Dear Energy Lady,
I am trying to lose 10 pounds, but I hate going to the gym. What's your advice to keep me going there?
Signed,
Feelin' Fat
Dear FF,
Stop trying to lose weight, and instead, USE your weight. In other words, if you have 10 extra pounds, think of it as money that you get to spend. There's 3500 calories in a pound, so you have 35,000 energy units to invest or spend however you wish. Whooo hooo! You're rich!
The trick is to use the energy on anything that makes you happy. Obviously, going to the gym isn't it. But how about chasing butterflies with a 5-year-old? Climbing up into the boughs of an old tree and seeing the world through a whole new perspective? Playing hop scotch? Turning your driveway into a world of chalk art? Taking your neighbor's dog for a walk?
Make a list of 100 things you'd LOVE to do. Then start doing them. You'll know you're using the energy in your "bank" when your clothes get loose and you start feeling freer.
Put your attention on your life and take it off your weight, because anything you pay attention to expands. When you do, you'll find yourself less likely to overeat, because you're not feeling empty or "hungry" for experience. Remember that the purpose of your body is to give you a vehicle with which you can engage with and enjoy life.
Live large and have fun!
Love,
The Energy Lady
Welcome to Dear Energy Lady.com, an advice column for those who want life to be easier and more fun. Based on Energetic principles, the Energy Lady is here to teach you about aligning what you think, say and do with higher vibrational resources like intuition, energy bodies, and clairaudience, as well as release energy barriers to better health, happiness and success.
Saturday, June 25, 2011
Sunday, June 19, 2011
Travel to Paris?
Dear Energy Lady,
I want to travel the world, but only have enough money for a roadtrip home. How will I ever get to see Paris?
Signed,
Need to fly
Dear Fly,
Choose the places in the world that you want to see. Create an ideal itinerary for yourself. Put each item on the itinerary in a book, and find photographs that illustrate where you want to go. Spend time every day looking at the pictures and imagining yourself in that place. If you can, try to bring it alive with all five of your senses--what would you see, hear, smell, taste and touch (or feel emotionally) when you're there?
Send yourself emails or letters talking about your trip as if it had already happened. In other words, let it live and thrive in your imagination, and have fun! Let yourself think it, feel it, enjoy it.
Then relax. You've created what you want; now let it enter your life.
You can certainly save up money while you're doing this, or simply welcome things like possible job assignments, chances to win plane tickets and/or trips, long-lost relatives appearing who send you plane tickets, etc. In other words, let the field bring you what you need to get going. As long as you don't resist, doubt or say "Oh, but all this travel is just in my mind," you'll find that what you need starts showing up.
Have fun! And please send me a postcard from Paris!
Love,
The Energy Lady
I want to travel the world, but only have enough money for a roadtrip home. How will I ever get to see Paris?
Signed,
Need to fly
Dear Fly,
Choose the places in the world that you want to see. Create an ideal itinerary for yourself. Put each item on the itinerary in a book, and find photographs that illustrate where you want to go. Spend time every day looking at the pictures and imagining yourself in that place. If you can, try to bring it alive with all five of your senses--what would you see, hear, smell, taste and touch (or feel emotionally) when you're there?
Send yourself emails or letters talking about your trip as if it had already happened. In other words, let it live and thrive in your imagination, and have fun! Let yourself think it, feel it, enjoy it.
Then relax. You've created what you want; now let it enter your life.
You can certainly save up money while you're doing this, or simply welcome things like possible job assignments, chances to win plane tickets and/or trips, long-lost relatives appearing who send you plane tickets, etc. In other words, let the field bring you what you need to get going. As long as you don't resist, doubt or say "Oh, but all this travel is just in my mind," you'll find that what you need starts showing up.
Have fun! And please send me a postcard from Paris!
Love,
The Energy Lady
Tuesday, June 14, 2011
Bad thoughts
Cher Madame d'Energie,
What are the consequences, energy-wise, of actively wishing for something to happen for a person that will give that person short-term grief but long-term happiness?
Signed,
Just curious
Cher curious,
The energy consequences are simple: whatever you wish for another, you wish for yourself. Since we have no way of knowing what will ultimately happen to the energy we use to create, you can't be sure that grief will turn to happiness. What you're really saying was that if this other person was you, you'd get long-term happiness from the short-term grief. So in the end, that's what you're creating for yourself, since it is not possible to create in another person's experience without their permission.
Love,
The Energy Lady
What are the consequences, energy-wise, of actively wishing for something to happen for a person that will give that person short-term grief but long-term happiness?
Signed,
Just curious
Cher curious,
The energy consequences are simple: whatever you wish for another, you wish for yourself. Since we have no way of knowing what will ultimately happen to the energy we use to create, you can't be sure that grief will turn to happiness. What you're really saying was that if this other person was you, you'd get long-term happiness from the short-term grief. So in the end, that's what you're creating for yourself, since it is not possible to create in another person's experience without their permission.
Love,
The Energy Lady
Sunday, June 12, 2011
Someone else has my job!
Dear Energy Lady,
A friend of mine was recently hired for a position that I also applied for, despite the fact that her credentials are somewhat spurious. Now, I have trouble remaining civil with her in social situations. I realize it's sour grapes on my part, but cannot seem to help myself. Any thoughts on the energy complications of this situation?
Signed,
Mark S.
Hi Mark,
When you are envious or jealous of someone else, what it does is put an energy barrier between you and what you want. Not just her job, but any job.
It's because of how jealousy and envy make you feel. When you're angry, frustrated or even frightened, your energy field pulls in tight and has a lot of static in it. If you add in thoughts/feelings of lack, your energy field loses even more power. It's like trying to run a car on a dying battery. You may move forward, but it won't be with nearly the speed or power you want. Energy begets energy. Lack begets lack.
No amount of positive thinking or civil behavior can make up for the energetic damage you do to yourself when you're jealous. So remember this: first, this other person IS a good match for the job she got, regardless of her credentials. She may fit the culture of the organization better or differently than you. Perhaps there's a life lesson there for her that you don't need. Maybe she felt good about the job right from the start, and embraced it mind, body and spirit. Or, more simply, maybe she just didn't have any resistance to it, and allowed it to enter her life effortlessly.
In any case, if you really, truly want a similar job, the best thing you could do now is energetically create one for yourself. So enjoy whatever you can about the work you're currently doing. Look for what she did and is doing right, and incorporate that into your own thinking, behavior and beliefs. Get comfortable with the idea that there is no real lack in the world, only that which we perceive. No one else can get "your" job--you're the only one who can fit it energetically.
If you want to try an energetic "tune up" on this, try making a list of everything you like about her job. Then look at everything you would have hated about having it (and there must be things, or it would have been yours). Do a 180-degree flip on the hated things so that in the end, you create a list of only what you'd love to have in your next job (NOT her job). Look for where in your life you already have some of those things now, or at least the feeling of them. Read the list out loud. Get comfortable with the feeling of being that happy in a job. Whenever you are in the state of relaxed happiness and are speaking about what you like, are thankful for or enjoy, you vibrate in harmony with what you want. Do that enough, and sooner or later, it will be yours.
Relax. Allow. Enjoy!
Love,
The Energy Lady
A friend of mine was recently hired for a position that I also applied for, despite the fact that her credentials are somewhat spurious. Now, I have trouble remaining civil with her in social situations. I realize it's sour grapes on my part, but cannot seem to help myself. Any thoughts on the energy complications of this situation?
Signed,
Mark S.
Hi Mark,
When you are envious or jealous of someone else, what it does is put an energy barrier between you and what you want. Not just her job, but any job.
It's because of how jealousy and envy make you feel. When you're angry, frustrated or even frightened, your energy field pulls in tight and has a lot of static in it. If you add in thoughts/feelings of lack, your energy field loses even more power. It's like trying to run a car on a dying battery. You may move forward, but it won't be with nearly the speed or power you want. Energy begets energy. Lack begets lack.
No amount of positive thinking or civil behavior can make up for the energetic damage you do to yourself when you're jealous. So remember this: first, this other person IS a good match for the job she got, regardless of her credentials. She may fit the culture of the organization better or differently than you. Perhaps there's a life lesson there for her that you don't need. Maybe she felt good about the job right from the start, and embraced it mind, body and spirit. Or, more simply, maybe she just didn't have any resistance to it, and allowed it to enter her life effortlessly.
In any case, if you really, truly want a similar job, the best thing you could do now is energetically create one for yourself. So enjoy whatever you can about the work you're currently doing. Look for what she did and is doing right, and incorporate that into your own thinking, behavior and beliefs. Get comfortable with the idea that there is no real lack in the world, only that which we perceive. No one else can get "your" job--you're the only one who can fit it energetically.
If you want to try an energetic "tune up" on this, try making a list of everything you like about her job. Then look at everything you would have hated about having it (and there must be things, or it would have been yours). Do a 180-degree flip on the hated things so that in the end, you create a list of only what you'd love to have in your next job (NOT her job). Look for where in your life you already have some of those things now, or at least the feeling of them. Read the list out loud. Get comfortable with the feeling of being that happy in a job. Whenever you are in the state of relaxed happiness and are speaking about what you like, are thankful for or enjoy, you vibrate in harmony with what you want. Do that enough, and sooner or later, it will be yours.
Relax. Allow. Enjoy!
Love,
The Energy Lady
Thursday, June 9, 2011
Need a new job
Dear Energy Lady,
How do I find a job that isn't just paying the bills? I want a job I can stay at, not just one that's keeps me working during the recession.
Signed,
Jack B.
Dear Jack,
You're not alone--many people would like this now. The energy trick here is that thoughts lead to beliefs, and beliefs can cause serious energy blockages to what we want, depending on how sad, negative or resistant they are.
In your case, you have two beliefs that may be working against you. The first is that it's difficult to find a full-time job during the recession. The second is that the jobs you have now only allow you to pay the bills. You might argue, "Both are true!" which only means that you believe them. Change your belief; change your life. For instance, even though there's a recession, millions of people are working full-time jobs, and tens of thousands of these jobs were obtained in the last two years. What do you think they believed in order to be in those situations?
Second, the bills you're paying are giving you things you want. For now, let's assume that you're referring to things like utilities, rent and car payments. You must like having a roof over your head, running water and a private vehicle, or you wouldn't be making those payments. So all you have to do is expand your list of what you'd enjoy having, using or experiencing. Daydream. The more vividly and playfully, the better.
So, as The Energy Lady likes to say, "How's that belief working for you?" If it doesn't, change it. Go from "it's hard to find a job during the recession" to "all kinds of people are finding good jobs right now, so I can, too."
If that's too hard a stretch, just imagine yourself in a new job. Either mentally or actually get in the car and "commute" to where you'd like to work. When you get there, walk around and get used to the surroundings. Start to get comfortable with how you feel in the new space. Use your computer or a dayplanner book to map out a day in your new work life, or better yet--a full week or month. Get on Linked in and connect with the people who might be your colleagues or industry pals. As author Wayne Dyer says, "Believe it, and you'll see it!"
In other words, use your thoughts and actions not only to change your belief about your situation, but also to raise your vibration so you can become a match to something new and better. Then remember: nothing new can come into your life until you vibrationally let go of what you don't want. So allow yourself to do your current jobs with the enthusiastic and anticipatory spirit that they're preparing you for the job you're soon going to have.
As always, have fun! And live FullisticallyTM
Love,
The Energy Lady
How do I find a job that isn't just paying the bills? I want a job I can stay at, not just one that's keeps me working during the recession.
Signed,
Jack B.
Dear Jack,
You're not alone--many people would like this now. The energy trick here is that thoughts lead to beliefs, and beliefs can cause serious energy blockages to what we want, depending on how sad, negative or resistant they are.
In your case, you have two beliefs that may be working against you. The first is that it's difficult to find a full-time job during the recession. The second is that the jobs you have now only allow you to pay the bills. You might argue, "Both are true!" which only means that you believe them. Change your belief; change your life. For instance, even though there's a recession, millions of people are working full-time jobs, and tens of thousands of these jobs were obtained in the last two years. What do you think they believed in order to be in those situations?
Second, the bills you're paying are giving you things you want. For now, let's assume that you're referring to things like utilities, rent and car payments. You must like having a roof over your head, running water and a private vehicle, or you wouldn't be making those payments. So all you have to do is expand your list of what you'd enjoy having, using or experiencing. Daydream. The more vividly and playfully, the better.
So, as The Energy Lady likes to say, "How's that belief working for you?" If it doesn't, change it. Go from "it's hard to find a job during the recession" to "all kinds of people are finding good jobs right now, so I can, too."
If that's too hard a stretch, just imagine yourself in a new job. Either mentally or actually get in the car and "commute" to where you'd like to work. When you get there, walk around and get used to the surroundings. Start to get comfortable with how you feel in the new space. Use your computer or a dayplanner book to map out a day in your new work life, or better yet--a full week or month. Get on Linked in and connect with the people who might be your colleagues or industry pals. As author Wayne Dyer says, "Believe it, and you'll see it!"
In other words, use your thoughts and actions not only to change your belief about your situation, but also to raise your vibration so you can become a match to something new and better. Then remember: nothing new can come into your life until you vibrationally let go of what you don't want. So allow yourself to do your current jobs with the enthusiastic and anticipatory spirit that they're preparing you for the job you're soon going to have.
As always, have fun! And live FullisticallyTM
Love,
The Energy Lady
Wednesday, June 8, 2011
Negative thoughts are overwhelming
Dear Energy Lady,
I do my best to stay positive, but it's hard to fight off negative thoughts. What should I do?
Love,
Abby M.
Dear Abby,
It has been said that of the 50,000 or so thoughts that humans have each day, about 80% are negative, as in "I can't do that!" "I don't have time!" "I'll never win!" "I won't be there," and so on. We are in mental "nots" through the majority of our waking hours and dreamtime.
The purpose of our negative thoughts is to provide contrast so we can define ourselves and make choices about what we'd like to create and experience. We've all walked down the street and said things like, "I'd never wear that outfit!" Or, "I'd never allow my child to behave like that!" When we define what we don't want, it automatically points us towards what we do.
The purpose of the negative, then, is to help us discover what is right and good for us. The problem is that too often, we direct the negative thoughts to ourselves, and have difficulty finding the positive contrast. It's meant to be a game, but when it's directed at us, we take it far too seriously. When your negative thoughts make you feel bad about yourself or your life, that's when you know you've lost sight of the game.
So lighten up! Listen to your negative thoughts, but don't take them seriously. Play with them. Find their opposite. Fantasize. Rather than try to get rid of them, allow them to stay. The more you fight them, the more power you give them. Just ask yourself, "What if I change the meaning of this one?" and then come up with multiple alternatives--the more lighthearted and smile-producing, the better. How about taking something like, "you're too fat!" and changing the meaning to, "I am a calorie-enhanced energy machine with power to burn."
Just relax, play and have fun!
Love,
The Energy Lady
I do my best to stay positive, but it's hard to fight off negative thoughts. What should I do?
Love,
Abby M.
Dear Abby,
It has been said that of the 50,000 or so thoughts that humans have each day, about 80% are negative, as in "I can't do that!" "I don't have time!" "I'll never win!" "I won't be there," and so on. We are in mental "nots" through the majority of our waking hours and dreamtime.
The purpose of our negative thoughts is to provide contrast so we can define ourselves and make choices about what we'd like to create and experience. We've all walked down the street and said things like, "I'd never wear that outfit!" Or, "I'd never allow my child to behave like that!" When we define what we don't want, it automatically points us towards what we do.
The purpose of the negative, then, is to help us discover what is right and good for us. The problem is that too often, we direct the negative thoughts to ourselves, and have difficulty finding the positive contrast. It's meant to be a game, but when it's directed at us, we take it far too seriously. When your negative thoughts make you feel bad about yourself or your life, that's when you know you've lost sight of the game.
So lighten up! Listen to your negative thoughts, but don't take them seriously. Play with them. Find their opposite. Fantasize. Rather than try to get rid of them, allow them to stay. The more you fight them, the more power you give them. Just ask yourself, "What if I change the meaning of this one?" and then come up with multiple alternatives--the more lighthearted and smile-producing, the better. How about taking something like, "you're too fat!" and changing the meaning to, "I am a calorie-enhanced energy machine with power to burn."
Just relax, play and have fun!
Love,
The Energy Lady
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