Dear Energy Lady,
How come some people have all the luck? I'm tired of watching everyone else win the lottery, get the guy or land the job.
Signed,
Luckless
Dear Luckness,
It's not luck. It's attention.
There is no difference between so- called "lucky" people and you. We are all energy, and we are all connected to the same source and field of potential. No one has access to anything you don't.
But there is probably one thing that the "lucky" people are doing that you're not. They pay attention. Often, what we're looking for is right in front of us, and we don't see it because we're either in our heads or expecting it to come in another form.
So my guess is that it's your thoughts that are getting in your way. But I'm not going to advise you to be more mindful, because it sounds like you're feeling low, and what you're likely to see will match that state of vibration, which won't please you.
Instead, let's approach this playfully. Start by putting a smile on your face. Then stand up, put your feet about hip's-width apart, and put your hands on your hips, like Wonder Woman. Keep that stance, and your happy grin, for about a minute. Have fun with it-it feels great!
Then as you go about your day, say ( out loud) "Whoooo hooooo!" Every time you walk into a room or find yourself in someplace new. Then just relax and let yourself enjoy whoever and whatever's there. Ignore the things that annoy you-focus on any person or element of the situation that feels good.
What you'll discover by doing this is that life has been providing you with all kinds of things and people that are right for you- you just didn't notice them. So once you get into the idea that what you want is right here, right now, you'll see that life is not a matter of "luck," but love. It's here for you in both visible and invisible forms. Expect the best, look for it, and accept it.
Enjoy!
Love,
EL
Welcome to Dear Energy Lady.com, an advice column for those who want life to be easier and more fun. Based on Energetic principles, the Energy Lady is here to teach you about aligning what you think, say and do with higher vibrational resources like intuition, energy bodies, and clairaudience, as well as release energy barriers to better health, happiness and success.
Saturday, January 11, 2014
Monday, January 6, 2014
Energizing weight loss for the new year
Dear Energy Lady,
I am determined to lose weight this year, and want to do everything I can to make it happen. What can help energize it, besides diet and exercise?
Signed,
Feeling Ready
Dear Ready,
You've already cleared a major hurdle energetically: you know what you want. Most people don't. We spend our days being a little uncertain, a little frustrated and a little disappointed, and all that does is keep us treading water. The universe can't respond to a weak signal.
But here's the trick: you don't want to lose weight. People don't like losing, and if you don't like something, you'll resist it, slowing the energy and making it even harder to do.
Instead, think of yourself as gaining a whole new level of health and happiness. So first, can you go beyond where you are now and the effort you'll be making to visualize the end result? In other words, don't create a gap between where you are now and where you want to be; take yourself into the future right now, as there is no time in the universal field. The future happens in the present moment.
Once you create a mental picture of the final outcome, allow yourself to simply feel good. Actually, make that feel GREAT. Feel great not because you reached a goal, because there was a "there" and how you're "here," but simply because you are living free of the trapped energy that extra weight represents. In other words, if the weight is literally and figuratively off your shoulders (and everywhere else on your body and your life), how do you feel? Don't focus on what you're now able to do: focus on how you ARE.
Now, once you feel great, expand it. Release the feeling--let it grow out and out and out until you can no longer tell where you leave off and it begins. Keep letting it expand until it goes beyond your house...your town...your state...your country...and even beyond the planet and the solar system. Just keep letting it go.
You may feel a sense of peace or bliss, or not. But in any case, what you're doing is releasing any limitations imposed by your own mind or experience and opening to all possibilities. You're also spreading your light so that anything or anyone that can help you can find you. So don't be surprised if you suddenly find yourself having happy coincidences that make the arrival of your new state of being easier and easier.
So eat well. Exercise. Work with your doctor or other professionals if you need to. But most of all, relax and get happy. And then set that happiness free, because if you do, it will come back to you in wonder-FULL ways that will make your goal-getting even easier.
Enjoy!
Love,
EL
I am determined to lose weight this year, and want to do everything I can to make it happen. What can help energize it, besides diet and exercise?
Signed,
Feeling Ready
Dear Ready,
You've already cleared a major hurdle energetically: you know what you want. Most people don't. We spend our days being a little uncertain, a little frustrated and a little disappointed, and all that does is keep us treading water. The universe can't respond to a weak signal.
But here's the trick: you don't want to lose weight. People don't like losing, and if you don't like something, you'll resist it, slowing the energy and making it even harder to do.
Instead, think of yourself as gaining a whole new level of health and happiness. So first, can you go beyond where you are now and the effort you'll be making to visualize the end result? In other words, don't create a gap between where you are now and where you want to be; take yourself into the future right now, as there is no time in the universal field. The future happens in the present moment.
Once you create a mental picture of the final outcome, allow yourself to simply feel good. Actually, make that feel GREAT. Feel great not because you reached a goal, because there was a "there" and how you're "here," but simply because you are living free of the trapped energy that extra weight represents. In other words, if the weight is literally and figuratively off your shoulders (and everywhere else on your body and your life), how do you feel? Don't focus on what you're now able to do: focus on how you ARE.
Now, once you feel great, expand it. Release the feeling--let it grow out and out and out until you can no longer tell where you leave off and it begins. Keep letting it expand until it goes beyond your house...your town...your state...your country...and even beyond the planet and the solar system. Just keep letting it go.
You may feel a sense of peace or bliss, or not. But in any case, what you're doing is releasing any limitations imposed by your own mind or experience and opening to all possibilities. You're also spreading your light so that anything or anyone that can help you can find you. So don't be surprised if you suddenly find yourself having happy coincidences that make the arrival of your new state of being easier and easier.
So eat well. Exercise. Work with your doctor or other professionals if you need to. But most of all, relax and get happy. And then set that happiness free, because if you do, it will come back to you in wonder-FULL ways that will make your goal-getting even easier.
Enjoy!
Love,
EL
Thursday, December 19, 2013
5 Ways to Raise Your Vibration at Work
Dear Energy Lady,
I try really hard to have a good attitude at work, but by mid-day, I find that I start to complain and focus on the negative. I know this is really bad for me vibrationally, and that it just makes things worse, but I don't know what to do about it. Any suggestions would be welcome.
Signed,
Slumped
Dear Slumped,
It's easy to get caught up in the negativity of work; remember when we talked about egregors--the collective thought forms that can create a dense vibrational field in an organization? But there are a few things you can do to stay in the flow, including:
--Catch yourself complaining, and then stop doing it. You don't have to be sunny and positive; just stop being negative. You'll feel immediate relief.
--Try "The Course in Miracles" approach of looking at something that's bothering you and saying, "I could see peace instead of this."
--Go to www.TED.com and look up Shawn Achor. In the funniest 12 minutes you'll spend today, he'll show you 5 things you can do to feel happy at work. And if nothing else, the fact that you're laughing as you watch it will raise your vibration
--Speaking of TED talks, since you said your slump is mid-day, consider watching one as you eat your lunch (if you eat at your desk). Most are 18-20 minutes, and there are thousands of choices that will inspire, uplift or entertain you. It's a great way to shift your perspective and lighten up.
--Take a walk--preferably outside, and preferably in nature if there is a park nearby.
--Meditate for 15 minutes if that is possible, or simply close your eyes and breathe for 2 or 3 minutes
--Find a reason to smile. Doing so immediately brightens your radiance.
--Go spend a few minutes with someone you enjoy. No complaining--just laughing!
Before you do anything of these things, set an intention of how you would like to feel, and then let it go. You'll likely find that this sequence--intention; letting go; action--will help you feel lighter, brighter, more alert and ready to flow into the afternoon.
Love,
EL
I try really hard to have a good attitude at work, but by mid-day, I find that I start to complain and focus on the negative. I know this is really bad for me vibrationally, and that it just makes things worse, but I don't know what to do about it. Any suggestions would be welcome.
Signed,
Slumped
Dear Slumped,
It's easy to get caught up in the negativity of work; remember when we talked about egregors--the collective thought forms that can create a dense vibrational field in an organization? But there are a few things you can do to stay in the flow, including:
--Catch yourself complaining, and then stop doing it. You don't have to be sunny and positive; just stop being negative. You'll feel immediate relief.
--Try "The Course in Miracles" approach of looking at something that's bothering you and saying, "I could see peace instead of this."
--Go to www.TED.com and look up Shawn Achor. In the funniest 12 minutes you'll spend today, he'll show you 5 things you can do to feel happy at work. And if nothing else, the fact that you're laughing as you watch it will raise your vibration
--Speaking of TED talks, since you said your slump is mid-day, consider watching one as you eat your lunch (if you eat at your desk). Most are 18-20 minutes, and there are thousands of choices that will inspire, uplift or entertain you. It's a great way to shift your perspective and lighten up.
--Take a walk--preferably outside, and preferably in nature if there is a park nearby.
--Meditate for 15 minutes if that is possible, or simply close your eyes and breathe for 2 or 3 minutes
--Find a reason to smile. Doing so immediately brightens your radiance.
--Go spend a few minutes with someone you enjoy. No complaining--just laughing!
Before you do anything of these things, set an intention of how you would like to feel, and then let it go. You'll likely find that this sequence--intention; letting go; action--will help you feel lighter, brighter, more alert and ready to flow into the afternoon.
Love,
EL
Sunday, December 8, 2013
A new beginning
Dear Energy Lady,
As the end of the year approaches, I'm starting to think about the new year. I really want to make a fresh start in a couple of areas in my life. How do I avoid dragging the energy of my mistakes and regrets with me so I can have the best possible results?
Signed,
Ready and Willing
Dear Ready,
First, let me salute you for recognizing that change works best from the inside out, not the outside in. Most people think that if they just change their circumstances, everything will be better. But what happens is that they just get more of what they had; just in a different place and with different people. In fact, much of the time, things get worse, because whatever they didn't change in the old place intensifies in the new after having been repressed, where the energy just grows stronger and more powerful.
There are many wonderful methods for clearing stuck energy. The Sedona Method (www.sedonamethod.com) is one of my personal favorites, as is the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT)--check out Nick Ortner's books and website. Byron Katie's "The Work" (www.thework.com) is also terrific, and you can work with a facilitator seeking certification at no charge. Another wonderful resource is Carolyn Myss's "Sacred Contracts," which will give you a better idea of why you're facing the challenges you are by looking at the Archtypes you're trying to resolve in this lifetime.
Other ways to clear stuck energy include prayer, meditation and forgiveness work. Counseling can also help. Or you can simply get quiet and listen as, one by one, the old beliefs will undoubtedly come up in your head. If you can just sit with them without judgement, you may find that they may dissipate.
The next step is in looking at why you want a "fresh start." If you're trying to escape anything, it will follow you energetically. But if you've done the clearing and are truly ready to move on to something new, then the idea would be to ramp up your vibrational field as high as you possibly can so you can create and attract the best possible circumstances.
And the highest possible vibration is peace, which is a higher frequency than either joy or love. And fortunately, we're in the season of peace, and, if you're in the Northern Hemisphere, we are in winter, a good time for slowing down and stillness.
So what you want to do is seek peace in all areas of your life. First, you have to know what peace feels like, so sit down, close your eyes, and try to remember a time when you were truly, deeply peaceful. Feel it as fully as you possibly can, and see where it resonates for you in your body (for many, it's either the stomach or the heart area, but you may find otherwise). Know what it feels like so you will know when you have it, and when you don't.
Then remember that your body is an accurate barometer of how you're vibrating. And your vibration is created by your thoughts. Every thought triggers an emotion, which triggers a vibrational response. So what you want is to keep your vibration at peace as much as possible. Doing so will keep you unblocked, which will allow the best possible circumstances to reach you. It will also keep you aligned with your ideals, including your desire for a fresh start.
Fortunately, there is peace everywhere in this season. Feel the peace of sacred holiday music. If you're in the Northern Hemisphere, feel the silence in a soft snowfall when the world temporarily comes to a standstill. Read books that make you feel peaceful--Daniel Ladinsky's works on Hafiz are wonderful, as are Eckhart Tolle's and Thich Nhat Hanh's.
If you're dealing with problems at work, remember the line in the Course in Miracles, "I could see peace instead of this." Then do it. Shift your perspective, and you'll feel your vibration shift with it.
Stay in the moment as much as you can. Wherever you are is the right place to be.
Wish for peace and happiness for yourself and others in the new year. Say it out loud; doing so creates it on the quantum plane.
And remember to smile. That alone raises your vibration substantially.
Enjoy! And please write again and let me know how you're doing.
Love,
EL
As the end of the year approaches, I'm starting to think about the new year. I really want to make a fresh start in a couple of areas in my life. How do I avoid dragging the energy of my mistakes and regrets with me so I can have the best possible results?
Signed,
Ready and Willing
Dear Ready,
First, let me salute you for recognizing that change works best from the inside out, not the outside in. Most people think that if they just change their circumstances, everything will be better. But what happens is that they just get more of what they had; just in a different place and with different people. In fact, much of the time, things get worse, because whatever they didn't change in the old place intensifies in the new after having been repressed, where the energy just grows stronger and more powerful.
There are many wonderful methods for clearing stuck energy. The Sedona Method (www.sedonamethod.com) is one of my personal favorites, as is the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT)--check out Nick Ortner's books and website. Byron Katie's "The Work" (www.thework.com) is also terrific, and you can work with a facilitator seeking certification at no charge. Another wonderful resource is Carolyn Myss's "Sacred Contracts," which will give you a better idea of why you're facing the challenges you are by looking at the Archtypes you're trying to resolve in this lifetime.
Other ways to clear stuck energy include prayer, meditation and forgiveness work. Counseling can also help. Or you can simply get quiet and listen as, one by one, the old beliefs will undoubtedly come up in your head. If you can just sit with them without judgement, you may find that they may dissipate.
The next step is in looking at why you want a "fresh start." If you're trying to escape anything, it will follow you energetically. But if you've done the clearing and are truly ready to move on to something new, then the idea would be to ramp up your vibrational field as high as you possibly can so you can create and attract the best possible circumstances.
And the highest possible vibration is peace, which is a higher frequency than either joy or love. And fortunately, we're in the season of peace, and, if you're in the Northern Hemisphere, we are in winter, a good time for slowing down and stillness.
So what you want to do is seek peace in all areas of your life. First, you have to know what peace feels like, so sit down, close your eyes, and try to remember a time when you were truly, deeply peaceful. Feel it as fully as you possibly can, and see where it resonates for you in your body (for many, it's either the stomach or the heart area, but you may find otherwise). Know what it feels like so you will know when you have it, and when you don't.
Then remember that your body is an accurate barometer of how you're vibrating. And your vibration is created by your thoughts. Every thought triggers an emotion, which triggers a vibrational response. So what you want is to keep your vibration at peace as much as possible. Doing so will keep you unblocked, which will allow the best possible circumstances to reach you. It will also keep you aligned with your ideals, including your desire for a fresh start.
Fortunately, there is peace everywhere in this season. Feel the peace of sacred holiday music. If you're in the Northern Hemisphere, feel the silence in a soft snowfall when the world temporarily comes to a standstill. Read books that make you feel peaceful--Daniel Ladinsky's works on Hafiz are wonderful, as are Eckhart Tolle's and Thich Nhat Hanh's.
If you're dealing with problems at work, remember the line in the Course in Miracles, "I could see peace instead of this." Then do it. Shift your perspective, and you'll feel your vibration shift with it.
Stay in the moment as much as you can. Wherever you are is the right place to be.
Wish for peace and happiness for yourself and others in the new year. Say it out loud; doing so creates it on the quantum plane.
And remember to smile. That alone raises your vibration substantially.
Enjoy! And please write again and let me know how you're doing.
Love,
EL
Wednesday, November 27, 2013
Thanks for Giving the Universe its Energy
Dear Energy Lady,
Tomorrow is Thanksgiving in the U.S., and I've been reading all kinds of things about why you should or shouldn't eat turkey, how to cope with your relatives, and when to start shopping. It seems like what used to be a simple, fun holiday is now complicated with a lot of political and social decisions. What does all this do to my energy?
Signed,
Feast or Famine?
Dear FF,
It is interesting to see what has happened to Thanksgiving. As you say, there are those who argue that the traditional dinner is no longer a feast, but an exercise in gluttony; or that it is necessary to avoid turkey to be sustainably correct. Still others insist that it is a day for finding bargains, while others declare that shopping should be avoided at all costs so you can focus on family.
Energetically, these are simply points of focus. They mean nothing in and of themselves. What does impact your energy, though, is how you feel about them. If a particular point of view annoys or upsets you, it adds density and static to your energy field. And if it generates a lot of negative thought, then you will also experience the corresponding negative emotion. Those emotions are creative, and will likely cause you to experience connections to events and people that will not be to your liking.
So if that's not your intention or desire, then don't take the bait. Let the arguments swirl about you without getting attached to them. Instead, set your intention that Thanksgiving will be joyful for you. Then simply smile and breathe, and either enjoy or be amused at everything that happens.
Regardless of your choice of attitude or action for the day, don't get too seriously about it. Just lighten up, relax and be open to whatever gifts the day holds.
Remember this: When you give thanks for everything that happens, you create a blessing, and you give the universe positive energy. Eventually, that will come back to you in one way or another.
So Happy Thanksgiving! I hope the holiday is rich with life and love for you.
Love,
EL
Tomorrow is Thanksgiving in the U.S., and I've been reading all kinds of things about why you should or shouldn't eat turkey, how to cope with your relatives, and when to start shopping. It seems like what used to be a simple, fun holiday is now complicated with a lot of political and social decisions. What does all this do to my energy?
Signed,
Feast or Famine?
Dear FF,
It is interesting to see what has happened to Thanksgiving. As you say, there are those who argue that the traditional dinner is no longer a feast, but an exercise in gluttony; or that it is necessary to avoid turkey to be sustainably correct. Still others insist that it is a day for finding bargains, while others declare that shopping should be avoided at all costs so you can focus on family.
Energetically, these are simply points of focus. They mean nothing in and of themselves. What does impact your energy, though, is how you feel about them. If a particular point of view annoys or upsets you, it adds density and static to your energy field. And if it generates a lot of negative thought, then you will also experience the corresponding negative emotion. Those emotions are creative, and will likely cause you to experience connections to events and people that will not be to your liking.
So if that's not your intention or desire, then don't take the bait. Let the arguments swirl about you without getting attached to them. Instead, set your intention that Thanksgiving will be joyful for you. Then simply smile and breathe, and either enjoy or be amused at everything that happens.
Regardless of your choice of attitude or action for the day, don't get too seriously about it. Just lighten up, relax and be open to whatever gifts the day holds.
Remember this: When you give thanks for everything that happens, you create a blessing, and you give the universe positive energy. Eventually, that will come back to you in one way or another.
So Happy Thanksgiving! I hope the holiday is rich with life and love for you.
Love,
EL
Tuesday, November 19, 2013
Hard-wired for pain?
Hi Energy Lady,
I have a question: is it possible to be hard-wired for pain? I really, really, really try to be positive, but no matter what I do, it seems like I flip right back into painful, negative thinking that makes me feel awful and results in experiences I don't want. I'll take any suggestions you have.
Signed,
Would like to be pain-free
Dear Free,
Actually, it is possible to be hard-wired for pain. The science of neural plasticity talks about the fact that neurons that fire together, wire together. What that means is that once you've had a trauma of any kind and you keep replaying it over and over in your mind, neurons connect and "wire" together. So as you say, you can try to be positive, but that's like putting frosting on a brick. The first lick might taste good, but when you bite into it...ouch!
So what can you do? It's possible to have an enlightenment experience similar to what happened to Eckhart Tolle; one day, deep in depressive thought, he said, "I can't live with myself any more." What happened next surprised him; he fell into a deeply meditative state, and when he came out of it, he could see the radiant energy fields of everything and everyone around him. Very nice, but not an experience you can willingly duplicate.
Rather than try to unwire the pain, try rewiring some new experiences that feel good. This is not positive thinking, which has a heavy downside, as each "high" state contains its polar opposite for balance. Instead, think of a pleasantly happy, peaceful state. Something you might call relaxed or "chill."
The way to start this is simply to affirm, "I choose happiness." Then just relax, smile and breathe. Don't try to define happiness--that will likely start bringing up all kinds of thoughts and reasons why you can't have it. Just stay generally in the "happiness" realm for a while. Hum or sing. Keep smiling. No need to build yourself up; just be with a not-negative state of mind and being.
The other thing you can do is when the painful, negative thinking comes up, pretend it's a character on a TV show you're watching. That will separate it from you, and make it a little cartoonish--kind of like watching "reality" TV. As long as it is separate from you, its vibrations aren't as hurtful.
This said, and you know that I'm not a medical professional of any kind and make no medical claims for any of what is said in this blog; if you think you might need medical help, seek it. There are wonderful doctors and counselors in the world who are dedicated to helping people with conditions similar to yours. There is qualified medical help, and it's widely available, even if your funds are limited or non-existent.
Know this: there is great love in multiple dimensions for you. Embrace it.
Love,
EL
I have a question: is it possible to be hard-wired for pain? I really, really, really try to be positive, but no matter what I do, it seems like I flip right back into painful, negative thinking that makes me feel awful and results in experiences I don't want. I'll take any suggestions you have.
Signed,
Would like to be pain-free
Dear Free,
Actually, it is possible to be hard-wired for pain. The science of neural plasticity talks about the fact that neurons that fire together, wire together. What that means is that once you've had a trauma of any kind and you keep replaying it over and over in your mind, neurons connect and "wire" together. So as you say, you can try to be positive, but that's like putting frosting on a brick. The first lick might taste good, but when you bite into it...ouch!
So what can you do? It's possible to have an enlightenment experience similar to what happened to Eckhart Tolle; one day, deep in depressive thought, he said, "I can't live with myself any more." What happened next surprised him; he fell into a deeply meditative state, and when he came out of it, he could see the radiant energy fields of everything and everyone around him. Very nice, but not an experience you can willingly duplicate.
Rather than try to unwire the pain, try rewiring some new experiences that feel good. This is not positive thinking, which has a heavy downside, as each "high" state contains its polar opposite for balance. Instead, think of a pleasantly happy, peaceful state. Something you might call relaxed or "chill."
The way to start this is simply to affirm, "I choose happiness." Then just relax, smile and breathe. Don't try to define happiness--that will likely start bringing up all kinds of thoughts and reasons why you can't have it. Just stay generally in the "happiness" realm for a while. Hum or sing. Keep smiling. No need to build yourself up; just be with a not-negative state of mind and being.
The other thing you can do is when the painful, negative thinking comes up, pretend it's a character on a TV show you're watching. That will separate it from you, and make it a little cartoonish--kind of like watching "reality" TV. As long as it is separate from you, its vibrations aren't as hurtful.
This said, and you know that I'm not a medical professional of any kind and make no medical claims for any of what is said in this blog; if you think you might need medical help, seek it. There are wonderful doctors and counselors in the world who are dedicated to helping people with conditions similar to yours. There is qualified medical help, and it's widely available, even if your funds are limited or non-existent.
Know this: there is great love in multiple dimensions for you. Embrace it.
Love,
EL
Sunday, November 3, 2013
I want more respect!
Dear Energy Lady,
I hate the way I'm treated at work. No one respects me. My boss won't give me any opportunity to advance, and I get cut out of key meetings. At this rate, I'll never get a raise or get what I want in life. What should I do?
Signed,
Overlooked
Dear Overlooked,
I could tell you that your boss is a jerk or that life's unfair, but from an energy perspective, that's not what's happening here.
You asked the question, "What should I do?" In energy work, it's not what you do, it's what you are. So the correct question is, "How can I BE to get the respect I want?"
First, you need to define what you mean by respect. If you're trying to control other peoples' behavior, that's force, not energetic power, and it will backfire on you. Trying to force anything basically says to the universe that your energy is NOT a match to it, which is why you have to manipulate it verbally or physically. Even if it works in the short run (you get people to say "good morning!" to you, for example), in the long run, it's exhausting for you to keep up, and the response you're looking for disappears.
But if what you mean by respect is a feeling of peace, safety, trust and belonging, then start questioning your thoughts and beliefs. For instance, if you get don't get invited to a meeting, stop interpreting what that means and just take it at face value. Everything has the meaning we give it, so if the meaning you're giving it is making you unhappy and lowering your vibration, stop it. Either don't give it any meaning at all, or give it an alternative meaning, like, "they're meeting so they can plan how to include me in the next big project." (But if you don't believe the latter, don't try to "think positive," as it will only backfire energetically.)
In other words, start respecting yourself by refusing to harbor and intensify hurtful thoughts about yourself. And if you want an opportunity to advance, stop waiting for someone else to give it to you. If it doesn't exist at your present company, just say to the Universe, "I'm ready to work in a place where I bring tremendous value and I'm respected for my contribution to the success of the organization." Then keep your eyes and ears--and higher self--open to signals of where you might go or what else you might do.
In other words, no one is responsible for your low vibrations but you. And if thinking of work just makes you more miserable, spend more time taking care of yourself in other ways. If you want to feel good, start by doing things and thinking thoughts that make you feel good. That alone may be enough to start changing your circumstances for the better.
And one more thing. If you want to get respect, you have to give it. So make sure that in your quest to be seen, you also see the needs and hopes of others. Respect those, contribute to those, and you might be surprised by the progress you make.
Good luck!
Love,
EL
I hate the way I'm treated at work. No one respects me. My boss won't give me any opportunity to advance, and I get cut out of key meetings. At this rate, I'll never get a raise or get what I want in life. What should I do?
Signed,
Overlooked
Dear Overlooked,
I could tell you that your boss is a jerk or that life's unfair, but from an energy perspective, that's not what's happening here.
You asked the question, "What should I do?" In energy work, it's not what you do, it's what you are. So the correct question is, "How can I BE to get the respect I want?"
First, you need to define what you mean by respect. If you're trying to control other peoples' behavior, that's force, not energetic power, and it will backfire on you. Trying to force anything basically says to the universe that your energy is NOT a match to it, which is why you have to manipulate it verbally or physically. Even if it works in the short run (you get people to say "good morning!" to you, for example), in the long run, it's exhausting for you to keep up, and the response you're looking for disappears.
But if what you mean by respect is a feeling of peace, safety, trust and belonging, then start questioning your thoughts and beliefs. For instance, if you get don't get invited to a meeting, stop interpreting what that means and just take it at face value. Everything has the meaning we give it, so if the meaning you're giving it is making you unhappy and lowering your vibration, stop it. Either don't give it any meaning at all, or give it an alternative meaning, like, "they're meeting so they can plan how to include me in the next big project." (But if you don't believe the latter, don't try to "think positive," as it will only backfire energetically.)
In other words, start respecting yourself by refusing to harbor and intensify hurtful thoughts about yourself. And if you want an opportunity to advance, stop waiting for someone else to give it to you. If it doesn't exist at your present company, just say to the Universe, "I'm ready to work in a place where I bring tremendous value and I'm respected for my contribution to the success of the organization." Then keep your eyes and ears--and higher self--open to signals of where you might go or what else you might do.
In other words, no one is responsible for your low vibrations but you. And if thinking of work just makes you more miserable, spend more time taking care of yourself in other ways. If you want to feel good, start by doing things and thinking thoughts that make you feel good. That alone may be enough to start changing your circumstances for the better.
And one more thing. If you want to get respect, you have to give it. So make sure that in your quest to be seen, you also see the needs and hopes of others. Respect those, contribute to those, and you might be surprised by the progress you make.
Good luck!
Love,
EL
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