Why won't things happen for me?

Dear Energy Lady,
I understand some of the principles of quantum physics and I try to use as many as I can.  But I just can't be consistent.  Work and family and other stuff gets in the way, and I find myself struggling all the time.  What can I do?

Signed,
Frustrated

Dear Frustrated,
Energy isn't something you use sometimes and not others.  You are always using, but more important--BEING energy, because it's everything you are and there's nowhere that it isn't.  It's not something that you turn on when you're not busy and turn off when you are.  

So here's the good news: you don't need to "find time" to play with energy.  You're doing it right now, and in every instant. If you want to do it more consciously, start with becoming aware of your own energy state.  Are you in your head or in the moment?  You'll know because if you're in your head, you're probably thinking about what's happening (or not happening), not engaging with what is happening.  For instance, when you're with other people, you'll be more aware of what you want to say next than what the other person is saying, or more aware of your thoughts about this person or situation than in what's happening.  

If you're in the moment, then see how the moment feels.  Are you comfortable or uncomfortable?   Spiritual teacher Eckhart Tolle offers three simple ways to get comfortable with the moment:  1) Accept it as it is--this is especially true if what is happening is not to your liking.  2) Enjoy the moment for whatever is pleasant within it.  3) Allow love and energy to flow and become truly enthusiastic for and with what is happening.  

The next time things aren't going the way you want, stop.  Stop everything.  Stop talking.  Stop taking action.  Stop judging.  Stop thinking.  Just stop everything (except breathing, of course).  In that instant, you will know your present energy state.  If you don't like how you feel and how you are in that moment, you can either decide to change or allow the endless possibilities that exist naturally in the field to take over and guide you.

Stay alert.  For in the end, it is not what happens to you, but THROUGH you.  If you stay alert, you'll see that something wonderful is always happening.

Love,
EL