Monday Blues

Dear Energy Lady,
I hate Mondays.  I mean HATE them.  I just don't want to get up and go to work.  My job's ok; it's just that it feels like I'm being punished for taking the weekend off, because Mondays are always filled with a gazillion emails and problems, and it seems like everyone is on edge. Got any tips?

Signed,
Wish it were Friday

Dear LCH,
How wonder-FULL!  You have a delicious, delightful, clear and unequivocal negative.  Those are rare in this world--most people are willing to be a little bit frustrated, a little unhappy and a little disappointed every day.  But not you.  Nope.  You HATE Mondays.   So let's play with that a bit.

--When you have a nice clear negative like this, be grateful for it.   It definitely points to a desire for the opposite--LOVING Mondays.   So what does that look like for you?  What would have to be true?

--Start by making a list of every single thing you hate about Mondays.  What would your day be like without these?  For instance, if you didn't have a single problem to solve, what would you be doing instead?  (You might actually be bored if you weren't dealing with problems, by the way)

--What would a perfect start to the week look, sound, and feel like?  Have you ever experienced such a beginning--even as a child?  

--What do you love about the other 6 days of the week?  Do none of these things exist on Mondays?

--What word, sound, image or aroma would give you the sense that Monday was going to be a good day?   Try starting this week with that, and see if everything doesn't change for the better.

If you're reading this and still feeling very negative about Mondays, you may not be ready for going at them from a positive standpoint.  So consider staying with the negatives for a while.  Consider:

--You may be someone who has a very sensitive energy field, and you easily pick up on the vibes other people are giving out.  Since, as everyone knows, people do tend to be more stressed on Mondays, it could be that you're more attuned to that than others are.  In other words, you're an energy sponge, picking up the energy sludge around you.  One of the things you can do to reduce the problem is to protect yourself is to imagine a bubble of pink light surrounding you everywhere you go at work.  As you imagine it,  make it impenetrable to everyone except the people or things that are compatible with its softness and smoothness.  That might not cut down on the number of problems or emails, but it's likely that their content, tone or size will change. Try it--this really works!

--Instead of feeling that you shouldn't hate Mondays, consider the relief (comic or otherwise) that you might feel simply by recognizing that you do, and that's just the way it is.  Anything you feel you "should" do/feel/think causes blocks in your energy field, and getting rid of them not only makes you feel better, it elevates the level of your vibrational field and allows better things to come to and through you.    So go ahead.  Hate Mondays.  Sit in a chair for 15 minutes and consciously, deliberately HATE them.  Changes are good that you won't be able to do this for more than about a minute or two, since the avoidance of pain is a primary human motivation.   You may find yourself laughing at the junk that's currently rolling around as your thoughts.  You may realize that you really do need a new job.  Or you may realize that you may be struggling with something medical (like depression) and need to talk to a professional.  Either way, you'll get a sense of what you can do to improve

--In the same vein, you may be thinking that you should love your job and be happy to return to it each week.  It's more likely that unless this is a new job, there are aspects of it you enjoy, and aspects of it you don't.  Take away the energetic barbed wire of feeling that you should be eager to race to the office on Mondays, and the relief you feel at losing the burden of that guilt will likely make it easier to go in to the office.

--Another way to move the energy is simply to isolate what you hate, and what you don't.  If you hate absolutely everything about your job, then obviously, it's time to start looking for another.  But if you only hate certain aspects, then let those only occupy the percentage of your thoughts that they deserve.  Often, that's under 20%.  But as I like to say to my coaching clients, if you hit your thumb with a hammer, the fact that your kidneys are working perfectly at that moment will not concern you. So sometimes, our tendency is to put too much attention on the few things that are bothering us, not the 80% of things that are going just fine, thanks.

--Finally, give yourself a "word of the week."  Set the tone for everything that is going to happen for you energetically during the week, regardless of which day it occurs.  Choose your focus, and you'll start finding evidence of it everywhere.  This is quantum science at its best-whatever we pay attention to expands.  And the more you put your attention on what you want, the more you withdraw it from what you don't, starving the latter of the energy it needs to stay in your field.    In other words, pay more attention to the positive, and you'll likely find there are far fewer negative things to be unhappy about.

Happy New Week!

Love,
EL