigger.  Check out Lynne McTaggart's work; she talks about the research.

I've never heard of a bilocation "school" as such, but because you are the creator of your own world, all you really have to do is affirm that you are ready to connect with someone who can show you how to do this, and speak your intention out loud a few times.  At that point, you will have created matter; so expect something to materialize sooner or later.

For now, you might want to try Fullistic Flying.  It's not the same as bilocation because you basically remain intact, but it's a whole lot of fun.  It raises your vibration and feels really light and easy.   It's a little like yogic flying, except that you're not freaking out your friends by levitating over the dinner table.

All you have to do is close your eyes and imagine your body becoming transparent.  Feel it getting lighter and lighter.  Eventually, you'll feel like you're floating.  Then just state your intention of where you'd like to go, and you'll move through the air at whatever speed feels comfortable.  Sometimes I like to fly over my city; other times I just move through the house without ever touching the floor.   Breezing over stairs is especially fun--much like sliding down the bannister when I was a kid, but there's no way to fall off.  You just glide and let the air currents carry you.

Now I hear you saying, "but this is just in your imagination!"  But so is all of life.  Everything you're living now is just a projection of your imagination.   The only thing that's real is the energy and love you are.  Fullistic Flying takes you back to more of your energetic essence and frees you from the limitations of a dense physical body.  And don't be surprised that if you do it, especially if you travel to visit a friend or another city, that you have someone contact you to say that they just saw "someone like you" and had to let you know.

Happy travels!

Love,
EL

How to have an amazing week

Dear Readers,

It is Sunday night as I write this, although many of you have already lived most of Monday.  But either way, here are three Fullistic things you can do to have an amazing week:

1) Before you get out of bed tomorrow, smile.  Then bless yourself and your life in whatever way feels right to you.  Hum, pray, sing, give yourself a hug--whatever.   Or just say a quick "thanks!" and get going.  Whatever works for you.   I like to start my day with an "Ahhhh!" which is the sound of God's name in all religions.

2) If you get going before you remember or want to do anything else, then just notice what's not wrong on your way to work.  Is your bus NOT late?  Did your car NOT break down?  Did the other drivers NOT do anything wrong?   Find your "Nots" and don't be surprised if you're laughing by the time you walk in the office door--it's a silly little game that works to keep you loose.

3) At least once a day, set an intention before you dive into something, even if it's your email.  Choose the outcome you want to create.

Too much to remember?  Then try this one very simple thing:

Just have fun.  

Really.  Just go have a good time with your life--including all the crazy parts.  Enjoy what you've created, and have fun creating something new.  Stop taking yourself and everything else so seriously, and watch as you "in-lighten" up!

Have a great week!

Love,

EL

Don't make things so hard on yourself

Dear Energy Lady,
I have too many "nots" in my life.  I leave insanely early for most things because I do NOT want to be late.  I eat organic food because I do NOT want to get sick.  I work late most nights because I do NOT want to fall behind.

As much as this seems to work for me, it doesn't feel right, and I'm not sure why.

Your thoughts?

Signed,
kNOTted up

Dear kNOTted,
You just made a huge discovery.  While you've discovered a way to get to your appointments on time, improve your diet and stay ahead in your work, the path you've chosen is putting a lot of energetic barriers in your way.

Our natural state is one of ease, flow and satisfaction.  Everything else is a story we make up so we can experience contrast, which makes us supposedly "feel alive."  In actuality, it does just the opposite--it keeps us from the bliss of aliveness.

Because our minds are designed to create, whenever we say we "don't" want something, the "not" drops out, and we're left--for instance--"I want to be late" or "I want to get sick" or "I want to fall behind."
If you don't think that's true, then consider this sentence:  "Don't think of the pink elephant."  What picture immediately came into your mind?

So if the picture of your mind is the thing you don't want, you act more strenuously against it.  And that's why it doesn't feel good.  You're struggling when you should be floating.

To get your energy flowing, start with the negative of what you don't want, and then do a 180-degree flip on it.  So instead of saying, "I don't want to be late," think of the opposite:  "It feels good to me to be on time."  Some of your other "flips" might be, "I enjoy good health and fresh, clean food," or "I get my work done during regular business hours."

When you do these flips, simply align these new thoughts with your actions, words and spirit.  That's when things will start to feel good to you and your energy will radiate!

Love,
EL

What's NOT wrong?

Dear Energy Lady,
I'm tired of dealing with one problem after another.  Is there any way to change this?

Signed,
Hoping for something better

Dear Hoping,
Yes, you can definitely change this with a little game called "What's NOT wrong?"

Here's how you play it:  start noticing not what's right, but what's NOT wrong.

Here's an example: The next time you're out on the freeway, notice what's not wrong.  You'll probably be surprised to see all the safe drivers.  Most people only notice accidents and police stops.  When you do, you may even find that traffic speeds up or you feel more relaxed at the wheel, and get to your destination faster.

If you have a big problem--like a health crisis, a debt or relationship issues--how do you look for what's NOT wrong?  Realize that if you hit your thumb with a hammer, your attention will go to the pain, not the fact that, at that moment, your feet feel fine.  But if you shift your attention to your feet, you'll often find that the pain in your thumb goes away.  At any given moment, you have trillions of functions going on in your body.  Even when you have a condition of some kind, the majority of them are working just fine.  Focus on what's not wrong, and you'll likely start feeling much better.

The energetic principle behind this recommendation is that whatever you pay attention to expands.  So if you keep messing with your problems, you just get bigger problems.  Stop doing that.  When you're tempted to dwell on a problem, find something in yourself or your environment that isn't wrong.  Focus on that.  You will immediately feel better, which will raise your vibration.  Then just keep expanding your focus on what isn't wrong.  It's actually a fun game, and the more you play it, the lighter you'll feel, the higher you'll vibrate, and the more things will improve.

This is not positive thinking, by the way.  Positive thinking is exhausting if you're forcing it.  It's just shifting focus, and allowing yourself to notice what's not wrong.  It's not gratitude, either, although that is a wonderful practice and great for raising your vibration.  It's just unblocking the flow so what's been waiting for you all along can reveal itself to you.

Have fun!

Love,
EL

The light of love

Dear Energy Lady,
Every time I read about energy, it says, "connect to the light."  Exactly how do you do this?  What is the source?  Is there any way to stay connected?

Signed,
In the dark

Dear Dark,
I can answer this with a little story.  After God finished creating the heavens and earth, the Almighty said, "I would like all humankind to seek me, so they will have the joy of our reconnection.  Where shall I hide?"

The eagle said, "Fly with me to the top of the highest mountain.  They will never be able to reach it."

And God said, "Eventually, they will."

The bear said "Hibernate with me in the heart of the cave.  They will not find You there."

And God said, "Yes, they will.  They will learn to travel deep into the earth."

The shark said, "Swim with me into the deepest sea.  They will not come there."

And God said, "Yes, they will.  They will learn how to go safely to the bottom of the deepest oceans."

It seemed there was no place that God could hide where man and woman could not find him.  And then the sparrow spoke:

"Hide in their hearts.  They'll never look for You there."

In other words, you don't need to worry about connecting to the light because you ARE light.   And so is everyone and everything else.  You can actually see this if you learn to see the energetic field that emanates from us.  Check out Kirlian photography and you can see examples, or try this:  look at top of someone's head, as if you were staring at 12 o'clock.  Then look slightly to the right, to 1:00, and then immediately back to 12.  You might start to see a glow around the top of the other person's head.  That is part of their energy field.

But if you'd like to go past party tricks to experiencing more love, then ask yourself, "How can I express the love that I am?"  You might be inspired to write a note of thanks or praise; whip up a fabulous meal and share it with those you love; sing in the rain; solve a complex problem, or something--anything!--else that feels good and right.  That's love talking, using you as its instrument.

Our world has enough darkness.   Let your light shine!

Love,
EL

Losing the energy of anger

Dear Energy Lady,
I have heard that harboring anger and resentment can cause your vibrations to sink.  Is this true?  If so, what are the consequences of it?

Signed,
Stuck in the mud

Dear Stuck,
Yes, it is true that anger and resentment can lower your vibrational field.  Most people think that they are sending out the energy to others, hurting them rather than themselves, but that's not the way it works.  Your emotions only impact you.   No one else is harmed or helped by them, unless you take action on them, for better or worse.

When you're angry, you're actually only vibrating on a level of 150, according to Dr. David Hawkins, reporting on his extensive study of energy states in his book, "Power Versus Force."  At that level, you're likely to create experiences that will feel antagonistic or aggressive, and either arouse hate in you or make you the object of hate.

In addition, as author Carolyn Myss points out, "your biography is your biology."  So not only are you creating experiences you don't want, you're harming your biological health.   Those studying mind/body medicine say that anger and resentment are associated with a host of diseases, including heart attacks and cancer.

So yes, anger keeps you stuck in, as you say, mud.  Gooey, slimy, not fun mud.  Not a pretty picture.

If you're angry, you're probably convinced that you're right about something.  From your point of view, you are.  But from the other person's point of view, they're right, too.  Everyone operates from their own beliefs and values; what you're experiencing is nothing more than different worldviews.  So try a little empathy.  Put yourself in their shoes, and try to see the situation from their point of view, not your own.  If you take yourself out of the picture, even for just a few minutes, it's like unplugging a lamp.  Release the anger to take on a different point of view, and it will release you.

Once you feel more relaxed, check in with your own highest and best values.  Think of things that feel good and right to you--like honesty, integrity, authenticity, love, happiness, peace, etc.  Then ask yourself, "How would someone who values _________ (fill in the blank) see the situation now?"

Chances are good that you'll feel yourself getting lighter and freer as you do this.  From that new vibrational standpoint, you can look at the former situation as a great teacher that showed you how to use your energy more productively.  You may actually find yourself feeling thankful for it.

So don't be afraid of anger, and don't run away from it.  It can carry you to greater heights if you embrace what it has to teach you.

Love,
EL