Dear Readers,
I have taken a break from writing this blog because I have been busy developing Fullistic programs that I can share on the net and in person. So I hope to meet you eventually at one of them!
In the meantime, let me tell you about Basil (name changed), who called and asked about selling his house. It had been on the market for over a year, and he and his wife had already purchased another house in a new city where they had moved for his job. They really didn't want to rent out the house; they were tired of the cost and responsibility of maintaining it, and wanted to concentrate on their new home and location.
Basil gave me all the the reasons why his house hadn't sold. The market was depressed in their area. It was priced too high. It faced a busy street. It "only" had three bedrooms. The more he talked, the clearer it became that the house and the sale was blocked by the negative energy of his doubts and frustration.
I asked him if he'd like to try a Fullistic approach, and he was willing to try anything. The first thing was to let go of the house. Before it could become someone else's house, it had to stop being "his" or "their" house. It just had to be "a" house. And not just any house; a house that was ready and eager for someone new to love it. By breaking the energetic hold he had on the property, it also freed up the energy to glow and become more attractive to a new buyer.
Then I asked him if the house wanted to speak, "introducing" itself to its new owners. What did it want to say? He started enumerating all of its lovely attributes, which made it obvious that it would be perfect for someone working at or attending a nearby university, or as an investment for someone who wanted to rent it out, as there were several new industries in the area, and it had close proximity to both public transportation and the highway.
He spoke of the house in the first person, as if he was the house. In the world of Fullistics, everything is part of the One, so this is actually a natural way to embrace what is.
Once the house introduced itself through him, I asked if he'd like to create a Facebook page so the house could get liked by others. He lit up at the thought, and said he would try it.
Then came the final piece: making peace with the idea that all was well. Once he did this, he could relax and focus on his new location, fully knowing--not believing or hoping--that the old property was now energetically magnetic to its new owners, and that as long as he didn't throw an energetic wrench in the works, the house was as good as sold at the asking price, since its true value could now shine through.
If you have been stuck or frustrated in any area, try the steps outlined above:
1) Use what you don't want to identify what you do. Get clear on the positive. Let go of the negative, but don't worry if it's still in your thoughts. Just leave it alone and let it be there.
2) Ramp up the positive by giving it a voice. Let it speak to the universe through you. Life loves beauty.
3) Think of a way of anchoring your creation in the world. Social media is only one way; there are many others
4) Then smile and relax. That expands your own energy field so that more things become possible.
In any case, Basil now has potential buyers looking at his house; if he lets me know, I'll share the results with you here.
Love,
EL
Welcome to Dear Energy Lady.com, an advice column for those who want life to be easier and more fun. Based on Energetic principles, the Energy Lady is here to teach you about aligning what you think, say and do with higher vibrational resources like intuition, energy bodies, and clairaudience, as well as release energy barriers to better health, happiness and success.
Thursday, August 7, 2014
Monday, June 2, 2014
Bikini body
Dear Energy Lady,
Is there a way to use energy to lose weight fast? I want to have a bikini body by July 4.
Signed,
In a Hurry
Dear Hurried,
Yes, there are some things you can do energetically to lighten up in a short period of time. Because this is an important topic, I'll cover some of it here, and then address it again in future blogs.
The first thing is to remember that your body does not know the difference between something you're merely thinking about and an actual experience. So if you imagine eating a warm, fudgy brownie, you will start to salivate and you will release insulin, even if there is no brownie available. And here's the problem: in the absence of sugar, insulin stores fat. So the more you think about and resist that chocolate brownie, the harder it will be to lose weight because you're actually storing more fat just by thinking about it. So it's really true when people say, "I gain weight just thinking about food."
So try this: Instead of resisting the foods you want, eat them in small amounts, but really stop and savor every bite. Let the food fully satisfy you. Take in its aroma, its flavor. Really, truly let each little bite sink in. In other words, use your energy to fully enjoy its energy. You'll probably find that it doesn't take much to make you happy, and then you stop thinking about it entirely. This allows your metabolism to do its wonderful work, and the impact of the so-called "bad" food is transformed.
(This doesn't mean, though, that you can just eat a bunch of junk food and expect to lose weight. But you should discover that if you stop eating mentally and start eating and enjoying for real, you eat less and get more energy and pleasure from what you're eating, which makes the energy exchange between you and the food work better.)
Along with this, examine your self-talk about food so you can see what you're creating with your thoughts, feelings and words. In my "Fullistic Weight Loss" workshops, I've had people say things like, "I gain weight the second I go off my diet" or "Weekends always make me fat" or "I can never lose weight." It's not surprising that their experiences mirror these beliefs.
So change your self-talk, and practice it often throughout the day. Try things like, "I enjoy food that empowers me and my life" or "I feel great after I eat" or "I have plenty of energy to use for whatever I want" or "I am satisfied with my choices at the table and everywhere else."
Finally, remember that people HATE to diet. We are not designed to be losers, and evolutionarily, we are designed to hold on to resources that keep us alive. So stop focusing on food and start focusing on gaining happiness in your life. Because here's the surprise: the more happiness you gain in life, the more weight you'll lose.
More on this later this week.
Love,
EL
Is there a way to use energy to lose weight fast? I want to have a bikini body by July 4.
Signed,
In a Hurry
Dear Hurried,
Yes, there are some things you can do energetically to lighten up in a short period of time. Because this is an important topic, I'll cover some of it here, and then address it again in future blogs.
The first thing is to remember that your body does not know the difference between something you're merely thinking about and an actual experience. So if you imagine eating a warm, fudgy brownie, you will start to salivate and you will release insulin, even if there is no brownie available. And here's the problem: in the absence of sugar, insulin stores fat. So the more you think about and resist that chocolate brownie, the harder it will be to lose weight because you're actually storing more fat just by thinking about it. So it's really true when people say, "I gain weight just thinking about food."
So try this: Instead of resisting the foods you want, eat them in small amounts, but really stop and savor every bite. Let the food fully satisfy you. Take in its aroma, its flavor. Really, truly let each little bite sink in. In other words, use your energy to fully enjoy its energy. You'll probably find that it doesn't take much to make you happy, and then you stop thinking about it entirely. This allows your metabolism to do its wonderful work, and the impact of the so-called "bad" food is transformed.
(This doesn't mean, though, that you can just eat a bunch of junk food and expect to lose weight. But you should discover that if you stop eating mentally and start eating and enjoying for real, you eat less and get more energy and pleasure from what you're eating, which makes the energy exchange between you and the food work better.)
Along with this, examine your self-talk about food so you can see what you're creating with your thoughts, feelings and words. In my "Fullistic Weight Loss" workshops, I've had people say things like, "I gain weight the second I go off my diet" or "Weekends always make me fat" or "I can never lose weight." It's not surprising that their experiences mirror these beliefs.
So change your self-talk, and practice it often throughout the day. Try things like, "I enjoy food that empowers me and my life" or "I feel great after I eat" or "I have plenty of energy to use for whatever I want" or "I am satisfied with my choices at the table and everywhere else."
Finally, remember that people HATE to diet. We are not designed to be losers, and evolutionarily, we are designed to hold on to resources that keep us alive. So stop focusing on food and start focusing on gaining happiness in your life. Because here's the surprise: the more happiness you gain in life, the more weight you'll lose.
More on this later this week.
Love,
EL
Saturday, May 31, 2014
Why try?
Dear Energy Lady,
I have a good question for you: why doesn't all this energy stuff work? I know how to do it all: I make vision boards, set positive intentions, make goals (and celebrate both short-term and long-term stuff), surround myself with good people, etc. But no matter how much I try, I still find myself coming up short.
What's the secret?
Signed,
Super-frustrated
Dear Frustrated,
It's interesting that you should ask about the secret, because there's a very famous book of the same name that helped millions of people understand more about energy. And it also made it sound super-easy to get everything you want, as if the universe is some kind of gumball machine and if you just pop in a coin, you'll get the thing you asked for.
If it were that simple, there would be no debilitating diseases, no poverty, no crime or anything else any of us consider "bad." But consider if that were true. If there were no diseases, there would be no need for doctors, nurses, hospitals, medicine...in other words, millions of people would be out of work or be unable to know themselves as healers, care-givers or even patients who heal. We would lack the contrast to value good health over poor health.
If there were no poverty, many people would not be able to understand the triumph of pulling themselves out of it, or be able to experience themselves as the helpers who comfort and assist those who suffer from it. Foundations would have nothing to give their money to. If there were no crime, the criminals who use it for their identity (which, by the way, we often celebrate in tv series like "Breaking Bad" or movies like "The Godfather" or "Goodfellas) would not provide us with the contrast we need to know right from wrong. And while many of us feel that suicide bombing is "bad," there are societies in which it is considered "good."
The point is that what is "good" or "bad" is a matter of perspective, depending on many factors. So if you're trying to do energy work to get more "good" stuff, The Secret and other books don't mention the downside of doing so: by focusing only on one side of the equation, you automatically bring in the possibility of its shadow side, the thing you don't want. So in saying "I want more of this" you're also--wordlessly--saying, "I don't want any of that."
This creates an energy tug-of-war that can keep you stuck, which is what you're experiencing. You're also setting up a state of wanting, as in "I don't have this, and I really want it." But guess what? The more you want something, the more you create the energetic conditions to keep on wanting it. In other words, you're creating more, not less, separation.
So I can guess your next question: "how do I get rid of the negative?"
The answer is simple: you can't. Polarities exist in the physical world to give us a reason to continually recreate ourselves and the world around us. Without them, life would become stagnant and dull. Think of the movie, "Pleasantville," if you want to see what I mean.
Energy play is just that: a game. But not one where there are "winners" or "losers." We are all playing, and everyone's a winner; we're always getting a match to how we ARE, not what we WANT.
So if you want more of what you personally consider positive stuff to enter your life, try this:
Stop trying.
Really. Just give it up for a while. Relax and smile at yourself, at your life and everything in it. Stop labeling everything, everybody and everything that happens to you. Just let it go, and let things be.
The more you do this, the more you'll likely encounter surprises that don't just please you--they'll delight you. It's amazing what is here for us when we stop trying to control everything, which is limited by our puny imaginations.
This is not promising you nirvana. Undoubtedly, you will continue to have things happen in your life that wouldn't be what you'd choose for yourself. But the difference will be that you will be more relaxed about it, and more trusting and comfortable that, as I always like to say, "everything works out all right in the end, and if it's not all right, it's not the end."
Finally, you can't experience the vibrations of love, joy, freedom and peace if you're vibrating at frustration, grief, shame or anger. So give up the latter, and you'll automatically put yourself in a place where you're more likely to experience the former without doing anything.
Love,
EL
I have a good question for you: why doesn't all this energy stuff work? I know how to do it all: I make vision boards, set positive intentions, make goals (and celebrate both short-term and long-term stuff), surround myself with good people, etc. But no matter how much I try, I still find myself coming up short.
What's the secret?
Signed,
Super-frustrated
Dear Frustrated,
It's interesting that you should ask about the secret, because there's a very famous book of the same name that helped millions of people understand more about energy. And it also made it sound super-easy to get everything you want, as if the universe is some kind of gumball machine and if you just pop in a coin, you'll get the thing you asked for.
If it were that simple, there would be no debilitating diseases, no poverty, no crime or anything else any of us consider "bad." But consider if that were true. If there were no diseases, there would be no need for doctors, nurses, hospitals, medicine...in other words, millions of people would be out of work or be unable to know themselves as healers, care-givers or even patients who heal. We would lack the contrast to value good health over poor health.
If there were no poverty, many people would not be able to understand the triumph of pulling themselves out of it, or be able to experience themselves as the helpers who comfort and assist those who suffer from it. Foundations would have nothing to give their money to. If there were no crime, the criminals who use it for their identity (which, by the way, we often celebrate in tv series like "Breaking Bad" or movies like "The Godfather" or "Goodfellas) would not provide us with the contrast we need to know right from wrong. And while many of us feel that suicide bombing is "bad," there are societies in which it is considered "good."
The point is that what is "good" or "bad" is a matter of perspective, depending on many factors. So if you're trying to do energy work to get more "good" stuff, The Secret and other books don't mention the downside of doing so: by focusing only on one side of the equation, you automatically bring in the possibility of its shadow side, the thing you don't want. So in saying "I want more of this" you're also--wordlessly--saying, "I don't want any of that."
This creates an energy tug-of-war that can keep you stuck, which is what you're experiencing. You're also setting up a state of wanting, as in "I don't have this, and I really want it." But guess what? The more you want something, the more you create the energetic conditions to keep on wanting it. In other words, you're creating more, not less, separation.
So I can guess your next question: "how do I get rid of the negative?"
The answer is simple: you can't. Polarities exist in the physical world to give us a reason to continually recreate ourselves and the world around us. Without them, life would become stagnant and dull. Think of the movie, "Pleasantville," if you want to see what I mean.
Energy play is just that: a game. But not one where there are "winners" or "losers." We are all playing, and everyone's a winner; we're always getting a match to how we ARE, not what we WANT.
So if you want more of what you personally consider positive stuff to enter your life, try this:
Stop trying.
Really. Just give it up for a while. Relax and smile at yourself, at your life and everything in it. Stop labeling everything, everybody and everything that happens to you. Just let it go, and let things be.
The more you do this, the more you'll likely encounter surprises that don't just please you--they'll delight you. It's amazing what is here for us when we stop trying to control everything, which is limited by our puny imaginations.
This is not promising you nirvana. Undoubtedly, you will continue to have things happen in your life that wouldn't be what you'd choose for yourself. But the difference will be that you will be more relaxed about it, and more trusting and comfortable that, as I always like to say, "everything works out all right in the end, and if it's not all right, it's not the end."
Finally, you can't experience the vibrations of love, joy, freedom and peace if you're vibrating at frustration, grief, shame or anger. So give up the latter, and you'll automatically put yourself in a place where you're more likely to experience the former without doing anything.
Love,
EL
Tuesday, April 22, 2014
Spring cleaning
Dear Energy Lady,
I have a ton of stuff in my house, and it's kind of a mess. Is that bad karma?
Signed,
Buried
Dear Buried,
First, there's nothing karmic about a bunch of stuff. You chose your stuff; it's not your destiny.
This said, it's likely blocking the arrival of wonderful things that could be waiting for you. Every item in your house is made of energy, and has its own energy field. So if you have things piled up, neglected, and tossed here and there, think of it like rocks in a river-the flow has to go around them. And if it's everywhere, then the river is completely dammed up, and whatever is downstream-like you-gets starved of the flow.
Now, if you truly love all these things and they have value to you, then you may want to hire a Feng Shui expert and have him/her help you sort things out and arrange them in ways that enhance their beauty and the energy flow of your home.
But if what you're talking about are piles of laundry, unwashed dishes and old junk that has long outlived its usefulness, then you might want to get an organizer to help you sort through it. That's just dead energy that you no longer need. The fact that you're calling yourself "buried" says a lot. It sounds like you could use some breathing room.
Often, when people clean things up, other areas of their lives open up, too. It's not unusual to hear about long-delayed job offers coming through, hearing from people you haven't heard from in ages, or suddenly having a rush of inspiration. Once the energetic density clears, waves of possibility appear.
If you don't want to hire others to help you, ask some fiends or family members to join in. Give them what you no longer need-they'll enjoy the treasure hunt, and you'll get the benefit of a fun afternoon or weekend with people you enjoy.
So get some boxes and get glowing! And if you're in the Northern Hemisphere, happy spring!
Love,
EL
I have a ton of stuff in my house, and it's kind of a mess. Is that bad karma?
Signed,
Buried
Dear Buried,
First, there's nothing karmic about a bunch of stuff. You chose your stuff; it's not your destiny.
This said, it's likely blocking the arrival of wonderful things that could be waiting for you. Every item in your house is made of energy, and has its own energy field. So if you have things piled up, neglected, and tossed here and there, think of it like rocks in a river-the flow has to go around them. And if it's everywhere, then the river is completely dammed up, and whatever is downstream-like you-gets starved of the flow.
Now, if you truly love all these things and they have value to you, then you may want to hire a Feng Shui expert and have him/her help you sort things out and arrange them in ways that enhance their beauty and the energy flow of your home.
But if what you're talking about are piles of laundry, unwashed dishes and old junk that has long outlived its usefulness, then you might want to get an organizer to help you sort through it. That's just dead energy that you no longer need. The fact that you're calling yourself "buried" says a lot. It sounds like you could use some breathing room.
Often, when people clean things up, other areas of their lives open up, too. It's not unusual to hear about long-delayed job offers coming through, hearing from people you haven't heard from in ages, or suddenly having a rush of inspiration. Once the energetic density clears, waves of possibility appear.
If you don't want to hire others to help you, ask some fiends or family members to join in. Give them what you no longer need-they'll enjoy the treasure hunt, and you'll get the benefit of a fun afternoon or weekend with people you enjoy.
So get some boxes and get glowing! And if you're in the Northern Hemisphere, happy spring!
Love,
EL
Thursday, April 17, 2014
The three words that will change your life
Dear Readers,
People often ask me, "What is the fastest, simplest way to raise my energy?" So here are the three words that will change your vibration for the better:
1) "And." Use it in place of "but," and watch what happens. For example, if someone says to you, "How is your family?" and you answer, "They're great, but my son's not sure he's going to get into the college of his choice"--the "but" automatically stops the energy flow of "they're great."
So try changing it like this: "They're great, and my son is waiting to hear from one of his preferred colleges." Can you FEEL the difference?
Here's another example:
"What are you doing for Easter?"
"We're getting the whole family together, but our daughter can't join us."
Versus:
"We're getting the whole family together, and our daughter will Skype with us so she can see everyone."
Replace "But" with "and." Your energy will love you for it.
2) "Yes." Start saying yes to the things and people you like and want in your life. First, do it in your mind, and then watch what manifests in your life. By saying "yes" to what you want, you'll find that you'll spend less time resisting what you don't want because your energy will be flowing in the direction that feels right and comfortable to you. Try saying "yes" at least 10 times today--just make sure it's for what you want, not to please other people.
3) "Thanks." This one is obvious, and I know you know this. But it's amazing how few of us make "thanks" a regular part of both our thinking and our vocabulary. "Thanks" is not just an acknowledgement of another person; it's also an expression of gratitude to yourself, as we play a part in everything that appears in our lives. So it is, in fact, a way of blessing your own creations. What about the things you feel you didn't create and don't want--like sickness, divorce, natural disasters, etc? This is where you find your reasons to be thankful for the love that will undoubtedly come flowing your way from friends, family and strangers. There is always a reason to say "thanks," even in the worst of circumstances.
Try "And" "Yes" and "Thanks" for the next 24 hours, and see how much brighter and better you feel! And from that higher vibrational place, you will bring more radiance into your own life and the lives of others.
Love,
EL
People often ask me, "What is the fastest, simplest way to raise my energy?" So here are the three words that will change your vibration for the better:
1) "And." Use it in place of "but," and watch what happens. For example, if someone says to you, "How is your family?" and you answer, "They're great, but my son's not sure he's going to get into the college of his choice"--the "but" automatically stops the energy flow of "they're great."
So try changing it like this: "They're great, and my son is waiting to hear from one of his preferred colleges." Can you FEEL the difference?
Here's another example:
"What are you doing for Easter?"
"We're getting the whole family together, but our daughter can't join us."
Versus:
"We're getting the whole family together, and our daughter will Skype with us so she can see everyone."
Replace "But" with "and." Your energy will love you for it.
2) "Yes." Start saying yes to the things and people you like and want in your life. First, do it in your mind, and then watch what manifests in your life. By saying "yes" to what you want, you'll find that you'll spend less time resisting what you don't want because your energy will be flowing in the direction that feels right and comfortable to you. Try saying "yes" at least 10 times today--just make sure it's for what you want, not to please other people.
3) "Thanks." This one is obvious, and I know you know this. But it's amazing how few of us make "thanks" a regular part of both our thinking and our vocabulary. "Thanks" is not just an acknowledgement of another person; it's also an expression of gratitude to yourself, as we play a part in everything that appears in our lives. So it is, in fact, a way of blessing your own creations. What about the things you feel you didn't create and don't want--like sickness, divorce, natural disasters, etc? This is where you find your reasons to be thankful for the love that will undoubtedly come flowing your way from friends, family and strangers. There is always a reason to say "thanks," even in the worst of circumstances.
Try "And" "Yes" and "Thanks" for the next 24 hours, and see how much brighter and better you feel! And from that higher vibrational place, you will bring more radiance into your own life and the lives of others.
Love,
EL
Saturday, April 5, 2014
Where is the love?
Dear Readers,
If you want to get your energy glowing, try this fun little game. It's called "Where is the love?"
You can play it anytime, anywhere. You can play it at work; when you're out shopping; even when you're vegging out in front of the TV. You can play it even when you're not in the mood, or with grouchy people. The purpose of the game is twofold: 1) to show you that live actually is all around us, all the time and 2) to show you that the connection between your own essence and the experiences you have.
To play, all you have to do is close your eyes for a brief second as you ask the question, "where is love right now?" Let your attention drop into your heart space as you do this-it's important that you play from somewhere other than your usual negative thought stream.
Then open your eyes. Look around you-it is likely you'll see smiles, kindness, respect or caring in some form. If you don't, then close your eyes again for another brief second and listen-fist with your ears, but also with your heart. Again, you are likely to hear or sense something that sounds like connection or caring.
And here's the big surprise: if you don't see, hear or sense anything, go back into your heart and feel it open into the environment around you. Remember: nothing in life is solid -it's just a dream of energy in motion that you're animating. So let the love you have and the love you ARE flow into the environment around you. As you do, think or say, "let there be love."
Ta Da! Whatever love you were looking for was inside you, so it has to be wherever you are, all the time, always and forever. And chances are once you let it out, you'll start to see more of it everywhere you go.
Love,
EL
If you want to get your energy glowing, try this fun little game. It's called "Where is the love?"
You can play it anytime, anywhere. You can play it at work; when you're out shopping; even when you're vegging out in front of the TV. You can play it even when you're not in the mood, or with grouchy people. The purpose of the game is twofold: 1) to show you that live actually is all around us, all the time and 2) to show you that the connection between your own essence and the experiences you have.
To play, all you have to do is close your eyes for a brief second as you ask the question, "where is love right now?" Let your attention drop into your heart space as you do this-it's important that you play from somewhere other than your usual negative thought stream.
Then open your eyes. Look around you-it is likely you'll see smiles, kindness, respect or caring in some form. If you don't, then close your eyes again for another brief second and listen-fist with your ears, but also with your heart. Again, you are likely to hear or sense something that sounds like connection or caring.
And here's the big surprise: if you don't see, hear or sense anything, go back into your heart and feel it open into the environment around you. Remember: nothing in life is solid -it's just a dream of energy in motion that you're animating. So let the love you have and the love you ARE flow into the environment around you. As you do, think or say, "let there be love."
Ta Da! Whatever love you were looking for was inside you, so it has to be wherever you are, all the time, always and forever. And chances are once you let it out, you'll start to see more of it everywhere you go.
Love,
EL
Thursday, March 27, 2014
Time to relax
Dear Readers,
I took a break from writing this blog to work on other areas of Fullistics, including a new website: www.fullistic.com. There you'll find more information about Fullistics, a list of great books and reference resources, information about Fullistic programs and keynotes, and links to some Fullistic events coming up. If you're looking to add more energy and fun to your life, check it out!
For today, though, let me answer a couple of questions that have been in the queue since I've been gone.
Dear Energy Lady,
I have a coworker who's really toxic. Any way I can protect myself?
Signed,
Bruised
Dear Bruised,
For this question, I'm going to refer to The Course in Miracles, which points out that "nothing real can be threatened, and nothing unreal exists." So instead of taking this person seriously, think of him or her as a character in a dream- not real. Just an energy field that has come into yours to teach you something about yourself.
What are you supposed to learn? That the behavior you see is a reflection of something you fear may be true about yourself. Even if you don't demonstrate it, you recognize it, and that's enough to bond you with it.
So ask yourself : can I forgive this, accept it or transform it? Try to release both this person and the behavior, and you will release yourself.
You know you have succeeded when you feel peaceful. You don 't need a new job or new colleagues; shift your thinking, and see if the picture doesn't shift, too.
Love,
EL
I took a break from writing this blog to work on other areas of Fullistics, including a new website: www.fullistic.com. There you'll find more information about Fullistics, a list of great books and reference resources, information about Fullistic programs and keynotes, and links to some Fullistic events coming up. If you're looking to add more energy and fun to your life, check it out!
For today, though, let me answer a couple of questions that have been in the queue since I've been gone.
Dear Energy Lady,
I have a coworker who's really toxic. Any way I can protect myself?
Signed,
Bruised
Dear Bruised,
For this question, I'm going to refer to The Course in Miracles, which points out that "nothing real can be threatened, and nothing unreal exists." So instead of taking this person seriously, think of him or her as a character in a dream- not real. Just an energy field that has come into yours to teach you something about yourself.
What are you supposed to learn? That the behavior you see is a reflection of something you fear may be true about yourself. Even if you don't demonstrate it, you recognize it, and that's enough to bond you with it.
So ask yourself : can I forgive this, accept it or transform it? Try to release both this person and the behavior, and you will release yourself.
You know you have succeeded when you feel peaceful. You don 't need a new job or new colleagues; shift your thinking, and see if the picture doesn't shift, too.
Love,
EL
Thursday, January 30, 2014
How to be more creative
Dear Energy Lady,
I feel like I'm in a big rut-is there an energy way to get some creativity going?
Signed,
Bored
Dear Bored,
It's easy to get in a rut. We think about 50,000 thoughts a day, and more than 90% are a rehash of what we thought yesterday. When we think the same thoughts repeatedly, the neurons that transmit them actually wire together in our brains. That's part of what creates the rut.
You either have to make an effort to think a new, positive thought, or try a new approach. Trying to access your creativity through your memories or experiences will just give you variations of what you've already experienced, which won't feel very creative.
So if you'd like to have a little fun, access your mental body, which is in a finer vibrational state than your physical one. Fresh ideas come to us through our mental body-things that are in the energy field around us, or what some people call our higher mind.
To access this, you need to stop thinking, at least for a little while. Some people do this through meditation. Others do it by running, sewing or another hobby that distracts them for a while. You can also do this by just going and having fun. Relax. Laugh! Just let your thoughts go.
How does not thinking relate to creativity? Because when you're in a more open state, answers to your problems can"pop in" to your consciousness. Intuitive "hits" happen naturally. You have "ah ha!" moments.
When you get these, if they feel right to you, then act on them. If you do, you'll start living a life that's not just creative, it's co-creative with the universe. There's unlimited potential in that.
Enjoy!
Live,
EL
I feel like I'm in a big rut-is there an energy way to get some creativity going?
Signed,
Bored
Dear Bored,
It's easy to get in a rut. We think about 50,000 thoughts a day, and more than 90% are a rehash of what we thought yesterday. When we think the same thoughts repeatedly, the neurons that transmit them actually wire together in our brains. That's part of what creates the rut.
You either have to make an effort to think a new, positive thought, or try a new approach. Trying to access your creativity through your memories or experiences will just give you variations of what you've already experienced, which won't feel very creative.
So if you'd like to have a little fun, access your mental body, which is in a finer vibrational state than your physical one. Fresh ideas come to us through our mental body-things that are in the energy field around us, or what some people call our higher mind.
To access this, you need to stop thinking, at least for a little while. Some people do this through meditation. Others do it by running, sewing or another hobby that distracts them for a while. You can also do this by just going and having fun. Relax. Laugh! Just let your thoughts go.
How does not thinking relate to creativity? Because when you're in a more open state, answers to your problems can"pop in" to your consciousness. Intuitive "hits" happen naturally. You have "ah ha!" moments.
When you get these, if they feel right to you, then act on them. If you do, you'll start living a life that's not just creative, it's co-creative with the universe. There's unlimited potential in that.
Enjoy!
Live,
EL
Saturday, January 11, 2014
Your luck is right in front of you
Dear Energy Lady,
How come some people have all the luck? I'm tired of watching everyone else win the lottery, get the guy or land the job.
Signed,
Luckless
Dear Luckness,
It's not luck. It's attention.
There is no difference between so- called "lucky" people and you. We are all energy, and we are all connected to the same source and field of potential. No one has access to anything you don't.
But there is probably one thing that the "lucky" people are doing that you're not. They pay attention. Often, what we're looking for is right in front of us, and we don't see it because we're either in our heads or expecting it to come in another form.
So my guess is that it's your thoughts that are getting in your way. But I'm not going to advise you to be more mindful, because it sounds like you're feeling low, and what you're likely to see will match that state of vibration, which won't please you.
Instead, let's approach this playfully. Start by putting a smile on your face. Then stand up, put your feet about hip's-width apart, and put your hands on your hips, like Wonder Woman. Keep that stance, and your happy grin, for about a minute. Have fun with it-it feels great!
Then as you go about your day, say ( out loud) "Whoooo hooooo!" Every time you walk into a room or find yourself in someplace new. Then just relax and let yourself enjoy whoever and whatever's there. Ignore the things that annoy you-focus on any person or element of the situation that feels good.
What you'll discover by doing this is that life has been providing you with all kinds of things and people that are right for you- you just didn't notice them. So once you get into the idea that what you want is right here, right now, you'll see that life is not a matter of "luck," but love. It's here for you in both visible and invisible forms. Expect the best, look for it, and accept it.
Enjoy!
Love,
EL
How come some people have all the luck? I'm tired of watching everyone else win the lottery, get the guy or land the job.
Signed,
Luckless
Dear Luckness,
It's not luck. It's attention.
There is no difference between so- called "lucky" people and you. We are all energy, and we are all connected to the same source and field of potential. No one has access to anything you don't.
But there is probably one thing that the "lucky" people are doing that you're not. They pay attention. Often, what we're looking for is right in front of us, and we don't see it because we're either in our heads or expecting it to come in another form.
So my guess is that it's your thoughts that are getting in your way. But I'm not going to advise you to be more mindful, because it sounds like you're feeling low, and what you're likely to see will match that state of vibration, which won't please you.
Instead, let's approach this playfully. Start by putting a smile on your face. Then stand up, put your feet about hip's-width apart, and put your hands on your hips, like Wonder Woman. Keep that stance, and your happy grin, for about a minute. Have fun with it-it feels great!
Then as you go about your day, say ( out loud) "Whoooo hooooo!" Every time you walk into a room or find yourself in someplace new. Then just relax and let yourself enjoy whoever and whatever's there. Ignore the things that annoy you-focus on any person or element of the situation that feels good.
What you'll discover by doing this is that life has been providing you with all kinds of things and people that are right for you- you just didn't notice them. So once you get into the idea that what you want is right here, right now, you'll see that life is not a matter of "luck," but love. It's here for you in both visible and invisible forms. Expect the best, look for it, and accept it.
Enjoy!
Love,
EL
Monday, January 6, 2014
Energizing weight loss for the new year
Dear Energy Lady,
I am determined to lose weight this year, and want to do everything I can to make it happen. What can help energize it, besides diet and exercise?
Signed,
Feeling Ready
Dear Ready,
You've already cleared a major hurdle energetically: you know what you want. Most people don't. We spend our days being a little uncertain, a little frustrated and a little disappointed, and all that does is keep us treading water. The universe can't respond to a weak signal.
But here's the trick: you don't want to lose weight. People don't like losing, and if you don't like something, you'll resist it, slowing the energy and making it even harder to do.
Instead, think of yourself as gaining a whole new level of health and happiness. So first, can you go beyond where you are now and the effort you'll be making to visualize the end result? In other words, don't create a gap between where you are now and where you want to be; take yourself into the future right now, as there is no time in the universal field. The future happens in the present moment.
Once you create a mental picture of the final outcome, allow yourself to simply feel good. Actually, make that feel GREAT. Feel great not because you reached a goal, because there was a "there" and how you're "here," but simply because you are living free of the trapped energy that extra weight represents. In other words, if the weight is literally and figuratively off your shoulders (and everywhere else on your body and your life), how do you feel? Don't focus on what you're now able to do: focus on how you ARE.
Now, once you feel great, expand it. Release the feeling--let it grow out and out and out until you can no longer tell where you leave off and it begins. Keep letting it expand until it goes beyond your house...your town...your state...your country...and even beyond the planet and the solar system. Just keep letting it go.
You may feel a sense of peace or bliss, or not. But in any case, what you're doing is releasing any limitations imposed by your own mind or experience and opening to all possibilities. You're also spreading your light so that anything or anyone that can help you can find you. So don't be surprised if you suddenly find yourself having happy coincidences that make the arrival of your new state of being easier and easier.
So eat well. Exercise. Work with your doctor or other professionals if you need to. But most of all, relax and get happy. And then set that happiness free, because if you do, it will come back to you in wonder-FULL ways that will make your goal-getting even easier.
Enjoy!
Love,
EL
I am determined to lose weight this year, and want to do everything I can to make it happen. What can help energize it, besides diet and exercise?
Signed,
Feeling Ready
Dear Ready,
You've already cleared a major hurdle energetically: you know what you want. Most people don't. We spend our days being a little uncertain, a little frustrated and a little disappointed, and all that does is keep us treading water. The universe can't respond to a weak signal.
But here's the trick: you don't want to lose weight. People don't like losing, and if you don't like something, you'll resist it, slowing the energy and making it even harder to do.
Instead, think of yourself as gaining a whole new level of health and happiness. So first, can you go beyond where you are now and the effort you'll be making to visualize the end result? In other words, don't create a gap between where you are now and where you want to be; take yourself into the future right now, as there is no time in the universal field. The future happens in the present moment.
Once you create a mental picture of the final outcome, allow yourself to simply feel good. Actually, make that feel GREAT. Feel great not because you reached a goal, because there was a "there" and how you're "here," but simply because you are living free of the trapped energy that extra weight represents. In other words, if the weight is literally and figuratively off your shoulders (and everywhere else on your body and your life), how do you feel? Don't focus on what you're now able to do: focus on how you ARE.
Now, once you feel great, expand it. Release the feeling--let it grow out and out and out until you can no longer tell where you leave off and it begins. Keep letting it expand until it goes beyond your house...your town...your state...your country...and even beyond the planet and the solar system. Just keep letting it go.
You may feel a sense of peace or bliss, or not. But in any case, what you're doing is releasing any limitations imposed by your own mind or experience and opening to all possibilities. You're also spreading your light so that anything or anyone that can help you can find you. So don't be surprised if you suddenly find yourself having happy coincidences that make the arrival of your new state of being easier and easier.
So eat well. Exercise. Work with your doctor or other professionals if you need to. But most of all, relax and get happy. And then set that happiness free, because if you do, it will come back to you in wonder-FULL ways that will make your goal-getting even easier.
Enjoy!
Love,
EL
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