Dear Energy Lady,
I have a problem. I get jealous really easily. My girlfriend is great, but even if she doesn't look at another guy, if one looks at her, I'm ready to punch him. I really, really love her, and don't know what to do to keep her.
Signed,
Jealous
Dear Jealous,
Jealousy is an interesting emotion energetically. Vibrationally, on Dr. Hawkins' scale, it comes in at about 100 on a scale of 0-1000, so it's very low. It is on the same level as fear and anxiety. Some say it resonates even lower--down at a mere 20--which is where misery, shame and humiliation reside.
Love, on the other hand, resonates at 500. So you can see that on a vibrational scale, jealousy has nothing to do with love, and feeling jealousy is not helping you love your girlfriend more, nor will it make her love you more.
Some say that fear stands for False Evidence Appearing Real. And you can't be in fear and in love at the same time. And you get to choose--fear or love. If you choose fear, then you're deliberately deciding to feel tense and angry. That's right--you're choosing it and holding on to it. Maybe the energy makes you feel more powerful or passionate. But as you've probably seen, girls don't stay with guys who try to control them or their lives. Real power isn't force. Real power is magnetic, and because it vibrates high, people are naturally attracted to it.
So the next time you feel yourself getting jealous, say to yourself, "I have a choice. I can choose fear or love. It's up to me." Then try sitting back, put your arms behind your head with your elbows out, and relax. This is a high-power body position that will help boost your self confidence. Stay that way for two minutes if you can, and you will feel more comfortable in your own skin. In other words, your brain will believe your body that you're relaxed, and it will calm down. While you're doing it, pay attention to what's actually happening, not the make-believe world of your own thoughts. Chances are good that you'll see that all is well.
It's up to you. Choose love, not fear. Relax your body, and it will send signals to your brain that will make you feel better fast. Try not doing or saying anything else in the two minutes it takes to do this.
Ultimately, I can't guarantee that this will help you keep your girlfriend (she didn't write to me; you did), but it will make you feel a lot better about her, any situation you're in, and yourself. And with your vibration up higher, the relationship has a better chance to survive and thrive. And if it does break up, you'll be in a better vibrational place for your next relationship.
Love,
EL
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Sunday, June 12, 2011
Someone else has my job!
Dear Energy Lady,
A friend of mine was recently hired for a position that I also applied for, despite the fact that her credentials are somewhat spurious. Now, I have trouble remaining civil with her in social situations. I realize it's sour grapes on my part, but cannot seem to help myself. Any thoughts on the energy complications of this situation?
Signed,
Mark S.
Hi Mark,
When you are envious or jealous of someone else, what it does is put an energy barrier between you and what you want. Not just her job, but any job.
It's because of how jealousy and envy make you feel. When you're angry, frustrated or even frightened, your energy field pulls in tight and has a lot of static in it. If you add in thoughts/feelings of lack, your energy field loses even more power. It's like trying to run a car on a dying battery. You may move forward, but it won't be with nearly the speed or power you want. Energy begets energy. Lack begets lack.
No amount of positive thinking or civil behavior can make up for the energetic damage you do to yourself when you're jealous. So remember this: first, this other person IS a good match for the job she got, regardless of her credentials. She may fit the culture of the organization better or differently than you. Perhaps there's a life lesson there for her that you don't need. Maybe she felt good about the job right from the start, and embraced it mind, body and spirit. Or, more simply, maybe she just didn't have any resistance to it, and allowed it to enter her life effortlessly.
In any case, if you really, truly want a similar job, the best thing you could do now is energetically create one for yourself. So enjoy whatever you can about the work you're currently doing. Look for what she did and is doing right, and incorporate that into your own thinking, behavior and beliefs. Get comfortable with the idea that there is no real lack in the world, only that which we perceive. No one else can get "your" job--you're the only one who can fit it energetically.
If you want to try an energetic "tune up" on this, try making a list of everything you like about her job. Then look at everything you would have hated about having it (and there must be things, or it would have been yours). Do a 180-degree flip on the hated things so that in the end, you create a list of only what you'd love to have in your next job (NOT her job). Look for where in your life you already have some of those things now, or at least the feeling of them. Read the list out loud. Get comfortable with the feeling of being that happy in a job. Whenever you are in the state of relaxed happiness and are speaking about what you like, are thankful for or enjoy, you vibrate in harmony with what you want. Do that enough, and sooner or later, it will be yours.
Relax. Allow. Enjoy!
Love,
The Energy Lady
A friend of mine was recently hired for a position that I also applied for, despite the fact that her credentials are somewhat spurious. Now, I have trouble remaining civil with her in social situations. I realize it's sour grapes on my part, but cannot seem to help myself. Any thoughts on the energy complications of this situation?
Signed,
Mark S.
Hi Mark,
When you are envious or jealous of someone else, what it does is put an energy barrier between you and what you want. Not just her job, but any job.
It's because of how jealousy and envy make you feel. When you're angry, frustrated or even frightened, your energy field pulls in tight and has a lot of static in it. If you add in thoughts/feelings of lack, your energy field loses even more power. It's like trying to run a car on a dying battery. You may move forward, but it won't be with nearly the speed or power you want. Energy begets energy. Lack begets lack.
No amount of positive thinking or civil behavior can make up for the energetic damage you do to yourself when you're jealous. So remember this: first, this other person IS a good match for the job she got, regardless of her credentials. She may fit the culture of the organization better or differently than you. Perhaps there's a life lesson there for her that you don't need. Maybe she felt good about the job right from the start, and embraced it mind, body and spirit. Or, more simply, maybe she just didn't have any resistance to it, and allowed it to enter her life effortlessly.
In any case, if you really, truly want a similar job, the best thing you could do now is energetically create one for yourself. So enjoy whatever you can about the work you're currently doing. Look for what she did and is doing right, and incorporate that into your own thinking, behavior and beliefs. Get comfortable with the idea that there is no real lack in the world, only that which we perceive. No one else can get "your" job--you're the only one who can fit it energetically.
If you want to try an energetic "tune up" on this, try making a list of everything you like about her job. Then look at everything you would have hated about having it (and there must be things, or it would have been yours). Do a 180-degree flip on the hated things so that in the end, you create a list of only what you'd love to have in your next job (NOT her job). Look for where in your life you already have some of those things now, or at least the feeling of them. Read the list out loud. Get comfortable with the feeling of being that happy in a job. Whenever you are in the state of relaxed happiness and are speaking about what you like, are thankful for or enjoy, you vibrate in harmony with what you want. Do that enough, and sooner or later, it will be yours.
Relax. Allow. Enjoy!
Love,
The Energy Lady
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